A short reflective talk encouraging listeners to notice and feel disappointment in others as information about unmet needs. The speaker urges taking responsibility by identifying one’s dominant needs, asking for them clearly and directly, and appointing oneself as the guide rather than holding others accountable. The piece invites comments and questions from the audience.
Do you have significant disappointment with others? Feel the disappointment deeply and let it make you clear whether you need to ask more directly or realize the other doesn't want what you want and therefore let go. Look for what you need more inside and appoint yourself in charge to express the need and it will be obvious how much the other is interested or not. The odds look a lot better that way. Ask now what are my dominant needs that have left me disappointed with whoever they arise with, and am I doing what is possible in the way I ask for what I need? Are you directly asking with a good vibe? Can you gather the courage, the wisdom and the humility to flip the script by appointing yourself to be your guide? When you catch yourself making others accountable for your needs and expectations, you get to make it your move. I'd be very happy to answer questions. Please leave your comments below.
