Alexandra NielDivorce Recovery Coach, ANiel International, LLC. · I help women who held it all together through divorce finally build a life that’s actually theirs | Thrive After Divorce

Stuck in a Rut After Divorce? Why Slowing Down Gets You Unstuck

19 Sept 2025 · 0 min

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Alexandra Niel explores why people get stuck after divorce and how slowing down helps you escape. Using a driving metaphor, she explains that flooring the accelerator when you're lost only digs you deeper. Pausing gives you space to reorient.

I feel like we get in ruts, right? And once we're in that rut, coming out of that is— can be very, very difficult. But I love what you said about it's kind of like pause and take your foot off the gas. The image that just came to my mind was you're driving around and you're lost, but you're like full speed on the accelerator, but you don't know where you're going. So you're like on the road to nowhere.