Christina Perez and Luli B. Carreras share how Betsy Guerra's Hurt to Hope program helped them through grief from death, divorce, and loss. Both credit Betsy with teaching them to transform pain into purpose and find strength on what Luli calls the "hope side."
My name is Christina Perez. My Hurt to Hope journey started when my father was diagnosed with cancer. And that's when I really started to see Betsy as a patient. And she was there every step of the way. She helped us realize that through this journey, we can grow closer as a family. We can grow closer to God. And once he passed, she helped us realize that we don't have to dwell in this pain and suffering. There is light at the end of the tunnel. There is hope after hurt. You can feel the hurt and you can get to the joy. Sometimes it takes a while, but she definitely leads you that way. It has absolutely made an impact in my life. She makes me want to live my best life for myself and my family and not dwell in the suffering and in the pain. You can move forward. You can be happy again. That's the biggest takeaway. Hurt to Hope is grief. But with growth, Hurt to Hope is kind of a promise that you're hurting, but you can get through it, and you'll get through it a stronger and better person for it. For me, my biggest thing with Hurt to Hope was the how. We've heard Betsy's story. We know she's the happiest woman on earth, but I wanted to know how I could be the happiest woman on earth. This is the how. So this is your to do list.
So my name is Luli B. Carreras, and I know Betsy because she became my client and then I became hers. I had the incredible honor to be able to be guided by this woman. I learned, even through my divorce, is that divorce is grief. Grief doesn't only come in the form of losing a loved one to death. Grief is a divorce, is filing for bankruptcy, is losing a job, is even moving to a different state or having a child leave home to go to college. It's all different stages of our lives and some form of loss. We really can turn our hurt into hope, that we can take our pain and turn it into purpose, and that we can become a better version of ourselves as a result of all of our experiences. You know, one of my favorite things that Betsy always says is pain is awesome. I remember times in my conversations with Betsy when she would say that to me, and I didn't like hearing that very much because as someone who prides on herself, on being so positive, I don't like experiencing pain. And now I get it because I'm on the other side. I'm on the hope side, and I get how powerful pain is now when I'm experiencing heartache or a challenge or an obstacle. I'm like, bring it on. Because I know what's on the other side. And it's through what Betsy has taught me and through her to hope that I've been able to see how powerful it is.
Hurt.
To hope is the lifeline that those that have experienced pain and suffering and.
Despair.
Need in their life. Others need to understand that someone as special as she is, as genuine and sincere, as loving, as caring, as selfless as she is, lived hell on earth but at the same rate, came out of it. Where some feel that they're so lost in the world and that nothing can be fixed and there's no light at the end of the tunnel, she's lit that flame. She's given hope through her story, through her experience. She's created that. And it's a gift. Makes you realize that as strong as someone appears to be, we're all fragile inside. And we all go through our emotions, and we all go through our suffering and our pain. And it's our choice to decide whether we want to stay in that or if we want to evolve from that and grow from that.
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