Blair Singer teaches a simple anchoring technique: physically celebrate every win with a gesture like a fist pump and say "yes" so you can trigger that confidence later when facing fear. The conditioned anchor boosts performance and shifts how you see yourself.
Hi, this is Blair Singer, author of A Little Voice Mastery. How to Win the War between youn ears in 30 seconds or less. One of the most powerful, quickest, most effective, most commonly used little voice tools, the one I'm going to show you right now. If you ever watch sports, anybody scores a goal, crosses the goal line, does something positive, scores a basketball instinctively, what do the players do? Of course, they celebrate. And there's a reason for it. Not only because there's a feeling of exhilaration, but in fact, if you're going to build strength and you want to build energy, remember in business, two people come together. Person with highest energy generally wins. By the way, this is also true when you're dealing with your kids. Also true in a sales call is that you've got to be able to maintain a high performance level, high energy. So how do you do that every time you get a win? What do you got to do? Celebrate. The problem is most people don't celebrate. What they do is, oh, that was okay, wasn't good enough, could have done it better, all those kinds of little voice issues. But if you notice any athlete, even though they get tackled, they don't make the touchdown, they come up, what do they do? Give a high five. Headbutts, which I don't recommend, but some sort of physical, mental, emotional anchor to anchor that win. Remember we talked earlier about a technique where, where when the face of fear, you recall success. This is how you do it. In the moment you have the success. Make a right, take your right hand, make a fist, pull in and say, yes, give somebody a high five. Whatever it takes to physically and mentally anchor it. Why not only does it bring your energy up in the moment, but it seals that inside as a positive anchor. That later when you're facing the fear, you have doubts or, or whatever the adversity is coming on, you've got. Your tank is now full of wins. So that when you, even if you can't remember one at the time of fear, you just go, yes, like this, the energy comes back. It's very Pavlovian. If you keep. Yes, yes. Every time you get a win in the face of fear, you go, yes. And what happens is the energy comes back again. So celebrate all wins. The other thing it'll do, it'll totally shift your workplace. I'll shift the. The way people deal with each other. Most of the time, people go to work to be competently miserable. I don't know about you. I like to go to a place where it's electric people are feeling good acknowledging each other. Because at the end of the day, you have something called your self concept. And your self concept needs to know that it's valuable, needs to know that it's worthwhile. And when you celebrate your own win, you're giving acknowledgement to yourself. When you acknowledge somebody else's win makes them feel good about who they are. Try it. You'll like it.
