Betsy Guerra describes co-parenting after divorce with her first husband, who came over every Monday for family dinners. What started as emotionally difficult became easier over time, and they still share holidays and birthdays together to see their grown children.
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My first husband would come over every week, usually more than once a week, but every Monday he came over for dinner at a certain time. And in the very beginning, it was very hard. He would come, he would sit at his same spot in the table, and he knew where the mustard was, and he knew where to, you know, put stuff in the fridge. He knew that the oven was a little hot. He would help me with the grill, he knew, because that was his house, just, you know, two weeks before or four weeks before. And we would sit there, and it was so comfortable and it was so familiar, and it felt so good. And then he would go home to his new home. And it was like. It was debilitating. But I did it. And it got easier. It's like a muscle, you know, it got easier, but I. It cost me. Did it cost me? It did cost me, but it didn't cost me very much. And we had dinner as a family, once a week, twice a week, whatever it was. And to this day, every holiday, every birthday, whenever they come in, because they're all grown up now, we both want to see them. So it's not one night with him, one night with me. We try to do it all together every minute.
