The One Thing You Absolutely Need for Team Success

Hi, this is Blair. Hope you're having a great weekend wherever you are in the world. I wanted to share with you one thing that I think will change your life today. Have you ever had a problem getting a teammate aligned? Have you ever had situation where you had a group of people that under normal circumstances, they work together really, really well, but then when things start to hit the fan, everybody kind of runs for cover, covers their own behind. I've had numerous people come to me and say, you know, I got this great team, but I just can't get them all to agree. And, you know, some of them don't show up on time, and it's really difficult to pull a team together. And as I ask them questions, I find out that the absence of this one thing that I'm going to share with you is the source of the problem and the source of the solution. So I'm going to share this with you today. It's one rule, one rule that if you apply this not only to yourself but to your teams, will change the entire complexion of your business, your team, and if it's for you alone, change your life. I know that it changed the trajectory of my entire life when I saw this. And I'm actually going to put it on a flip chart here for you to see, okay? So you can commit it to memory. Now, I wish I could tell you this flip chart I'm about to show you is unique in that I created it. I didn't. It was shown to me, and it was shown by that to that person. It been around a rule, been around for a long, long time. As a matter of fact, whenever I work with a team or I work with a group of individuals, this is the first thing that I do is we create something called a code of honor. Code of honor, which is a set of rules. Now, I'm not going into that now. I'm just going to give you the one most important rule that you got to have if you're going to have any kind of team that works. I. I don't care how many rules you have. If you don't have this rule, if you don't have this rule for yourself, you're not going to accomplish much success with yourself or with your team. So you ready for this? All right, good. So, first of all, we know that you have a little voice in your head, a little voice that tells you when you're doing good things and bad things, you're not good enough and all that stuff. But most the reason I'm referring to the Little voice is a lot of times when we make mistakes or things go wrong on a team, the first thing that people. What pops up in your brain is a little voice. Could be you, could be your team that does something like this. It might go into something I call denial. Denial. Hope you can see that. Denial, right? What's that mean? That means you just lie about it. You don't tell anybody about it. You forgot to submit your numbers, but you didn't tell anybody. Just, I don't know, I didn't know anything about it. Right. Denial. Now this is particularly significant for yourself. If you have bad, if your finances are in bad shape and you're just ignoring it, you're not only in denial, you're in delusion, which is another subject for another time. Now if your brain comes a little bit out of the gutter from this, typically because remember, we don't like to admit we've made mistakes. Right? Because it makes us look bad and reminds us of all the times we screwed up. Okay, well do something like this, lay blame. Now some of you are looking at this. Oh, I've seen this before. I know you've seen it before, but I thought my team had seen it before. And when I went through it with them, they go, I'm not quite sure I remember how that really works. I want you to get it to understand this flip chart right here is not paper thin. This is years thick as it is for you. If you're willing to take a look at this. How many times have you blamed somebody else? But wasn't my problem. My teammates messed it up. It was my coach's problem, it was my boss's problem, it was my wife's problem, my husband, you know, blame somebody else takes the burden off of you. Okay, because. But the problem with that is either here you're a liar like that. Here you're a victim. You like being a victim. I don't think you like being a victim. But every time you. And even if there are other people to blame, I, I'm not saying they're not to blame, but by you blaming them doesn't do you any good and it blows teams apart. The next thing that happens for some people is they go into this level, which is to justify. They're just going to justify. Well, you know, I didn't know, I'm new. Nobody told me that could be even denial or a lie. Right, but we justify. Basically, you make excuses. How many times have you made excuses for your non performance? You know, some people say that if you accept Excuses. You're also admitting that you're stupid. You're also, you know, it's an excuse and you're going to go with it anyway. That lets everybody, yourself and everybody know that you're not capable and you're a little bit dumb. So don't do that. In 1982, when I sat and saw this flip chart for the very first time, I was sitting in a workshop on the heels of a painful divorce, a business that was floundering mediocre sales. And when the instructor put this, my mentor put this flip chart up on the wal on the stage, it changed my life. Because he says, you can't maximize your learning. This excuse making, finger pointing and lying blow every team apart. Every team apart. It blows your life apart if you allow it to persist. He said this. He says, only from there's only one point of view can you be successful from. You got to eliminate this and come from the perspective of being 100% responsible. Responsible. Now, like I said, some of you may have seen this before, but I want you to understand that if you have a team that's not aligned, it's because of this flip chart. If you've got rules that people aren't playing by, let's say we have a rule that says be on time. And person says, well, you know, there was a lot of traffic and that's the reason I was late. Where's that? That's justifying or even blaming. If your finances aren't the way you wanted, say, well, nobody told me. Nobody ever taught. I didn't learn in school. That's no excuse. Take responsibility. One rule in your code of honor, by the way. If you want a copy of my code of honor, just make a comment anywhere here, say that you're interested in, I'll send you my code, okay? I'll send you the whole code of honor that I personally use. It's the baseline of everything I do. But if there is no set of rules that has any teeth whatsoever, if it doesn't have this rule, and the rule is no denial, no just blaming, no justifying everybody, not just the boss, not just you, everybody takes 100% responsibility. What's that mean? Well, that meant for me in 1982, that I wanted to. I was blaming my ex wife for all my demises in my relationships. And the truth of it is I had to take 100% responsibility for that. If I didn't have money, I have to take responsibility for that. If you have teammates on your team and you really want them to be Their best. Then put this rule as if you only have one rule in your code of honor, in your whole team. This is the rule. Everybody takes 100% responsibility for everything, not just some things. Well, I can't be responsible for things I'm not responsible for. That's justification. Of course you can be responsible. Responsible doesn't mean that you could have changed what happened. But you're responsible for how you're going to respond to it. How are you going to respond to it? You respond to it by blaming somebody. Victim. Okay. Justify excuses and denial. You're just a liar. Everybody understand? Yeah. Okay, good. So here's the thing again. If you want my code of honor, just comment anywhere in here and I'll send you my code of honor. But I guarantee you, any code of honor you've ever seen that I've been a part of. Our team's a part of. This rule has got to be a part of it. Otherwise there's no teeth. Otherwise the people will make excuses and blame. This flip chart right here changed the trajectory of my life. It allowed me to do what I do today. It allowed me to be here today with you. It's allowed me to have the health, the wealth, the fantastic business and relationships. But you have got to have this rule for yourself, amongst others. Okay? So if you want my personal code of honor, the code of honor for business, just comment anywhere. I'll send it to you. I wanted to put this out here because when I realized that my team didn't quite get it. They said, oh, that's a flip chart. No, it's not a flip chart. It's a way of life. It's a commitment that you make to yourself. But if you don't put it in writing and you don't get people to agree to it, there is no rule. You know, it's a nice idea to stop at a red light, but I don't feel like I want to do that today because I'm in a hurry. So I'm going to run right through it. You're not going to do that. Why? Because it's a rule. You don't go through a red light. You don't drive your car through a red light. Okay? This is a rule. You don't operate a team unless every. And if a person doesn't want to do this, you don't want them on your team. Got it? Now, are we all going to make mistakes? Of course we are. We catch ourselves doing it because our little voices are hyperactive. But if you've got this in place, and you have a reason to stop and call each other and say, whoa, hold on a second. Stop making excuses. You're better than that. You're better than that. All you're watching this. You're better than this. I want you to share this video with everybody on the planet. Everybody you know, Think about it. If every business, if every politician, if every leader played by this rule, 100%, not 90%, not 99%, 100%, our world would be completely different than it is today. You want to make a change in the world? Share this video Share this video with everybody, with your. With your friends, with your family, and make sure that they understand that it's not just a flip chart. It's a commitment you make to yourself. And when you do it, like in 1982, can I say I'm perfect? No. But when I made a commitment to it back in 1982, that was many, many years ago. It changed the whole course of my life. And it will change yours, too. And it'll change theirs, too. And if they don't want to play by this rule, make sure it's in writing. They don't want to play by this rule, you don't want them on your team. Trust me. Got it. Okay. Well, thank you for listening to my rant today. The single most important rule of your code of honor. If you want a code of honor, just make a comment that you want it, and I'll get to you. Okay? Until then, be amazing and be responsible. Love you guys.