Divorce doesn't have to define you. The speaker argues that shame and guilt around it are socially constructed, and you can choose to learn from it instead, the way you would any other life event. It's about agency: victim mindset or growth.
this divorce is an opportunity for— it's a choice, right? We can choose to let it define us in a positive way, or we can choose to let it define us in a negative way. We can choose to live with the shame and the guilt and all of that, which is all a construct, right? There's like nothing there to be— to feel guilty or be ashamed about. Or we can choose to say, okay, what was I supposed to learn from this? Just like any other experience in our life. It is there to be a lesson.
