A short YouTube talk by Betsy Guerra explaining that emotional pain must be felt and embraced to heal. Uses a piggy-bank metaphor to show how repeated grieving cushions future pain, includes a personal anecdote about her daughter’s death to illustrate healing over time, and cautions against dwelling in victimhood. Ends with a call-to-action (like/subscribe and a website link).
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Today we're going to talk about why you should embrace pain. Our brains are wired to keep us safe, and one of the ways it does that is by keeping us away from pain. So if you touch something that's pinchy or hot, you're immediately going to take your hand off of it because your brain tells you there's danger that hurts. Take your hand away so that you don't get hurt. And we do the same thing with our emotions. If we are offended by someone. If a loved one tells you something that hurts, you tend to push back, escape the pain, not worry about it, and just try to forget that it even happened. But when you don't feel that pain, it becomes deeper. So when it comes to the psyche or emotional pain, the brain doesn't know what to do. It pushes back from pain, but it's. It's not going to allow us to heal if we do that. So it is important to embrace pain. When you embrace pain, when you feel it, you're healing. The only way of overcoming emotional pain is by feeling it. So think of a piggy bank. If you have a ceramic piggy bank and you put quarters inside and there's nothing in the piggy bank, when it falls, it's going to feel like it's going to travel forever and. And then it's going to hit the ceramic in the bottom and it's going to hurt the quarter. Well, at the beginning, when we start feeling pain, it feels like that quarter that's traveling a long time, so it lasts longer, and then it hurts when you get to the bottom to the hard ceramic. But the more tears you shed, the more you allow yourself to feel and embrace that pain, the more of a cushion there is. So as time goes by, when the pain, when the quarter falls into the ceramic pig bank, it doesn't travel as much, it doesn't last as long, and it doesn't hurt that badly. The other day, I was thinking about my daughter, whom I lost six years ago. And I remember feeling that pain. And I felt a tear, just one tear go down my face. And I remember thinking, wow, if this would have been six years ago, I would have been crying, crying like a crazy person for an hour. And it was just a tear before I had a chance to embrace the fact that I have a child in heaven and I'm VIP in heaven. And I was able to refocus and change the perspective because I have healed. I have embraced and felt that pain. Now I have to say that pain is not about using it as a lifestyle. Like, oh, let me be a victim and feel this pain. Because Betsy says it's important of feeling the pain and embracing it is to overcome it, not to dwell on it. So don't wobble on your pain. Don't use it to be a victim and to create excuses. Use it only to overcome it and to fill that piggy bank. If you enjoyed this video, please like and subscribe and share with someone that needs to hear this message. And for more tools and resources, I'm here to serve you. So go to betterwithbetsy.com.
