The speaker reflects on why people hesitate to acknowledge their tone of voice in relationships, naming four primary barriers: stubbornness, pride, fear, and lack of trust. They argue that the remedy is the opposite qualities—trust, courage, a certain faith, and humility—and emphasize that admitting tone requires vulnerability and a developed level of self-awareness, acceptance, and willingness to be supported. The practice is framed as advanced, meant for those who have awareness of their inner world and readiness to be vulnerable.
I think that's a good practice. I can see how my stubbornness and maybe pride could make it challenging at times. Such a great clarity. Stubbornness and pride. I think that is the two of the universal reasons why we don't do that. And fear. Fear that we're not going to be supported as well. Right. Or a lack of trust that they can. Yes, exactly. Yeah. So you've identified. We've identified four major reasons why we generally don't do it. So what's needed is the exact opposite of stubbornness and pride and a lack of trust and fear. So what's needed is trust, courage, certain kind of faith and humility to be able to come forward and be able to admit what our tone of voice is. Because what we're really doing is we're leaving ourselves vulnerable to being criticized by the other person. See, there you are going again. You're doing it again. And it's really making ourselves naked and vulnerable to do that. But what it's really doing is it's allowing for the possibility that we really can be of enormous healing support for each other. But this is a very advanced and developed practice. This is really only for people who have the awareness of their own inner world, some acceptance of it, have an awareness of their own tone of voice and acceptance of it, and. And a willingness. So this is really quite a developed level of trust and courage and awareness and acceptance.
