Find More Joy For the Journey

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We've all gone through so many hard times. It's just been, oof, one thing after another, the uncertainty. The fear, the pain. I had just gotten back from Texas and I was really just so focused on the hustle, on work, and, you know, blessed to have so much work, but I'd gotten home from a trip from Texas. I was really busy taking care of other people and everybody else and not me so much. And I started to let some things slip, like my healthy habits, like making sure I got my workout every day, you know, oh, just missed that one day. Oh, missed another day. Has that ever happened to you where you're like, oh, I'll just let it slide today. Um, I started missing some meetings and was dealing with a lot of family stuff. I just had a really difficult conversation with my brother who sits on death row with his attorney who were trying to appeal, um, you know, his death row sentence, all kinds of heavy stuff, you know, on top of everything going on in the world. And I think because I wasn't really focusing on the basics, like making sure I was sleeping enough, eating the right things, getting to enough meetings, reaching out for help, all the things that I know I'm supposed to do, I'd started to let them slip a little bit. And so I slipped. You know, I didn't even think about it. I took a pill, I took a pain pill. And I immediately felt shame, because I knew I'd lost my sobriety. But luckily, I had enough recovery in me to Tell my sponsor right away. I took a pill not for the right reason. I took a pill to escape my thoughts. I just wanted them to stop instead of you know I was sucking it down, sucking it up, and let me tell you, suck it up doesn't work. It only gets you so far. We pain demands to be heard, and if we don't allow our feelings to come up and rise to the surface, and we don't start to deal with it, it will come out and it'll affect us. our health, maybe your sobriety. It will come out in everything you do, the way you love, the way you lead, your relationships, your work, everything. And so that scared me a lot. And luckily I have a healthy respect, a healthy fear for pills. And I knew I had to get really honest. And this is something I haven't talked about a lot on The podcast is this experience, this whole last year for me in recovery. Um, God willing, I'll get to celebrate 1 year of sobriety. But I'll tell you, it was hard. It was so hard to have to go in and admit that I messed up, that I failed, um, that I let my sponsor— I felt like I let my sponsor down. I felt like I left my sober sisters down. And, um, it was heavy. But when we shine a light on the shame, Then shame can't exist. And so I've done a lot of work in this past year, and I'll tell you, it hadn't been easy. I'm going to say, I feel like this last year of sobriety was harder than even my very first year of sobriety. And what I've done is hired a therapist to talk things out. Um, I created, you know, a group of women I call the Legendary Women. Uh, it's a group of badass women that are entrepreneurs where we can talk things out. And I started to change my habits. And so if you want more joy in your life, if you're ready to really live a full life of happiness, I'm not going to say it's easy all the time, but I'm going to say that these are the things that I've done to really bring joy back into my life, to, um, keep me sober, And I'm hoping this helps you. So first of all, again, suck it up doesn't work. Like, if you are somebody who is kind of like me and you're good at the grit and it's sometimes hard to ask for help, ask for help. Reach out to somebody, whether you're going to reach out to me, you can shoot me a text. And I mean it, I'm serious. It might take a couple of days for me to get back because I read every single text message. Shoot me a text at 818-214-7378 if you, you know, need— if you just want to reach out and share what you're going through. It helps when you can connect with someone, whether that's a therapist. I know for a long time I couldn't afford a therapist, and so I sought, you know, free therapy groups online. When I first moved to Texas, I knew right away, I was like, okay, I gotta find my sober community, I have to find my female entrepreneurs, and I need to find a church. And so I had a church set up to go to before I even moved to Texas. And the good thing about church is, you know, they have groups that are support groups for couples, support groups for singles, support groups for entrepreneurs. My church does anyway. So find a church that really fits in with you. I love my church because, um, it's very faith-based, but it's also fitness, finance, And, you know, entrepreneurship. And so I love that it, it talks about all the things and faith. Um, and get out of comparison. So I was kind of getting stuck in comparison, like, oh, I'm a newcomer now. I only have a day of sobriety. I only have 2 days of sobriety or 3 days. I was like really getting sucked into comparison. And it's also easy to get sucked into comparison. When we have this social media and everybody's posting their highlight reels and, and yes, the thief of joy is comparison, but here's some ways you can shift that. Like, if you get discouraged because others have more, don't be discouraged by that. Be inspired by that. That's a sign of all the possibilities. I know for me, one of the things that keeps me coming back to meetings is I look at like friends that have years of sobriety. Um, if you heard the podcast with Charlie Engel a couple of episodes ago, you'll know, or if you saw me on social media, we just did a live on social media celebrating his 30 years of sobriety. To me, I'm inspired by that. So instead of comparing that, I look at that as that's what's possible for me. Um, celebrate others' wins, like celebrate your friends that are getting booked for big speaking gigs. Celebrate other people's wins when they launched a course and they sold it out. Celebrate your, your moms that have 5 kids and they're, you know, doing all the laundry and cleaning the house and they're working a job. Like, that shows you what is possible. And also, don't ever assume people didn't work or struggle for their success. I guarantee you, people out there that have massive success, doesn't matter what level of success, there are always, with every level, there's new devils. And there are people that have had just as many struggles or more, you know, just a lot of struggles. So don't ever assume that people don't, they're not working hard. Like a lot of times we don't see what goes on behind the scenes. You know, it's easy when we see somebody that's like, oh, I have a bestselling book. Like we didn't see the, the 2 years, excuse me, the 2 years that it took to write the book or the publishing process and the back and the forth edits or how, you know, how long it took to get booked on the podcast to promote that book. Or even for this podcast, you maybe if you have a podcast, you realize this, but just the amount of effort that goes into every podcast production. Oh my goodness. You know, I love this podcast. If you knew how many hours it takes just to give you one episode per week. And, and so yes, I love it. And that's why every single week I give you a new episode. So less time comparing and more time focusing on your big dreams and the possibilities and manifesting and visualizing what is possible for you. Another thing that I've done is I've had to cut out distractions. Because let me tell you, with all the alerts and notifications and between, you know, Instagram messages, posting, Facebook pings, DMs, gosh, emails, my 14-year-old pacing outside the door wanting me to take her to the pet store, my husband asking if I want to go to the movies when I'm like in the middle of a Zoom session. And I love them both. But it's like, it's sometimes hard when you work from home, and you're super focused on what you need to get done. So really, what I do to cut out distractions is the most important thing that I need to do for the day, like the things that are like, I have to get these things done. I do them first thing in the morning before anybody wakes up before I'm distracted. And I think it's so important to have a morning routine. So for me, and I think you have to find what works for you. But my day is completely different when I have a morning routine. And I'd be— I'm always curious to see what morning routine works for you. So if you have a morning routine that you're like, this routine has changed my life, please let me know. I would love— because I think we're always growing and evolving. And I think that it's always possible to add things in or take things out. Now, my Like, best morning routine is if I have an hour to myself. Now, I know that's not always possible for everybody. Like, sometimes it's 10 minutes for myself, but I always have timed myself to, first of all, just have quiet time and listen to my own thoughts, what my intentions are. I pray and I journal and I write down thoughts, emotions that are coming into my head, and I also write down big ideas. sparks of creativity, I write it down. Then I have a gratitude practice and I say practice because I'm not perfect at it. But I think that when we focus on gratitude, it really does shift our perspective. And so it's one thing to think about what you're grateful for. It's another thing to write it down. But when you share that gratitude, oh, it's magical. Um, I have a group of gals, we call ourselves the God Squad, and I actually use an app. It's actually a sobriety app, but you don't have to be sober to use it. I think it's called My Spiritual Toolbox. Let me look at that for you now. It's about, I think it's like $1.99 a month. I'm not exactly sure. I'm not like, they're not sponsoring the podcast or anything like that, but it's something I use every day and I love that it gives you tools and the tools are a gratitude list where you can actually write out 10 things you're grateful for. And then you can share that through a text message with your friends. It also gives you, you know, you can do a nightly inventory and just kind of calculate like what you did great in the day, what, what are some of the things that you want to work on it, there's a journal. So if you are traveling, it has an area for you to write down, you know, things that you want to journal right there on your phone. And also has— I like to read every day, that's part of what I do in the morning. And even if it's just one passage in a spiritual book, or Like a daily ritual book that I have. I like to read and, and I do all these things before I open up my phone, before I look through social media, before I return emails. Because if you wake up and you immediately grab your phone and you're checking emails or text messages, or you're scrolling through social media, you've got no control over your day. Everybody's pulling at you. But when you wake up and you focus on what your intentions are, what you're grateful for, you say a prayer, you get your mindset right for the day, then you can go in feeling grounded, feeling grateful, feeling great, feeling joy to be alive and be in for the day ahead. And so I really encourage you to try a morning ritual that works for you. Now, I think One of the things that really got me feeling down that led me to, you know, losing my sobriety was number one, not going to enough meetings, but number two, it was because if I don't move my body, then it does affect me. Like it affects the way that I feel. And so that has become really a non-negotiable for me to move my body. Now I've had people, a lot of people ask me through DMs on Instagram. Um, because I post a lot of my workouts on Instagram and they will say, I don't understand, you've got CRPS, how do you work out? Or how do you move your body? Or how do you exercise? How do you have the energy? And I will tell you, there are days that I don't feel like working out. A lot of days I don't feel like working out. And I know my Instagram is Amberly Lago Motivation, but I'm not always motivated. I don't think we need to rely on our motivation. I think we need to rely on our healthy habits. And so if we develop this habit of putting our gym clothes on, getting to the gym, or maybe you don't have a gym membership, put on your gym clothes, go for a walk. Maybe you can't get out of your hospital bed. I know I couldn't for a long time. I had 3-pound dumbbells. I had a pull-up bar installed over my hospital bed. Start where you are, use what you have, and do what you can. And I promise you, I promise you, if you move your body every day, and it doesn't have to be for an hour, it can be for 10, it can be, you can snack on exercise, do 5 minutes here, do a minute here, do another 2 minutes here, do 10 minutes. I used to think that you had to do like a whole hour, like I had to run every day, I had to lift really heavy weights. It's not true. I just have to move my body. I usually, there are a lot of days when I have 20 minutes to move my body. There are days when I go pull up to the gym and I sit in my car and I start throwing, scrolling through Instagram instead of walking to the gym. And I've learned to talk to myself instead of listening to myself. Because if I listen, I'll be like, oh, I'll just scroll a little bit longer. Oh, you are kind of tired. You don't have to work out. Oh, you've got a little too much pain. Amberly, just skip it today. Uh, you're running out of time. Just go ahead back home. There's other things you need to do. I have learned to focus on my why. My why I need to work out because I need to get stronger. I need to feel better mentally and physically. I need to be able to chase after my daughter. I need to be able to walk. I need my leg to be strong so it can hold me up. And so I talked to myself and I'm like, Amberly, you Get in that gym and you go work out now. You are gonna do this. Just go, go do it. Get out of the car now. Put your phone down. Like, I seriously, people, if they saw me in my car, they would probably think I'm a crazy lady because I do talk to myself. So, you know, we can, we can, yes, we're not always going to be motivated, but we can, we can talk to ourselves to develop those healthy habits. Um, I've got my gym clothes laid out for me in the morning. I don't always make it to the gym. I have a space upstairs. where I can work out. And sometimes it's not that great of a workout, but I feel better mentally. I don't know of anyone that's ever done a workout and finished and gone, gosh, sure wish I wouldn't have done that. You know, just do it. Move your body. And I want to hear from you after you've moved your body. And I want you to tell me, seriously, reach out to me, either text me, send me a DM, shoot, screenshot yourself. Working out and tag me on Instagram at Amberly Lago Motivation, and I will reshare your story. If I see your story, I reshare anybody's story who I see. Sometimes I miss them, but I will do my best to see it so I can share that and cheer you on. And I think another reason why I was kind of feeling down and I wasn't feeling like joy in the journey was I wasn't, I wasn't connecting. Enough. You know, it's one thing where we connect through Zoom, and I'm not talking about connection like through social media. That's not real connection. I mean, it's great when you get to reach out to somebody, but I'm talking about real connection, like seeing people in person. I'm talking about shaking hands, hugging necks. I'm talking about really connecting. getting out into the world again. And I will tell you, it has been amazing to be speaking at in-person events again and just connecting with people. And that's one of the reasons I've completely revamped my mastermind. I mean, there's something magical when you can get together with people in person and share heart to heart and really experience that energy. And So I was like, you know what? My mastermind is like the favorite, my favorite thing. I love seeing, you know, women who just like transform themselves and really supercharge their impact and, and build more success for themselves and their families. But I thought it's been through Zoom. Um, one of my masterminds, we met in person in Malibu. It was beautiful and we all still stay connected, but I thought I, I want to go bigger with this. And so I hired a coach, a business coach, um, who I've known for years. His name's Bedros Koulian, and he, he's like, yeah, Amberly, you need to do 2 in-person events. And y'all, as scary as that is, I'm doing it. I'm going for it. I'm holding my first 2-day in-person event, and it's not just me. I've got speakers coming in. Bedros said, I'll come speak at your mastermind. He's flying in from LA. Oh my goodness. I've got Melissa Wiggins who's talking about motherhood and, um, business. I've got Sarah Delaine who's talking about, uh, branding and business strategy. I've got Erica Lippy who's talking about the power of podcasting. And I've got my friend, um, my soul sister. She's a publisher and she's coming in to talk about how to write your book and get it published and the healing and how cathartic it is to do something like that. So I put down the credit card because I, and reserve these rooms for people because I'm doing this because I know the healing. I know how connection, how much it means. And so I'm going for it. If you want more information about the mastermind, Heck, I'm officially launching it right now, right now on this podcast. Um, I'm launching it. It's truegritandgrace.com. Um, like I said, I didn't really plan this, um, podcast episode out. I just wanted to share with you what was going on with me and, and what's helped. So I had to get down to basics, had to get down to like making sure I'm eating enough, sleeping enough. Um, connecting more, asking for help more, adding value to other people and being of service wherever I can, because that fills up your heart. Really shift my perspective with gratitude several times a day sometimes. And so, yeah, if you're looking for more connection, I would love to have you in this year-long experience with us for the mastermind. Um, we're meeting in Dallas September 9th and 10th. It's a year-long experience where you get 2 in-person events. If you're a speaker, podcaster, or you want to start a podcast, you want to write a book, you want to really expand your brand, supercharge your impact so you can make a bigger income, this is the mastermind for you. Sorry, fellas, it's just for the ladies because I'm passionate about getting more ladies on stages and having bestselling books and having more podcasts. I promise I'm going to develop something for the fellas too, but this one is just for the ladies and the next Mastermind meetup in-person event will be 2 days in March. And, um, we're going to have a videographer and a photographer who's going to come and capture your talk on stage and do a professional photo shoot. So you get your stage shots right there. And so you can use them to start promoting yourself as a speaker and get paid gigs. So truegritandgrace.com, check it out. And now I want to tell you a few other things that I've been doing that have really helped me find more joy in the journey. And now this may seem a little contradictive, like if you are in that hustle and grind culture, but sometimes we need to slow down in order to speed up. And so I've really made resting a priority, a part of my business strategy. I mean, I've gone so far as to even wear a ring that monitors how much sleep I'm getting, the amount of REM sleep, deep sleep. And it's crazy because it even told me It alerted me to be careful. It says pay attention. And I'm talking about the Oura Ring. I'm not sponsored by them or anything. It's just something that I like wearing it to really monitor my sleep. But it, I was just sick a couple of weeks ago and it alerted me 2 days before I actually felt sick. It alerted me to be careful that my recovery during the night wasn't as well. I wasn't getting enough sleep and my temperature was up. 1 degree. So I've really made resting a part of my business strategy by planning out strategically, like when to take a break during the day, when to take a break on the weekend. I was working 7 days a week and now it's like, okay, Saturdays I'm going to, you know, have 1 client and then I'm taking the rest of the day off. Like I'm giving myself permission to take the whole day off and unplug. And then Sundays when I prepare for the week ahead, but during the day, um, One thing I love is this ring will actually alert me time to get up and stretch legs. I was just listening to a podcast with Brendan Burchard, who I just love, and he I just learned he does something that I think I may add in. He takes a break every like fifty minutes. He gets up and takes a break, and he also takes an hour break during the day to meditate and take a nap. And I have seen this man backstage when we shared the stage together. at this event called Powerful You, and his energy is on fire. And I saw how he prepared to go on stage. And even before he went on stage, he took a minute to take a break, gather his thoughts, and get ready to go. And so again, sometimes we got to slow down before we speed up. So I encourage you, if you really want to be resilient, if you really want to find joy for the journey, all the time, you need to strategically Stop. So make rest, put it on your to-do list to take care of yourself. Really also strive for progress, not perfection. I'm an overcoming perfectionist, and I would want things to look just right. I'd want that email, that newsletter that was going out to like the graphics to be just perfect. I want the podcast to just like. Have it all, all these notes written out and exactly what I'm going to say to try to really add value to your life or inspire you. And it's like, you know, sometimes we just got to do it. We don't have to have all our ducks in a row. We don't have to have it all figured out. And let me tell you, nobody has it all figured out. And I just was talking to a friend of mine the other day. His name's Mark Drager. He's an awesome guy. We did an event together in North Carolina. It. And we were talking on the phone and I was telling him how, yeah, I'm doing this 2-day event and it's a year-long mastermind and just figuring out the landing page and I'm doing this and doing that. I've never planned a 2-day event where I'm inviting other speakers to come in. And he stopped me and he said, Amberly, I just have to say, I love that you don't have it all figured out. You don't know exactly how it's going to come together, but you're You're going for it. You don't let that stop you. And so I will tell you that I have never had it all figured out. That's why, like, I didn't know exactly what I was doing when I started on Instagram. That's why I leave my crappy posts up when I first started that have very few likes. And I didn't know what a hashtag was, and I didn't know how to write a caption. You know, when I started to write my book, I didn't know how to publish it. I didn't know— I didn't even know how to format it on, you know, to where the paragraphs were just right. In fact, that frustrated me so much that I handwrote like 90% of my book because I would get so in my head about the margins being perfect and the grammar and everything being just right that I could not let the words flow from my head and my heart, or from my heart and my head out onto the paper. And so So do what you can, but just start and don't, don't think it has to be perfect. Any step forward in the right, you know, in the right direction towards your dreams is better than just staying stuck. And I will tell you that action alleviates anxiety. It alleviates fear. So I was nervous as heck. I really was because I'm like, well, this event's not just me. It's these other speakers that are flying in and I want to make sure I'm really taking care of them. I've got big events coming up. I'm going next week. I'm flying to Salt Lake City. I'll be in Sundance. I'm invited to speak at a mastermind with Ken Joslin. So when you're hearing this, I'm actually in Sundance speaking at a mastermind with some of my favorite people on the planet, like Randy Garn. It's a dream come true to do a mastermind with Randy Garn and Ken Joslin and Master Jeff, who is going to be on the podcast in a few episodes. It's like, this is a dream come true. I am asked to do this. This is what I've been praying for, and it's happening. And yet I had a little fear. Do you know the only thing that got me out of that fear was taking action? So it was baby steps. It was like, okay, I'm doing this. I'm going to write out a newsletter. Okay, I'm going to do this. I'm going to create a post and share what I'm feeling. I'm, I'm doing this. I'm going to go to the gym and work out so I can get some of this anxiety out of my system. So whatever you have to do to take action, make a list, check off just one thing on the list, make it be your goal to check off one thing. I promise it's going to make you feel better. And so So one last thing is clean house. And when I say clean house, I don't mean just clean your house. Like, that does bring me joy. I like having a clean house. I love having a beautiful office space. I've got a tiny little office I'm recording in right now, but it's so cute. I've got my favorite crystals. I've got a candle. I have a brand new pet fish. His name is Miami. He's swimming around looking at me right now. I've got, you know, I make sure my, my, my space feels good. It's clean. I'm more productive when where I am in my environment, my work environment or my home environment is clean. Also, that goes for your head, like get things out of your head and onto paper. If you're thinking about something or you're overthinking that soundtrack, stop it. What helps me with that is to put it on paper, but also clean house. With people who are negative in your life, and I recently had to do this with a friend that I had for 20 years. That you know, I felt like I couldn't share exciting things that were going on because every time I would share something that was exciting or when I couldn't go to lunch or something, it was like, "Oh well, I guess you're just too important," or "Oh look at you, you're big time now." I remember when you were stuck in a hospital bed. Don't forget, I know where you came from. I'm like. Yeah, I know exactly where I came from, and I don't ever want to be stuck in that bed again. And I am climbing my way up. I get up over and over again. So those friends that remind you, like, constantly the negative, it's like, maybe either, you know, set a healthy boundary, or sometimes you just gotta, like, cut them out of your life. And it was really hard. It was really hard at first for me to do that, but then It made me feel so much better. And that goes for social media too. Like, if there are people that you're scrolling and somebody posts something and it doesn't make you feel good, it makes you feel bad, or it's negative, then sometimes, like, you know, my good friend Aaron King says, sometimes you got to block them and bless them. And so really pay attention to the people that you have in your life. Also, You know, I had someone in my life who just every time I talked to them, it was just negative. And it, it, not saying it's their fault, but it was just like the way they were, the energy, I could feel it through the phone. I was like, ah, I just don't like doing business with you. And the contract was up. It was time to move, move on. And so whether it's in your personal life, whether it's in your professional life, whether it's on social media, Clean house. Really stick with the puppy uppers, knock the doggy downers. Stick with the people who uplift you, who inspire you, who believe in you. Because let me tell you what changed my world really and allowed me to start really believing in myself again and looking at myself and my situation differently was Dr. Wiss, who when I went in to ask him to amputate my leg after he had already done so many surgeries. To save it. And he sat down and he put my leg in his lap and he looked at it. So he looked at it like it was his masterpiece, like it was his work of art. And I thought, if he can look at that, my leg and me like that, then maybe I can start to look at myself differently too. And each day I tried my best to start looking at my scars with gratitude instead of of them being disgusting and ugly and damaged. I started looking at my leg. Wow, look how amazing it is. The body can heal. Look how amazing the human spirit is for all that we can endure and overcome. And so be around people who believe in you. You know, my husband and I just celebrated our 15-year anniversary. And I'll never forget, you know, I was trying to wear high heels, you know, trying to prove that I I could wear a little— they weren't even high heels, it was a pump. And I got home and I was trying to take my shoe off and the strap was like, you know, digging into my cankle. My leg was so swollen. And I looked and I looked at my leg kind of with disgust and I'm like, oh, look at my leg. And he said, oh, I look at your leg and think of what a miracle it is. And so, man, be around the people who look at you that believe in you. And if you don't have anybody, find them. They're out there. Like, go create a group of female entrepreneurs. Go create an amazing group of mamas that are entrepreneurs or stay-at-home moms that, man, you need to connect and see how you're doing it, how you're doing it all. Because being a mom is like, and juggling everything. That is like, it's no joke. Um, create those groups, whether it's a sobriety group, whether it's going to AA, whether it's going to church, or whether if you are ready to uplevel your business, join my mastermind. But I really hope that by sharing these things that have brought more joy, you find more joy in the journey. Because look, I know there's pain out there. I know that we're all going through challenges, but I also know that there are absolutely ways to build upon the joy. You can have pain and you can have joy and you can choose to build upon the joy. And it starts by choosing yourself, by choosing self-care, by choosing your healthy habits, by choosing you. So put you on your to-do list. And look, I am, I'm human. I am not perfect at this. I have to be reminded. And that's why I write it down in my calendar. I know that sounds kind of cheesy, but I actually write down in my paper calendar. When I'm going to work out, when I'm taking a break, when I'm going to a recovery meeting. I even write down in my calendar when I'm going to church. So write down what are your non-negotiables, write it down and stick to it. Take care of you because your impact is only as strong as you are healthy. If we're not healthy, we can't find joy in the journey. If we're not healthy, If we're suffering, we can't enjoy all the things that we've worked for. If we're not healthy, we can't do the things that we want to do. If we're not healthy, we can't enjoy being around the people that we love. If we're so— I mean, I say this out of knowing how hard it's been when I was in so much pain that I was throwing up. And when you're in a place like that, it's really hard to enjoy life. And so I've become relentless about Really taking care of my health, and I hope you do too. So move your body, do things to move your mood, whether that is working out. For me, it's working out, journaling, praying, meditating, having your morning ritual. I even have a nightly ritual where I focus on like, okay, I have an alarm on my phone that goes off and it blinks and it reminds me of it's bedtime approaching. So I drink my hot tea. I ask my daughter what she's grateful for and what's the best thing that happened to her. So if you do these things and you take care of you, when something comes along, it's not going to completely derail you. Or if it does, you can get back on track. We got to work on our resilience before we need it. So connect with others, reach out and see how you can serve, reach out and ask for help. If you are interested in the mastermind, you can always text me and we can jump on a call. 818-214-7378. If you're really serious about this, if you're really serious about upleveling your business, your life, really growing your social media and supercharging your impact and income, text me. Just text the word mastermind. We can jump on a call. There's only going to be about 15 people in the group. So it's a small group. I want to thank you again for tuning in to the podcast. It really means a lot to me that you've been here along the journey. Because of you, because of you, we've made this a top 1% podcast. So I appreciate you listening. If you think somebody would benefit from this, please share it with them. If there's part of this that hit home, if you screenshot it and tag me at Amberly Lago Motivation or even True Grit and Grace, I'm on Instagram, both accounts. I'll share it in my story. Let's just spread more joy to others. I think we all need it right now. And I just want to say thanks. Thank you again for tuning in, and I'll see you next week.