After divorce, people often skip grief and jump straight to new goals. But grief takes time to process, and the real priority is getting yourself emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically stable before chasing anything else.
There is one thing that I think is missing when we talk about setting goals, especially when we talk about setting goals after a divorce. And before I go into what that is, I just want to share the other day I was listening to a podcast and the lady on the podcast was saying that in our lifetime we are going to experience approximately 40 instances or moments of grief. And every time we go through those moments of of grief and those moments where things aren't what we expected them to be, we need to give ourselves the time to digest and to process. And right now, if you've just come out of a divorce, maybe there's only one goal you need to keep in mind, and that is: How do I get myself in the best shape emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically?
