Betsy GuerraBilingual Keynote Speaker, Psychotherapist/Coach, Author, Leadership Training and Life Coach Certification

How YOUR BELIEFS are created #podcast #psichology

27 Apr 2026 · 1 min

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In this solo segment, Betsy Guerra explains how children develop limiting self‑beliefs through repeated negative messages from parents and caregivers. She describes how overprotective or overbearing behavior often leads adults to say things like “You’re not good enough,” “That’s too hard for you,” or “You’ll get sick if you try,” which, when heard repeatedly, become internalized sentences. These repeated statements become automated thoughts, and over time solidify into core beliefs such as “I’m not smart enough” or “I’m not athletic.” Guerra illustrates how these beliefs then influence behavior, causing a person to attribute failures (e.g., a bad test score) to an underlying sense of inadequacy, thereby reinforcing the belief loop.

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You grow up hearing, "You're not good enough. You don't have what it takes. It's too hard to do that." Sometimes we as parents trying to be overprotective or overbearing or like helping a little too much. I know I've failed with that many times. We convey the message to our kid that our kid doesn't have what it takes to do it on his or her own. And what we're trying to do is help. But if we're constantly saying like, "No, I got this. No, that's too hard. No, that's too much for you. You're not that athletic." Or, "No, you're sick. You're gonna get sick if you do that." If you've constantly heard those sentences, sentences from the outside world, you start believing them in your inside world, in your mind. I'm not good enough. I don't have what it takes. I'm not as smart as my sister. You start believing those things because they've been repeated. So now every time you get something wrong in a test, you're like, it's because I'm not good enough. So now you've made those your sentences. The more they're repeated, the more they're automated, and when they're automated, they become beliefs.