Love Languages and Valentine's Day Gifts

You're probably one of two types of people. Either you had Valentine's Day all figured out two months ago, or it's the week of Valentine's Day and you have yet to even think about it. This has to do with your love language. Gary Chapman developed the idea of the five love languages. These are gifts, words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, and physical touch. Knowing your love language and the love language of those around you helps you guys communicate so much better because you can show love and receive love in the way that works best for each of you individually. For example, my love language is quality time. So knowing that my husband can do things to spend time together to help me to feel love in the best way, and I know that his love language is words of affirmation, and that's not something that comes naturally to me. So I work even harder to do show him words of affirmation to help him to feel loved in the best way that he can. In light of Valentine's Day, here are some ideas on how you can use the love languages to make this Valentine's Day even better. As I mentioned, my love language is quality time. So something that's a really great gift. For people whose quality time is their number one love language is experiential gifts. Actually, you can just look on Groupon and click on the tab things to do, and there's a whole list of all kinds of ideas in your area where you can just check out all kinds of things to do and. And that's a great way to show someone you want to spend quality time with them and give it as a gift for a special day like Valentine's Day. For people whose love language is words of affirmation, like my husband, something that can be so nice for them is writing a letter, showing them and telling them how much you love them and the reasons why you love them. Something that you know they're gonna really appreciate because it's affirming their goodness and how much you love them through those words that they receive so well and feel so loved by. For someone whose love language is acts of service, a really great gift for them this Valentine's Day could be a homemade coupon book. In the coupon book, you could put things such as doing the dishes, doing the laundry, picking up the kids from school, something that you wouldn't normally do, but would be a really great way to show them that you're serving them and loving them through that. Another example would be if they've been saying something like they've been meaning to clean out their car or something big like that. You could surprise them by cleaning out their car for them. And, and what better way to serve them and love them by doing that. Since we're talking about giving gifts for Valentine's Day, we're going to end with the fifth love language, which is gifts. For someone whose main love language is gifts and that's how they feel loved, this is going to be an easier task for you. But someone whose gifts is low on their love language, like me, gifts is not something that I really pay attention to or connect with very well. You can still make this gift really meaningful. For example, flowers. Just the gift of flowers wouldn't necessarily mean too much to me. But my husband knows that I love watering plants, watching them grow, seeing life come to them and watching them bloom. And so he got me a gift of flowers, but he intentionally got me tulips that were closed and hadn't bloomed yet. And when he gave them to me, he told me, I got you these tulips that were still closed because I know that you love to watch things grow so you could water them and see them bloom over time. And that was so meaningful to me because I knew that he intentionally thought of what I liked and why I would like these flowers specifically. It wasn't just any flowers off the shelf, but he thought of me and he loved me well through that gift. While you've been watching this video, you might have realized what your love language is. We tend to recognize how we want to receive love. And one thing I've realized from working with couples that I've seen over and over again with so many different people is that we tend to love our significant other in the way that we want to receive love. So this is where a lot of miscommunication comes in. People are trying to love the other person, but the other person is feeling not so loved. And this is where the love languages come in. When we love each other in the way that they want to and best receive love, then we feel that love. And it also makes you do a lot less work. You don't have to do a million things, you just have to love them in the way that they best receive love. So I want you to go online. There's a short five minute quiz that you can take to find out what your love language is. And, and your significant other can take it and tell you what their love language is. And this can help you guys to have the best Valentine's Day yet, because you're going to know how to love them in the way that they best receive love. Sa.