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The Silent Treatment Doesn't Work #shorts

29 Jul 2024 · 1 min

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In this short monologue, the speaker recounts using the silent treatment with a former husband, describing how it caused frustration for both partners and prevented honest expression of feelings, needs, and fears. She contrasts that past dynamic with her current relationship, where open, transparent communication and a mutual sense of safety have transformed how they handle conflicts. Emphasizing that they don’t take things personally and trust each other's best intentions, she urges viewers to examine their own communication habits and consider making adjustments to foster healthier interactions.

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I used to give my former husband the silent treatment, and if I'm being honest, it was frustrating for both of us. Frustrating for him because he didn't know how to engage, and that only drove us further apart, but also for me because I wasn't communicating my feelings, my needs, my wants effectively, and I was also fearful of being either dismissed or diminished. In my new relationship, it's been a complete game changer because we talk about everything and anything, but that's only because we've created a space for each other where we can show up and be open, be transparent. We don't take things personally. We know we have each other's best interest at heart, and we're not afraid that our words are going to be used against us. So your mission this week, should you choose to accept it, is to go back and take a look at your own communication style and see where maybe you might be able to tweak some things.