Alexandra NielDivorce Recovery Coach, ANiel International, LLC. · I help women who held it all together through divorce finally build a life that’s actually theirs | Thrive After Divorce

Self Love Is Not Selfish | How She Reclaimed Her Voice After Divorce

21 May 2025 · 1 min

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In this personal testimony, the speaker recounts a pivotal moment when a presenter told the audience that self‑care and self‑love are not selfish. The remark struck a chord, prompting the speaker to recognize her own neglect of self‑prioritization. Grateful for the wake‑up call, she attended subsequent events, which inspired her to pursue a coaching career focused on helping other women—especially those emerging from divorce—reclaim their voice, recognize their inherent worth, and prioritize their needs without guilt. The narrative emphasizes the transformative power of self‑love, the shift from self‑neglect to empowerment, and the commitment to guide others toward the same realization.

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And one of the first things he said was, he looked in the camera and he said, self-care and self-love is not selfish. You have to prioritize yourself. And I was not doing that at all. Never in my entire life was I doing that. And I looked up, I said, thank you, God, for pushing me and hitting me over the head to make me get on this event. And then that led me to another event And that is when I was like, huh, I think I want to go into this coaching business because I really want to help women like me know that we have so much within us. We have a voice. We're important. We're worthy. We need to prioritize our needs and our wants, and it's not selfish. It's not.