The Mindset Shift That Can Help You Heal After Divorce

The most powerful thing I did for myself in the midst of it all was to recognize— and this comes with the, the ability to be aware of things— and I started to— where was my, um, part in this? What, what had, what had I contributed to the demise? How did my actions or inactions make this come about? Like, how did we get to this place? He told me he was with this other person because she was a good person. And that just made me feel like, well, that implies you're not a good person. And I, I was just like thrown by that. And I thought, you know, and then to be diagnosed with triple negative breast cancer right on the heels of that made me think like I'm not a good person. I wasn't being a good person to myself. That's really the bottom line. So that was my biggest my biggest starting point was taking not out of my vocabulary and realizing when that negative feeling was, you know, present within me, that I had the power to, and the antidote to switch it over.