Healing Through Mistreatment: 4 Steps to Reclaim Peace and Emotional Safety During Trauma Recovery

Hey, beautiful souls.

Welcome to Reclaim Your Inner Rockstar, the space for high-capacity leaders who lead boldly yet often feel overstimulated beneath the surface. I'm Amy Robinson, aromapsychologist and cognitive coach with more than 25 years of helping others find emotional clarity through scent and science. My work began when I realized scent could instantly shift my thoughts and regulate my entire inner world. And I knew women like me needed access to that same power. Each week you will receive grounded tools and conversations that help you steady your nervous system and think more clearly. Are you ready to feel like yourself again? Then you're in the right place.

¡Hey! ¡Hey! ¡Hey! ¡Hey! ¡Hey! ¡Hey! ¡Hey! It's so good to have you here. I appreciate you. And if you're here, it's because you've been drawn to me, and I don't take that lightly. I take that quite passionately and seriously. This topic is dear to my heart. How do I heal through mistreatment? I empathize with you. I understand where you are. I also have had to feel the weight of having to heal through mistreatment, whether it's living with someone who is abusive or a family member or a friend, or even somebody within our spiritual community who is mistreating us. And it's hurtful to us. It's important to note that every one of us carries a level of trauma we're afraid to make peace with. For those of you who are here, you're showing how much you want to make peace with it, because our inner peace our confidence are of the utmost importance. Learning how to process those deeper level emotions and work through them in a spirit of self-forgiveness and eventual forgiveness to the person who's hurt is so important. It's hard to maneuver these things when our imperfection comes to play. I'm going to share with you 4 different steps steps that are important when it comes to healing through mistreatment. I want to emphasize this: you are not alone. I am here with you. Healing is possible. I applaud you and I commend you. I understand how challenging that is and how scary that is and how heavy that that is. Everything inside you wants to feel safe, at peace, calm, and understood. I get it. Step number 1: Acknowledge your reality. Recognize the situation that you're in. It's so important to do so. It's crucial to acknowledge what's happening without minimizing it or excusing it. You don't have to accept mistreatment. Understanding that can be incredibly empowering. Jesus had this magnificent way, and he still does today, to console those who are broken and crushed. And not accept mistreatment from those who it originates from. He taught us through his example that we don't need to accept mistreatment. It's not loving or kind to yell and scream back or to attack our abuser. It's okay to say, "When you do this, that hurts me. That angers me. That makes me feel this way." It's important to know you don't have to accept mistreatment. This can be empowering even when leaving isn't an option. Boundaries are important. It's not about immediate action. But building awareness and strength in your daily life. Number 1: Acknowledge your reality. Recognize the situation you're in. 2: Protect your peace. Protecting your emotional well-being is vital. I use the example of being in an environment where people smoke. We choose not to smoke, but they choose to smoke. How wise is it for us to stay in that environment? Statistically speaking, the person who doesn't smoke will get cancer before the person who does. That says something. Protect your emotional well-being while living in a toxic environment. It is vital for you. Just because your partner isn't ready to acknowledge their level of abuse, or that family member, or that friend within your spiritual community does not mean that you cannot protect your emotional well-being. When you can't change your external situation right away, the focus shifts to protecting that internal peace. That can be as simple as creating small moments in your life for yourself. Whether that's through quiet reflection, going for a walk, listening to music, or just taking a few deep breaths. One of the frustrations my newer clients have during the detox period is saying, "I can't do that. I don't have time. I don't have privacy." But here's the thing: it is your responsibility to figure out a way to protect your peace. It's your responsibility. We all have the intellectual capacity to do that. Our God sets a beautiful example in establishing those boundaries. It is about learning how to protect yourself emotionally without making drastic changes right away. That's the important part. That was number 2, protecting your peace. Number 1, acknowledge your reality, your situation. Number 2, protecting your peace. Number 3, releasing emotional tension. This is where, as an aroma psychologist, I have a process that once my client comes into my space, there are a series of assessments, intake forms, and health release forms, because I need to understand your your medical and emotional history so that we can tailor an emotional regulation program with essential oils based on your unique situation. Each one of us responds differently to a similar situation. My trigger might be different from your trigger, and it may spark anger in me differently than it might spark anger in you. That's why It's important to incorporate breathing and grounding exercises. As a coach, I stay within that realm and create a lifestyle protocol for you in action steps. It's a lifestyle program that is baby steps to help you master grounding exercises and breathing exercises as tools along with specific essential oils to help relieve your emotional tension in your body. It's important to keep it simple, but to understand that you can do this anywhere. Once you learn how to carry your tools with you, those tools that you learn for emotional regulation, to release that emotional tension then life gets a little less stressful for you. I have clients that have traveled with their emotional toolkit and it helps them to stay grounded. Once you learn these techniques, once you learn how to apply them, once you learn how to breathe through them using very specific oils tailored to your background, you're able to feel the difference a lot quicker. Releasing that emotional tension can help you even during the most challenging moments. That was number 3. Number 1, acknowledge your reality. Number 2, protect your peace. Number 3, release your emotional tension. I can coach you how, whether through one-on-one or through the healing membership that I have, Radiant Rockstars. Check out the show notes for more And number 4, focus on your future. Meditation and reflection are so important. Shifting our focus toward our future can allow our present to be more centered and balanced and create that inner peace that is so important for us. This is a massive challenge for somebody who's working through unresolved trauma. We want to do these things, but we just don't know how. I coach you how to do these things. It's not uncommon in our one-on-one where we go over Bible principles. We have principled exercises for the brain for you to meditate on to give you focus. You may not be able to control your current circumstances, However, you might be able to focus on that future. It's a very subtle mindset shift that happens because every small step you take toward your well-being is progress. Take a moment to celebrate where you are and where you want to be. I work with clients PTSD, chronic complex PTSD, OCD, bipolar, depression, clinical depression, and chronic anxiety. They get support. Jesus himself said, "The healthy do not need a physician, but those who are ill do." The first step of getting support is acknowledging that we need that support. It's important for you to consider what that is for you. Whether it's a therapist, psychotherapist, psychiatrist, or a therapeutic coach like myself. Sometimes most women succeed with me when they've already gone through therapy for years and it just hasn't worked for them, and they need an action plan to get them where they can start self-coaching and self-soothing and self-nurturing and moving forward. Forward. That's where I usually come in. It's important to allow yourself to feel empowered, precious one who's listening to me. You are so loved, you are so valued, are such a gift. And that starts with seeing that within you first. We all have our strengths, of course we all have our weaknesses. Myself included. I can't tell you how many times this week alone I've cried from the gut. However, dwelling on those doesn't empower us, it disempowers us. Focusing on what we can do is what empowers us. You need support. If you know you're at a point where you need support, support, I encourage you to ask yourself, what level of support do I need? Is it, can I be okay in a membership, which is a community? This is not group coaching. This is not in Zoom. The way that I have designed my healing membership is for on the go. It's live. It's interactive. It's on your terms. I have members who come in every day to check it and stay stay current. And I have members who come in once a month. The way I set it up within the community is for them to be able to self-coach and self-pace. I go in twice a week and I coach. I leave a voice clip. I leave templates for you and challenges. And you go in and do the challenges you want to do, the ones that resonate with you. And you learn and grow at your pace. Nobody's behind, nobody's too far forward, everybody's exactly where they need to be. Each of us heals at our own pace, each of us grows at our own pace, and the community allows us to have that. We all are there to support and encourage one another and to benefit from from one another. There are women in the community at different points of their healing journey. They are supportive, and it's beautiful. When you're ready to take more steps to protect your peace and build strength in the midst of your mistreatment, I invite you to connect with me for a deeper conversation when you're ready. If you want to take that next step, we can explore ways to support you where you are. The, the important thing to remember is that you can heal and feel safe and get the support you need. I celebrate you. If you know somebody who can benefit from this, share it with them. I want you to know that you have it within you empower yourself as you heal through your mistreatment. And no, you are not making this up. It is not your fault that trauma has come into your life. It is your responsibility to heal it. Wherever you are in that part of your journey, know that you have support along the road. I love you. I'll talk to you later. Bye.