Betsy GuerraBilingual Keynote Speaker, Psychotherapist/Coach, Author, Leadership Training and Life Coach Certification

The Secret To Real Connection

21 Sept 2025 · 0 min

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A short excerpt from Betsy Guerra's YouTube video "The Secret To Real Connection" advising people to shift from blaming others to self-reflection and accountability in relationships. Guerra emphasizes asking "What part did I play?" focusing on understanding and validating the other person, and cultivating humility as a source of interpersonal power to build genuine connection.

Instead of focusing on what the other person did wrong and blaming him or her for the problem in the relationship, I get to consider, what do I have to do with this? What part did I play? Focus on how can I understand my person better? How can I validate him or her? How can I really connect with what matters to him or her? Why is she feeling this way? We have power when we're humble and accountable.