Friday Fuel ⛽️ BAT, Burps, and Burnout

Welcome back to the Infinite Gold Podcast. Today we've got Friday Fuel. Yeah, how you doing, beautiful?

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Uh, so today we're going to continue our burnout campaign style. We're over 40 episodes now. This is going to be the third episode of our burnout campaign. Thank you for following along so far.

Could you stop doing that?

I need to go ahead, continue.

Um, shit, I guess I need to get my shit together too. Um, yeah, so we're, we're gonna touch a little bit more on, on the burnout piece of it, but also kind of what's a day in the life for Anthony and Bree Goldner and, you know, Life's Legacy and Laughs with the Goldners as You know, Infinite Gold Podcast goes. And, um, cause we were just joking and laughing before we started on recording today. And I was just like, we need to bring some more laughter into this. I know we like, we're all about the seriousness and enjoying all the good stuff that we're sharing, but we need to share more laughs because laughing and humor is, is us. And we, yeah, so it truly is.

And so today we're gonna talk about burnout and. Harmonious alignment. It's a topic we talk about a lot, and we decide, you know, that one's going to be pushed to the next Friday. So if you want to listen in on that one, stay tuned. But today it's gonna be more of what gets us through burnout, what gets us through the grind. We all are grinding towards something. We're all grinding towards the next job promotion. We're all grinding towards the job. We're all trying to grind to get our diploma. We're always grinding and grinding, grinding. So what are we doing on a daily basis that is helping with that? How are we being more aligned as a married couple, as CEOs and partners in the business together? And then we have two amazing kids. And one of the biggest things that we always do is we talk a lot of shit, we joke a lot all the time, and we laugh a lot. And like, one of the things we were talking about earlier before we even got on the show is you gave me this like weird look, and it was that like look like you wanted to hit me or something. Yeah, it was that look. Like I made a comment and you're like, oh really?

I'm like, I didn't say anything. Yeah, and you're like, but your subtitle— your subtitles said so.

She's got a lot of subtitles. And anybody out there who has a wife or, you know, somebody there, you got subtitles. It just—

it is a woman in your life, there's—

you have subtitles. Yeah, and hers was that you just wanted hit me.

Well, I mean, I think a big percentage of a woman's thoughts or a wife's thoughts are, I want to fucking hit my husband right now, but I'm not going to act upon that because I don't feel like going to jail. And then holds up a fork to her face. Yeah, I don't look good behind bars.

It's true, you, you would not. I mean, you might end up being a, you know, a boss in there and be absolutely crazy and very hard to deal with if I was working in that jail.

Um, I would give you extra, extra resistance.

Uh, yeah, and I would just be like, don't even give her shit, she doesn't deserve it. But it's funny because you were like, yeah, I, I'd want to hit you. And you know what, um, most of the time guys are thinking the exact same way. And don't get me wrong, and that's not what I was getting at. Some people, holy moly, we want to hit you in a different way. He's like, just saying that, just saying that's usually what's going through the guy's mind. Exact same thing.

You're like, already did, already did. Children, exhibit A and B. Yeah, it happens.

I mean, it's just like, are you really like married or dating someone if you walk past them in the kitchen and you don't try to smack them on the ass?

Yeah, or you don't grab them, or you don't grab them.

Like, I don't think so. I don't think— like, for a man, I don't even think it's really possible.

Even if I'm like in a piss mood and I'm like annoyed by you, I still walk buy and I grab your ass.

It's inevitable.

It makes it better.

It 100% does. The amazing Kayla and our Craig and Meredith talk about, you know, the fun-dane and the mundane, and that's something that people just need to have more of and stop being so serious.

Yeah, it's true. It is. When you look at some people, you're just like, can I help you pull that stick out of your ass?

You know, sometimes people need it.

Live a little. Live a little. I'm sure that's uncomfortable right now. Let me help you. Hold still. Let me help you out.

Yeah, some people just need that help. And I guess that's why we are, you know, coaches and mentors now. We can help people with that. Well, that's not physically, but, you know, metaphorically.

Yeah. And I think I was even— I still tell Mom this, like, when she's driving home from work and I all of a sudden will be in the middle of a conversation and then she stops. She's like this. Starts going off. I'm like, Mom, they're just living their best life. Maybe they have diarrhea.

That literally— that is— I explained that to you. I was like, so what is this now, 5, 20 years, 21 years ago it had to have been? Because when do we, when do we go get our driving test? We're like 15, right? 16, something like that.

I mean, I waited.

Yeah. So, but yeah, late bloomer here, uh, early bloomer. I had a job at 13, 14 years old.

I'm sure you did.

So like 21 years ago I was doing driving test and, uh, it actually wasn't during the test, it was learning how to drive. And the guy literally said, because some guy races past us in crossing over the double yellow, coming back, racing past us. And literally what he says is, when someone is racing past you or they're tailgating you or something, he's like, what I like to say is, you know, they probably have diarrhea and they're just, they're trying to get home or they're trying to get to their destination because if they don't, they're gonna shit their pants and it's gonna be a dirty mess in their car. And like, to this day, and to this day, that's literally what I'm always thinking is, hmm, all right, someone's tailgating me, maybe I'll just let them go by because they probably have got diarrhea or something in their system, right?

Yeah.

So next time someone's racing past you or tailgating you, just think to yourself, they probably got diarrhea.

They got diarrhea.

And then you're not angry anymore.

They're running from the cops, so maybe move over.

Yeah, you know, now they're not angry.

You know, there's that.

There's that. But so what's one of the things Bree likes to do when the kids are not listening, a.k.a. every single day, and you tell them one thing and Jackson says, how about not, Mom, and we do something else? What does Bree like to do?

Sometimes I start to sing. Yeah, like, but like screwing around singing, not like my real singing. Screwing around.

And is it as good as my singing?

It's— you know what, we might be neck and neck. It might be neck and neck. But, you know, instead of like talking about something, you know, saying like, yes, we're gonna put on our jammies next, we're gonna brush our teeth, you know, I'll make— I'll make shit up like that.

Yeah.

And then what's even more funny, and it gets me laughing, and then it pisses him off. So he gets mad that I start singing. And then he's like, no, Mom, no, it's because you're not being serious, Mom. Yeah, well, and he legit gets mad.

Yeah.

And then I keep going, and then he throws— he continues to throw a tantrum. Well, me trying to, you know, keep from getting dysregulated, keep from getting dysregulated, and trying to keep me like in a better, you know, attitude, having a better attitude, uh, I start laughing. But then he gets even more mad. It's literally like just pouring gasoline on the fire. And I'm just like— then there's times I actually have to leave the room when I'm like dying of laughter because he's getting so angry with me. And then eventually he like comes running around the corner like screaming and crying for me, and I'm like, all right buddy, I'm sorry, it wasn't funny, I understand, but Mom was having a jolly good time. You want to see this side of Mom than the other ugly side. Excuse me, it's very bubbly. You don't want to see my ugly side. I want to show you this side where I'm laughing and working. I don't want to see that side because normally, like, okay, he doesn't always get as angry as I've just described him, but do— doing, doing the, the silly singing and the silly dance moves usually completely changes their, um, their state of mind, their state of mind, and they forget why they were upset in the first place or what they were yelling at you for, you know. Or when they're not listening and you're asking them to do something, they completely forget what's going on, and now they're distracted, and now you've changed their physical state, and now they're in a better mood, and now they're joining in with you. Yep, it's like it's that, that mirror effect. They see you smiling, they see you laughing, they see you dancing. I want to do that too. So they start doing it.

Exactly. One of the things we talk about within law enforcement is getting off the tracks. So what you're doing is, is you're getting him off the track that he was on. Yeah, he was on the, you know, the train. Yeah, the train with no brakes track that was just going endlessly. Yeah. And you got him off the tracks by changing his physical state of mind, which in turn changed his mental state of mind. Yeah. And that's a lot of the things that you need to do is find out what works for you. For us, it's laughter, it's joking around, it's messing around. For the majority of people, that's what it is.

Yeah.

And a lot of times, more laughter. Yes, you're Go back to your childhood days when everything was funny. Like, I think the best thing literally in this world, and I don't care who you are, you could be in the worst state of mind, go find your own toddler. Don't just go find other kids, that'd be bad. But like, for me, like, when I just start tickling Laney and that giggle, oh my gosh, it is— it's— yeah, it just melts your heart. Um, so if you have like nieces or nephews or your own kids or your friend's kids Yeah, just— it's the best, best therapy for sure. Yeah, laughter, laughter. We just need more laughter.

Yeah, no, laughter I, I think is some really good medicine in life that people need.

Yeah. Yeah. So it's one of, uh, I'm trying to, trying to think now that we're on the spot of our main jokes that we like say to each other.

Well, it's out of the blue. Sometimes we'll just come around the corner and be like 'Wait, what are you doing, bitch-ass trick?' Oh yeah, it's pretty, it's pretty funny. I don't know even where that came from, but we just started saying it.

And I don't know either, but I know it was one of those—

you abbreviated it too, and I just lost it, was laughing my ass off.

So bat is now our abbreviation for it.

Bitch-ass trick.

Exactly. And it's like, you can't even be upset or mad. No, like, you could be mad and then someone says that and you're like I'm still kind of mad at you, but that was funny. That was, that was good right there, right?

Well, and if you're not insulting each other and like making jokes with each other regularly, are you even married? Are you even in love? Yeah, like, are you even married to your best friend?

That's right there is what it is, is too many people, like, they're dating and they're like best friends, they like, they love everything, and then they get married and they think they have to change. No, like you just need to now 10x what you were doing before, right? And just add more to it.

All it is is you added a piece of paper and, and maybe some jewelry to go with it.

Definitely added a jewelry. That's expensive, just saying. You don't forget, don't forget that part. And the wedding, the wedding was expensive too. Don't forget to add that part too.

Yes. So, so hey, we threw one big fucking party and everybody had a blast. Yeah, we still get people telling us that they had an amazing time.

It was a good time.

Like, you had such a good time you lost half of your freaking suit. I think you cut the cake without your shirt on and just your vest.

I had my vest— well, I had my pants on too.

Okay, yeah, well, of course you have your pants on. Yeah, but you had your shirt off. It's my own party. Might have made you throw your vest on for the cut. Cake cutting, but then by the last dance you had no shirt on.

No, I don't— if you know me, that's, that's usually how I operate. These podcast episodes, I have to put a shirt on for people, you know.

Do you though?

Well, for the video portion, if you're watching this. If you're listening, I—

how many fitness people out there do you— fitness dudes do you see out there without their shirts?

They're just overcompensating. I don't need to take my shirt off to show them up. I just don't think— I just don't need to do that.

That's fine. It's It's fine, leave a little mystery for the folks. We don't want to get all the girls going crazy in the comments. I have to cut them off. Yeah, slam.

Same thing. That's why you have to have clothes on too for it. I'm just saying, you don't have to kill some guys or send Thor, bury them in the hills. I'll have to send Thor. Yeah, I'll have to send Thor on a few of them, you know. I don't need to do that. It's a lot of paperwork, too much, too much work, too much blood.

I was just like, I asked, I, I asked you, there's times when you come home and you smell different. I'm like, what's her name?

No, him.

What's her fucking name?

His name is Thor. That's who I hang out with all day.

Well, that, or if you went back when you were working in Fillmore, if you stopped at Lizzie and Trevor's house.

Oh yeah. Yep.

You hugged your, you hugged your other wife. You smelled like her. And I was like, what's her name?

Yep.

I'm a fucking killer. Trevor.

Oh my God.

This is the best part.

You gotta have fun. You gotta enjoy life. You gotta enjoy the things that you're going through. For us, you know, we've got two toddlers, love them to death. They're a pain in the ass and a lot of work. Uh, we're also running our business. I have a full-time job, mompreneur. Like, you've got a lot going on. We've got a lot going on. You, if you're listening to this, you probably have a lot going on.

So does everybody else.

You need to take a step back. You need to be more present. You need to have that harmonious balance in life. And one of those things for us is laughter. Find out for you what what you enjoy and take it to the next level. We're very, very much into health. We're very much into fitness. Thank you, Legendary Foods. Thanks, Bruce. It's our good old snacks. They're great snacks. And so we work out together. Right now we haven't been able to work out as much together because you're training for the, you know, 8-week transformation, which is a lot of weightlifting. I'm training for bike riding. So I'm doing a lot of bike riding. So we're not, you know, Work out in the bedroom. What? Huh? But again, it's, it's that connection. You have to have that connection, and if you don't, you need to find out where it went to. Like, if you lost that connection, why did you lose it? Where did— where was it?

Like, go back and identify what was fun before.

Yeah. And again, if you guys aren't a laughing couple, if laughter is not yours, find out what is yours.

No, no, then you're just fucking boring. I'm just gonna say, call it like it is.

It is Very true. I— but I'm trying. There are some people who just don't like it so they can be them. I don't know. It's probably because they lost it from their childhood days and they need to bring it back. Always stems something back to your childhood, as long as there wasn't trauma during it.

Well then, that's what I'm saying. Sometimes childhood trauma can lead into like the lack of laughter, the lack of joy.

Just find the good parts of it.

Yeah. Yeah, finding the good parts of it. No, I'm just saying, if they— if they're people— they are somebody who doesn't, uh, laugh or doesn't ever allow themselves to find amusement in, in jokes or in funny things.

Well, that's the other thing too. You can't— you can't even be amused by jokes these days. The whole jokes from the '90s, I don't think we could use anymore, unfortunately.

Just, you know what, new generation mom and dad jokes.

I mean, we should do a spin-off of that. Mom and Dad jokes.

I'll have to come up with some good shit. Yeah, the hard part is, is there's times where I think of— I'll think of something good and I won't even actually think of it. It'll just come out. Yeah, it's the witty side of me that will just come out and you start busting up laughing, and I didn't even really, really realize how good it was until you're like, okay, that one was good. Yeah, I'm like, I should write that down, or why wasn't that recorded? Or yeah, and then I forget. Yeah, like I had— I remember I had some joke. It had to do with your work closet, with how messy it was and how, like, I was thinking of, um—

it's organized, I know where everything is in it.

That's the biggest lie ever told. How it looked like a tornado went through it and you couldn't even find Toto in there and, uh, Dorothy. You know, I, I, you know, I went down like some Wizard of Oz thing, but it was really funny and I sent it to you over at text message because you were at work, and I think I was looking for something for you in your work closet. Yeah, to like meet you on shift or something.

But I remember telling you where it was and you found it because it was exactly where I said it was.

You just had to go under like 20 other things and maybe a dust bunny.

Oh, you still found it and it was where I told you it was going to be?

Sure it was.

Yeah. One of the other things too is that I know we do now a lot more than we used to is if one of us like forgets something or if one of us leaves something somewhere is we now probably turn it more into a joke. Like my wife, she loves to leave things on the stairs cuz she thinks that she's gonna remember to bring it up the stairs when she goes up the stairs and she doesn't. So now I just joke that she's trying to kill me and she's trying to trip me going up the stairs or down the stairs.

Obstacle course. You're welcome.

Oh yeah, because I'm trying to, you know, train for the Ninja Warriors. I should probably train for it. I'll just use my stairs and all the obstacles.

My wife's house and all the cars.

Oh my gosh, fucking— have you ever stepped on a car or a Lego in the dark?

We are not— yes, we are now in the freaking Lego season of life, and I'm not a fan. Mom's not a fan. I won't lie, I am not a fan. Okay, so there's two—

there's three just in their office. Yep, three F1 Legos, which I'm not gonna lie, they're pretty cool.

They are pretty cool.

They do fall apart a lot.

So what I do like about them is the building part. However, what I don't like is when they get left somewhere on the floor and I step on them and then I fucking get hurt, and then this one starts laughing at me. Well, 'Why weren't you paying attention when we were walking?' We're like, 'I don't know, our kids just leave shit all over the floor and I do my best to pick up along the way.' Or, or no, my favorite, my favorite was the time where the kids dumped a bunch of toys all over our bedroom floor right in the walkway where I go to walk past the bed to get to my side and to get to the bathroom. Your ass is already in bed and you completely avoid the mess.

Yeah, I know how to— I know how to avoid obstacles. Again, you, you teach me.

You're welcome. You strip down, you strip down, you jump your naked ass in bed, and then I'm over here coming up to bed after you. The lights are turned off. I have no idea there's shit on the floor. It's like I'm walking into a war zone and bombs going off of toys. I'm stepping on shit, tripping and falling, not to mention Zeus laying in the middle of the room. So I'm tripping on falling on that, and I'm just like, shit. Like, fuck, ah, and I'm falling on the floor because I'm hurt. And the next thing I know, I hear you start laughing. I'm like, what's so fucking funny? You knew these were here and you left them for me to fall and hurt myself, and you think it's hilarious.

Well, yeah, I don't— again, it's bringing laughter to my life during those times at my expense. Well, you like to hit everything. Whether or not it's on the floor or not. If it's in the way, like this desk, you'll probably get out of the chair and you'll probably hit it, and then you're going to create another bruise on your body. Again, uh, if you ever come after me, the bruises are not from me. If anybody asks, they're from the corners, from random things.

I'll put that wall there.

Yeah, I, I don't know. That wall's been there for the last 4 and a half years that we've been here. It hasn't moved. That dang wall jumped down and bit me.

Oh God, there's times where I definitely have underestimated, uh, your clumsiness? No. Oh, kiss my butt. The depth of the wall sticking out when I'm coming out and around the corner. Like, I don't know, for example, walking out of the bathroom, I cut it.

Perception, maybe it's not very good.

Oh, I haven't been to the eye doctor in a minute, so—

Well, yeah, without those glasses on, you probably couldn't see the screen.

Yeah, you were asking me to stare at the screen earlier. I took them off and I'm like, wow, that's blurry. And I'm like, hold on. And mind you, my glasses aren't like— they don't have a super strong prescription, but I put them on, I'm like, wow, I could see better now. Like, shoot. Yeah, I didn't have my eyes checked again.

You probably should.

But I've hit the wall pretty freaking hard before.

I know.

Like, no, with no one home, just me, just me coming around the corner, me on fire, like moving around, get— trying to get stuff done and move around the house and just to that and normally navigating. Yeah, I'm like in a hurry to get— I don't know, maybe I'm in a hurry to get to the kitchen, get a snack. Okay, maybe it's snack time and I need to go meet my macros because you didn't eat anything before all that, right?

Do you skip breakfast? You skip certain things?

No, that was then. This is now. Shush, shush. I cut the corner and I like smack the wall real hard, and the next thing you know, my shoulder's bruised AF.

Yeah, again, It's not me. It's the furniture inside of our house, or just the wall that's normally there 24/7.

Fucking wall.

Who put that wall there?

Who put that shit there?

So, yeah. I don't even know where that we would continue with this.

It's a nice stash you have there.

Thanks.

Keep stroking that while you come up with the next thing to say.

I will. I'll come up with the wittiness that I've got. Yeah.

Oh, here's an idea. Halloween. Yeah, you'd be me, I'd be you. Give me the stash. Jackson keeps asking me, what, Mama, what are you gonna be for Halloween? What are you and Daddy gonna be for Halloween?

Yeah, I just have to put a sassiness to myself and I'll be good to go. Be really easy. Bam.

Yeah, RIP. And that was the end of Anthony Goldner.

Nope, said one too many words.

Y'all, you just put on a pair of yoga pants and a cute sweater or something and flip-flops.

Yeah, probably could do that.

Let your hair down.

I just cut it, it's pretty short right now. Yeah, yeah, I'd have to get a wig. I don't know, we probably should figure something out.

Well, if anybody's got any ideas—

yeah, if you have any ideas for our DMs knock it out. Yeah, let us know. Jackson's gonna be Toothless from How to Train Your Dragon. Lainey's gonna be Elsa from Frozen.

We thought you should be Olaf. That was the other—

I could be Olaf. Olaf would be funny.

Olaf or Sven.

I like warm hugs.

You like warm hugs? Okay, Olaf.

And I kind of sing like Olaf too, so if you see— so if you've seen that movie— oh yeah, that's one of my favorite parts.

No, in the second one. Yep, where Olaf singing because Elsa's going, yeah, and he's like, I bet our listeners really enjoyed that.

I bet they do.

Please tune in if you ever want to hear some more singing from Anthony Goldner.

They're probably like, and moving on to the next different podcast episode I'm gonna listen to. I mean, let's be honest, we're 25 minutes in. The way our podcast episodes go, they listen about 3-4 minutes at the beginning, so we could literally say whatever we want right now and 98% of people, if you get to the end of this episode, I I truthfully honestly want to know.

I want to hear from you. Please send me a DM, send Anthony a DM, be like, hey, so we listened to that one episode where you guys were just screwing around, laughing. What?

Say a word. Like, what word do they need to DM us? And then we'll know if they actually got to number—

bat.

Yeah, bat.

You have to say bat, bitch-ass trick.

DM us, text us if you made it to the 26th minute of this.

Is that what it says?

Yep. You know what's probably gonna happen is eventually these podcast episodes, like, you know, everybody says, you know, you gotta put in the work, do this, do that. And we're already actually past the 20 episodes, I think is the average for most. We're already at, you know, 45, something around there.

Uh-huh.

We're probably gonna get to like episode 100. It's gonna be like 6 months in and then our episodes are finally gonna start getting like listeners and start getting the views and the people are probably gonna go back and listen. So we're probably gonna get like text message or DMs like a year from now, bat. And at first we're gonna be like, What? Yeah, and then it's gonna hit us and we're gonna bust up laughing.

Yeah, thank you in advance for creating the laughter for us.

Yeah, whenever you listen to this or get to this portion.

All right, so golden nuggets, golden nuggets, episode life, love, and laughter. Literally what the three things are in our title: live your life, create laughter, and create legacy.

That's exactly it. Those are the 3 things that you need to do to get you to what you truly want in life. And that's just all of those. Gotta have it. That's the end of it. Mic drop. Nothing else to it.

Cheers, y'all.

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