Why your team doesn’t like you… but won’t say it

23 Apr 2026 · 4 min
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In this advisory talk, Avi Arya explores why team members may harbor resentment toward a leader without voicing it, and offers practical strategies to uncover and resolve hidden tensions. He emphasizes the need to break entrenched patterns by changing the physical environment, taking team members out of the office for walks or informal gatherings, and shifting the communication balance toward listening. Arya discusses how long‑term relationships can become toxic if not periodically reset, and suggests limiting the core team size to a manageable group (around 57 people) to keep dynamics transparent. He outlines the emotional roots of team dislike—anger, fear, and perceived neglect—and recommends a step‑by‑step approach: identify the problem, create a safe space for dialogue, use repeated conversations to gradually surface issues, and employ empathy to preserve valuable relationships while allowing necessary change.

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