Robert J. StrockFounder, Awareness That Heals · Awareness That Heals

The Paradox of Healing Grief

30 Nov 2010

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A brief dialogue from a YouTube video titled "The Paradox of Healing Grief" about supporting people in deep emotional/physical pain. A questioner asks what to say to someone trying to help a loved one in pain; the respondent advises resisting the urge to fix, tolerating another's suffering, having the courage to 'be exactly where you are' without trying to change it, and, if possible, finding someone with an open heart who can simply be present and available without performing or pressuring change.

Where some people would choose to rush in and fix and put a band aid and wouldn't have any ability to.
Tolerate that.
Degree of pain because I was in horrible pain. You didn't do that. Where does that come from in you? And how do people. I'm thinking about somebody, maybe a viewer, somebody watching this who's trying to support somebody else they love, who's in pain. What would you say to them?
Have the courage to be exactly where you are without trying to change it at all. No performance, no pressure at all to change. And if possible, look for someone with an open heart that can just be with you and have the generosity, if possible, to be available to let somebody care for you without trying to change at all.