A guided-meditation transcript focused on recognizing personal patterns of anger and learning to contain aggression safely rather than expressing it destructively. The speaker instructs listeners (primarily those who overtly express anger) to visualize a safe container for anger, fully feel its nuances, and dignify the emotion as an act of peace and personal development.
So I've talked a bit about the importance of being more aware of our aggression. This is a critical development for each of us to have. And as we become more aware of the ways that we uniquely are aggressive, the next step in really developing is learning how to contain it in a way that isn't going to be destructive to ourselves and isn't going to be destructive to those around us. Now, it's important before we even go into containment to recognize that about 80% of us, in my experience, at least, have a tendency to express aggression in some very overt way. That could be anywhere from contracting our muscles to being irritable or impatient or frustrated, to being downright angry or superior. There's a lot of different forms, and 20% really are just completely passive and are already overly containing themselves, and perhaps we could say are even those that are inhibited. This particular meditation is aimed at the 80% who have a way of expressing anger and aggression that is not serving their lives. So take a look and see where you yourself uniquely have a way of expressing aggression. And as you're looking right now inside yourself, let yourself visualize the one or two most frequent and disturbing ways that aggression is happening in your life and really visualize the key relationship or relationships that have this tendency to have a.
Reoccurring pattern where they frustrate you, where.
They irritate you, where they make you feel aggressive, and just take a few.
Seconds to contact that place inside your.
Body, inside your emotions, and feel the nuances, because we oftentimes don't feel the nuances and just get a kind of skim view of what our aggression is, which doesn't really allow us to do this next critical stage of development, which is this containment. And what I'd like you to visualize is just this wide open arms or some kind of a protective container that your anger gets to be in, where it's a safe place. It's like a padded cell where you get to be outrageous. You get to express what. Whatever it is that you're frustrated towards, whatever it is you're impatient towards, whatever you're irritated towards. And it's completely being viewed while you're containing it as a positive.
It's very, very important that you realize.
That when you're in this safe container and you're not just dumping this towards the people that you normally would, or not just subtly, just contracting in a relatively more sneaky way, expressing it, but instead you're dignifying it by animating it, by dramatizing it in this safe container. That you are then developing a much deeper, aware, contained relationship with your anger. And when you're doing this, it's important that you congratulate yourself that what you're doing is an act of peace. Because normally what happens is you're leaking.
All over the place. Most of us have a tendency to.
Just have this way of leaking or.
Expressing and not staying aware and rationalizing and justifying. Well, I'm doing it because this person deserves it. I'm doing it because they were meaner.
Than I was, or they were being irritable with me.
And we generally don't have this capacity to create this what I would call a sacred containment. So right now, visualize yourself being as frustrated, as impatient, as irritated as possible. If anything, be more outrageous, be more permissive. And again, keep staying aware that you're in a safe circumstance. So now's the time to fully let yourself feel this part of yourself. And in doing this, recognizing that you're taking a very key step towards being peaceful, towards ultimately developing the capacity to be strong in a real sense of strong. Not just reactively impulsive and aggressive, but actually having a chance to store this power that we could call like nuclear power. And instead of sending it out into your world around you, you're putting it into a generator. You're putting it into a container that's a storehouse for your passion. It's a storehouse for other qualities that can emerge. And as you're really giving yourself permission to be as fully aggressive as possible, recognize that this is a lifelong dedication. Recognize that you want to encourage yourself to go to the self container.
Recognize that it requires a continuous dedication to the awareness of the anger and aggression. And that as you do this more and more in your life, you're creating the optimal conditions for intimacy and peace.
