Alexandra NielDivorce Recovery Coach, ANiel International, LLC. · I help women who held it all together through divorce finally build a life that’s actually theirs | Thrive After Divorce

Your Only Goal After Divorce? Heal Yourself to Rebuild Your Life on a Solid Foundation

31 Dec 2024 · 1 min

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In this segment, the speaker advises anyone who has recently gone through a divorce to prioritize healing across four dimensions—emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical—before pursuing any other objectives. She argues that setting new goals while still harboring hurt, resentment, or other negative emotions creates an unstable foundation, likening it to building a house on sand, which will ultimately lead to failure. The core message is that true progress after divorce depends on first achieving personal well‑being and stability.

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And right now, if you've just come out of a divorce, maybe there's only one goal you need to keep in mind, and that is: How do I get myself in the best shape emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically? Because setting goals on a foundation of hurt, resentment, any negative emotion that you might have brewing is not gonna be a positive outcome. Setting goals based on those negative emotions is like building a house on a foundation of sand.