Transcript of a group meditation and reflective discussion exploring the contrast between righteousness/condescension and humility. Participants describe using humility as an anchor during difficult interpersonal moments, noting effects on tone, self-awareness, curiosity, and emotional healing; the session emphasizes opening the heart, resisting defensive patterns, and practicing loving responses when feeling misunderstood.
It was really helpful when you said the opposite of being righteous or being condescending is being humble. Because in my mind, when we were in the meditation, I wanted to touch on the opposite. And I was like, well, what is it? And it felt such a relief to have something to attach it to. And for me, I think that is the hardest part in those moments is that there is some awareness of an internal desire to not be in the state. But because there's no tangible knowing of what the opposite is, or that the opposite is even the answer, there's a tendency to go into old patterns in that moment. So that was helpful.
That is so beautifully put. And so the humility, being the opposite of condescension and then having an anchor towards the humility is such a healing place. And it really is reinforcing the opening of your heart rather than reinforcing the defense structure. And you're saying that you have this desire to go somewhere. That's the anchor, that's the soul, that's the essential nature. And so it's so beautiful that you recognize that there is that desire. And that desire really exists in almost all of us. And so if we can find a way to touch that desire to reinforce that desire rather than a defense. It's such a beautiful healing way of being, but yet it requires self awareness, it requires awareness of tone. It requires being willing to not want to be right, but instead wanting to be open hearted and to find that place that you're talking about.
It felt very loving meditation. It was. Felt like it was learning how to love myself and how to be loved. It was just kind of a practice of how to do that. And it felt good just mentally, just as you were getting the meditation, just the thoughts and just the play felt nice.
It's great.
Yeah, it was really helpful because even your tone of voice through the meditation would kind of. It almost felt like a. Not a blanket, but a soft kind of hold around what was already naturally wanting to come out but wasn't inside of me. Wasn't sure. You know, for example, when you were talking about. So you're in that place and you're in a tough spot and you're asking for help, and you're asking for help isn't being met the way that you want it to be. And then you feel the surge of that tone come up even more. The tone of your voice in that moment. It was like, yeah, you know, the part of me was like, yeah, now what?
Now what?
And I was kind of hanging and that it really. It felt. So it opened me to curiosity versus what I'm used to experiencing, which is a sense of shutdown.
That's great.
Yeah, yeah.
And that curiosity and what also seems to me like the open heartedness as well.
Yeah.
Is such a inspiring place to have faith in. It's like investing your faith in that part of you that really does want to open even when you're feeling misunderstood, which is just extraordinary. That's the place of liberation, that's the place of freedom and that's the place that's so rare because you normally feel if you don't give it to me, well then I'm not going to give it to you. So it's going beyond that. It really, in a sense it's going beyond the Old Testament of an eye for an eye and a tooth for tooth and it's going into the place of I'm going to actually look for a place to be loving even if I don't feel loved.
