Betsy Guerra says self-limiting beliefs hold you back from what you want. She rewired hers through repeated affirmations, even ones that felt like lies at first. She listed 115 traits for a partner and says her husband has 150 of them.
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Every person that comes to see me, whether it's for individual couples therapy or a speaking engagement, wants something. They want change because they're a certain way and that's preventing them from becoming what they want that certain way. That they are like that personality that they have. Those ideas that they have believed about themselves are called self limiting beliefs. Those are the things that prevent you from doing, becoming, getting what you dream of. So if we've thought in our lives because somebody told us and we believed it, or because it's what we believe wholeheartedly, that we are not good enough, that we're never gonna have the fulfilling love relationship that we aspire to attain, that we can never acquire the success that we covet others. If we've learned to believe that, if we think that, often our brains take that as truth and it doesn't question it. So now it's part of your personality. Oh no. This is how I am. I am this way. And I'm not meant to be grand like you. And I am not as confident as you. And I suffer from anxiety and I have adhd. You've learned to believe all these things as if they were true. And you talk about them with such conviction, but they're habits. You are none of that. Those are things that you may have experienced, but that's not who you are. And you can change that. So if you start believing and understanding that what you are allowing yourself to be limited by is not part of you and can be changed, then we're on to something. So let me tell you how to do that. If you want to outsmart your brain and you want to create new habits that are going to serve you, that are going to allow you to get to where you want to get to and be successful the way you define success, then you start with positive affirmations, talking yourself into becoming what you want to become. And the way you do that is by lying. You don't believe you're good enough. You don't believe you're the best in math. You don't think somebody can fall madly in love with you and treat you like a queen. I don't care. You lie to yourself because that's what you want. So you tell yourself, I am so lovable, anybody would love to be with me. The man that I'm looking for is out there seeking me and it's just a matter of time before he finds me. And we're going to have the most amazing, fulfilling relationship. I did that. I wrote a list of everything I wanted in a man and my husband. It was 115 things, by the way. And my husband has 150 of those. 115. So it is possible to manifest, to make your dream a reality by just telling yourself what you want to believe. Because our subconscious minds believe whatever we tell it. That's why we're so full of these lies. That's why we've allowed our minds to believe that we are something. That something so much smaller than what we really are. You were created for greatness.
