Betsy Guerra explains why trying to fix someone's pain often backfires. Instead of distracting them or pushing them to move on, sit with them, listen, and offer physical comfort. Pain is part of healing, not something to eliminate.
When you want to rescue someone you love from pain please remember this if you have a loved one who's going through adversity or hardship you're going to want to protect them from their pain. You're going to want to tell them don't cry and you want to distract them and you want to not mention the thing that they're going through so that they don't remember and we think that by avoiding the tears and the suffering in that person we're helping them. But the truth is that pain is the path to healing and joy pain. Pain is not the destination and feeling it is healing it. So when you want to support a loved one through their pain and hardship do this instead. Let them feel hold space for them, be present, lend your shoulder, let them cry. You be uncomfortable with their pain because that's what's showing them how much you love and care. In the process know that they're healing they're not just feeling.
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