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As a leader, how do you talk so other people really listen? You know, it's not about volume. It's not about getting your way. If you can just for a moment take a breath and think about getting your ego out of the way. What do I mean by that? Well, your ego is your need to be right, your need to be, to be seen as being right. Your desire to exert your will over someone else. Also, if you could get your person, your charming personality out of the way, that's not the real you. In other words, if you feel like I've got to change my personality a little bit in order for people to get what I'm talking about, get rid of all that. Stop walking on eggshells or walking inside of an eggshell, okay? Get your ego out of the way. Get rid of your need to be anything. Be person to person, heart to heart, being to being. And that vibration will transmit very quickly and other people will get it or they'll start to settle down so that they'll get it. But if you go into ego, you need to be right. You need to be seen as blank, blank, blank, blank, blank. They're going to resist that. They're going to respond to that. Respond from here, not from here. And not from some charming facade or personality that you're going to put on to try to convince them. Just be you for a moment. Great leaders bring out the best in others by always striving to be the best of themselves. If you can do that, it's a win, win deal. Be amazing.