Three Things that will Get You Through These Times

Things. Happy Thursday. Good to see you all again. Good to see you wherever you are, anywhere in the world. This is our time to stream and ask some questions and talk about some things, hopefully, that are relevant to you. I'm Blair Singer and I've got some great questions from last week that people had. So I want to address some of those. But the big topic today are the three things that are going to get you through difficult times. Now, that's kind of an old saying, like, oh, yeah, big deal. This. What three are these? But these, these three are timeless. And they were shared today by one of my teachers, Mac Newton. M a C K last name Newton N E W T o n. And he said this before our workout today. And it was very, very. It was very impactful to me. So I want to go into that. But I want to thank you guys for being here. Thank you for supporting this. Mostly. Thank you for engaging. Okay. For asking good questions. I mean, I could sit here and talk for a while, but could be pretty irrelevant to anybody else but me. So you guys are. It's your life, it's your world, it's your questions. And if I can't answer it, there's the. The people that come on this call are brilliant, every one of them. And the answer will find an answer for you. And don't think that anything's too silly or too small or too big. So thanks for being here. One of the. I just wanted to address a couple of questions. We talked about the. What do we talk? We talk about the, the. The. The raging pandemic. That's not a virus. That's not the COVID 19 virus. And the raging pandemic is. Is the mental crisis, the mental virus that goes along with it. We spent a couple weeks talking about that and what to do about that for yourself, for your friends, for your colleagues, those kind of people. We also talked about Kilimanjaro. Some of the lessons from kilimanjaro. After I got back, I showed you some amazing pictures, some amazing photos of the place and some of the deep lessons that came from it. Hopefully that was meaningful to you. But today we're going to talk about what you can do going forward. What you can do going forward. So couple of anand I'm sure you're gonna be on here soon. Yes. Hey, good, we got Vietnam on here already. He says this anon says, never let what you have to say as a teacher be so important that you miss what your students really need, really, really need to hear in this global jobless gig. Economy. What's the number one thing students need to hear in this global jobless gig? Economy. BLAIR Singer. Okay, first of all, this is kind of interesting because down here, somebody else asked, record number of people are leaving their jobs. Is that a good thing? Are we in an entrepreneur boom? Where do we start? Okay, so on one side you have somebody says that it's jobless, and. And other people say they're quitting their jobs. And the recent US Statistics say there are more available jobs in America now than almost in the history of America. So depends what country you're in, depends what mindset you're in, and it also depends what you're looking for. So again, it's all a matter of perspective. And I think that the first thing that a person needs to do, my thought is check your environment. Are there really jobs or no jobs, or they're just not jobs that are tasteful to you? So what is the biggest secret? What is the number one thing people need to hear? I have no clue. If I were to say, but if I were pressed against the wall, I'd say, what's the number one thing people need to hear? Is probably that there's always hope. There's always hope. And what I mean by hope, there's always an opportunity someplace, if you can find it. Now, sometimes it's harder than others, sometimes it's more difficult than others. But one thing that I've learned over the years is that when that bad, sometimes you find your best partners, your best resources in the middle of a bad situation. And a bad situation, in other words, you know, maybe your business isn't doing so well. You're broke, you, you, you don't have. Things aren't going on, and it's kind of the worst of times. But somehow or other, through your travels and your journey through this, you meet people. You meet some scoundrels, but you also meet some. Some very powerful people, people that can really help you that maybe you'll do business with in the future. So there's always hope, is what I'm saying. And I'd say that don't ever give it up. Don't ever give up the hope. That's the number one thing I want to. I don't know if that's what people want to hear. I think a lot of people want to hear, how do I make some money right now? But I think that you just don't give up hope because there's always hope. That's number one. Number two is if you're going to, if, if you're going to view the world. And I'm assuming this question came from India. Hi, from London. Darcy, if you're going to look at the world and truly in your situation, it's a gig economy, meaning that technology has taken over the world and artificial intelligence is right on our back door, and there's no jobs out there. There's truly no jobs out there, then really, you're left with one option, and that is to become an entrepreneur and create your own job. Okay, to create your own job. Question is, how do you do that? We've talked many, many times that the failure rate is huge. Mostly because people don't have. Not because of their competition, it's because of other people. It's because they don't have the education that they need. Financial education, business education, selling teams, legal stuff, all that kind of thing. So what's your best bet? You know, this is the. I think we're coming up to the 50th anniversary of Rich Dad, Poor Dad. And those of you that have read Rich Dad, Poor dad, good for you. Read it again. Get a group of people, read it again, study it. Take the cash flow game out. Play it, play it again, play it five times. Those. These are the things that you do if you want to move ahead in a crazy place because nobody, nobody else is going to teach it. Here's the other rule. If you want, if you, if there's. If you need to learn something, chances are you're not going to learn what you need to learn from traditional sources anymore, because those sources are tapped. You got to go to other places, like Rich Dad, Poor dad, like great mentors that you'll find on the Internet. But out of all those on the Internet, you gotta. You've gotta suss them out because a lot of them don't know what they're talking about. The ones that do have very limited experience. There are a few out there that are amazingly great. And so you want to find those people and study with them. Christian Oosterveen, great thing. Absolutely. Hope that we can look situations from High's perspective. There's goodness in everything. Life is about the circle of life. The more we grow, the more we create, the more we contribute, the more we grow again. Make a plan for growth and a plan on how to contribute. Thank you so much, Christiane. You know, there's an old law of gratitude that says what you show gratitude for, you get more of. In other words, if you want to get punched in the face, the easiest way to get punched is to punch Somebody else first. If you want to hug, same thing. The easiest way to get a hug is to hug somebody else. So what you're saying is if you contribute to others, it's not only a good thing to do, but there's a law of reciprocity that operates in business and the universe, that if you give, you'll receive. Okay. If you give legitimately and for the right. The right reasons. Okay. So that's one of the reasons I go to Kilimanjaro. The reason I originally went there was not to climb Kilimanjaro. It was mostly to work in the orphanages there and to help these kids. We build our own orphanage there. We've got 10amazing kids in there under the age of five that have been abandoned by society. And we do work with them and we contribute money and we build structures, we build classrooms. We. We, you know, we give them daycare. We. All the things that we can do. And with one of my coaching groups, I'm actually doing a study on this right now. We're studying the great writer, great psychologist, Martin Seligman. Martin Selig. S E L I G M A N and he talks about three aspects of life. And then what I'm not going to go into the other two, but one has, is a life of meaning, which is what Christiane is talking about. A life of meaning is when you listen closely, when you do something for somebody else, when you do something for somebody else just for the sake of doing it for somebody else, something good for them, something. Two things happen. The first thing that happens, and he's done countless psychological studies and case studies and statistics galore, and he says this is that two things happen. Number one, obviously, the person you show gratitude for that you help feels good. They feel good about that because they feel appreciated. Remember, we're creatures of connection, so acknowledgement is critical. But. But the second thing that happens is the feeling that you get Christiane, as a process of giving to somebody else. Now think about it. If you're on the street, if you're not locked down and you go into a shop and somebody else is coming in and you hold the door open for them and they come in, they say thank you, and they walk in. How do you feel? You feel good, don't you? You feel good. Now, what he found out is that good feeling and the endorphins and all the things that flow in your body, he said, last for weeks. Months. Weeks. And sometimes, excuse me, sometimes months. So. And your performance and your happiness go up as a Result. And they did, like I said, banks and banks and banks of studies. As opposed to if you eat chocolate, love chocolate, and you get. And somebody gives you a piece of chocolate. Mmm. That tastes great. So there's an emotion attached to it that's called pleasure. It's good stuff. Emotion attached to pleasure. But what we know is it doesn't last long. And more chocolate doesn't make you feel a lot better, maybe for some people. Okay. So the idea. And this is going to make sense all in a minute. And so I'm glad Christian mentioned it. So your willingness to contribute the second piece is. It has a very long term effect on your happiness, your bigness and your outlook and view of the world and your sense of hope and your sense of optimism. Okay. Which is what he studied. Okay. Very, very powerful. So why do I mention that? One of the best things you can do through these crazy times is find somebody to help. Find somebody to help. Whether you do it full time, part time and for free, whatever. But find somebody to contribute to. I know I'm going to be doing a webinar here in a week or so. We're going to charge $5 for it. This is to. To the country of Vietnam. How to be. How to be a great educator, how to get in the training business. But it's going to be a five minute webinar and the $5 is going back to the Vietnamese government. They're gonna. And our people are checking out exactly where. But that all that money is going back to them to feed people. Because right now in Vietnam, everybody is locked down so tight that nobody's allowed on the streets. The biggest companies in Vietnam have closed down. That's how severe Covid is there. So people are struggling mightily. People don't have food to eat. People are asking their friends for food. So we're gonna take the $5, whatever we raise and that goes to feed and give people food down there to hold them through these crisis. And you know what? Just the thought of doing it makes lights me up personally. And I feel good about it. And I want other people to feel good about helping other people because one of the things you can do, like I said, are you in the usa? Yes, I'm in the usa. I'm in the. Oh, Marius Larue is from South Africa. Very good to see you. Who's this? There we go. So give. What was it? Gandhi said it really well. He says, find yourself by losing yourself in the service of others. I have that little plaque in my. Over my mirror over the sink. And it says, it says, find yourself by losing yourself in the service of others. So contributing is one of the biggest thing, one of the best things you could do. By the way, it's not one of my three that I listed, so now there's four. But, but that's, that's an awesome thing to do. Okay, if you can cover what is the purpose of life? That's a pretty light subject. Rakesh, what's the purpose of life? I, I don't, I have no idea. All I know is whatever you're doing now is probably what you're supposed to be doing. So you're probably doing what you're supposed to be doing. Once you become conscious of it, then you're able to leverage on it. Everybody is where everybody's at and you know, and your decision to change it is up to you and you make the change. That's where you're supposed to be. If you're suffering, that's where you're supposed to be. I don't think anybody's supposed to stay in pain for their entire life unless they choose to. Although. But the question is, what do you learn? What are you going to learn from all that? Okay, so purpose of life, Rakesh. So yeah, we could maybe talk about that a little bit later. Okay, purpose of life. But let me get to the big three right now. The big three. Three things that Matt Newton talked about today that I think should help. First, P stands for preparation. Preparation. And he says this very well now. He's two time world champion in taekwondo. He's worked with the greatest athletes in the world. So he understands competition at a very, very high level and high level of talent. And he says you can do anything, say this slower. You can do anything that you are prepared to do. Now you can climb Kilimanjaro if you're prepared to climb Kilimanjaro. You can build a business if you're prepared to build the business. The problem is world where people are used to short term gratification. People don't like the preparation part. But one of the lessons of Killy is you got to learn that there's the preparation for going to the mountain and then there's climbing the mountain itself. And if you're going to be successful in anything, learn to love both. Love going to the gym. Love the sweat, love the burn of your muscles, love panting for air, you know, when you're running laps or whatever it is that you're doing to get yourself in shape. Learn to love that and love the task because if you're prepared, then you'll do it. If you're not, you'll get spanked on the mountain. And that's a lesson of life. People want to be entrepreneurs. The failure rate is astronomical. Why? Because people are not prepared. They don't study, they don't understand. They don't understand an income statement, a finance, you know, a balance sheet statement of cash flow. They don't know how to sell, so they haven't taken the time to prepare themselves for that kind of stuff. So my suggestion, if you want to be an entrepreneur, if you want to quit your job, which is another topic here for in a second, is to prepare, study, and don't stop studying. I mean, I'm still learning little voice mastery. I gave that, my coaching team, my coaching group, an assignment to study Seligman, to take the learned Optimism test and to debrief that. And I gave them some processes to practice over the last couple weeks. So some of them did, some of them didn't do it. And I said, up to you. But the ones that did it were ecstatic because they're learning and they want to learn more, and they will always do well because they want to learn, because they're always preparing, always preparing for what it is you're strong at. Now, if you don't like playing the violin, you don't need to prepare for playing the violin. But if you love to teach, learn to prepare, study. And for me, preparation is mostly education. You see, study, and you study from the best, and you study whatever you need to study, and you practice and you make mistakes, and you learn by trial and error. Okay. Yeah. So the journey is a reward. Arnaz says entrepreneurship will cut you open and show you who you really are. That is so true. That is so true. Okay. Came to know about you from succession, and you're doing great work in India. Well, it's an honor to do work in India, quite honestly. It's a country that has that for thousands of years is at a very strong spiritual base. And then when the British came in the early 1800s and took over the, the. The Indian continent, or the Indian, the nation, they ripped that out of. Of education. It all became about math, science. That's why you have so many engineers over there now. Okay, maybe. But, but, but the reason I love working with India is I don't have to preach spirituality. I don't have to talk about, you know, working on yourself, because it's somewhere. It's in the DNA of the country. So that's why it's such a rewarding place to work. Okay. Hi, Sivarama. Good to see you. So, yeah, as Anan said, entrepreneurship will cut you open if you're not prepared. Because nobody cares whether you prepared. Nobody cares whether you're prepared. And you'll get knocked down pretty quickly. More importantly, you'll get disappointed. Like, I had this great idea and I thought people would love it. Well, people will love it if you know how to market and sell it to them. And if. And then. But I marketed and sell it to them, but I made all this money, now the money's gone. Yeah, well, because if you don't understand financial statements, you don't understand accounting, you don't have a bookkeeper. So again, these are things that you will learn from by studying the rich dad stuff, by studying some of my stuff on sales. But these are critical. So you can do anything you're prepared to do as long as it's something you want to do. Like I said, you want to play, you don't want. Really want to play the violin, you don't want to prepare for that. Don't worry about it. Now, there's a gray area in health. Everybody wants to be healthy, but they don't like working out. So they have a hard time preparing to. Preparing to build their immune systems, to build their strength, to build their resiliency. So again, it's. What if it's something you want? Then prepare. Okay, Prepare. Direct correlation, second p. Second P is patience. Patience. Patience. The average, you know, to start a small business. The numbers that I've heard, and I don't know where these come from, but numbers I've heard takes three years. It takes up to three years to get a business to begin to start making money and maturing. I mean, if you're going to build a legitimate one. So. But you have to have patience. If you're not ma. If you're not making something happen in like the first two or three months, you're already depressed and you want to quit. No, be persistent. Be persistent. I mean, well, that's the last one be per. Which comes with patience. Understand that you're planting the seeds and the seeds will grow. I'm a very impatient person. When things go crazy and pressure goes up, my emotion goes up. I become very impatient. So it's something I have to learn how to do. I have to learn how to be more. I take courses. I do meditation. I do the morning solitude, miracle mornings. I do all these things on a ritualistic basis because I know I need it to be Able to be more patient of all. Of all things. Okay? So again, patience is important. Be patient with your kids. Be patient with your clients. Be patient mostly with yourself. Give yourself a little bit of a break. You learn something in a workshop, hey, I got it. No, you don't got it. You got it in your head. You don't have it in your body yet. You got to go out and make a few mistakes with it. Get beat around. Beat around the head a few times. Now I get it. Okay? Which brings up the third P, which is, as I said, persistence. Don't quit. If it's something you want, don't quit. I'd say of all those businesses that fail, it's mostly because people just gave up. It became too hard, they got cut open and they bled and they bled and they tried it again. They kind of bled that, you know, somebody stole their business from them or whatever happened, and they just give it up. Be persistent. I think one of the reasons that I'm still doing what I'm doing, we're having any. Any relative degree of success, is because I'm still doing it. And you, if you understand persistence, in any market, if you're persistent at the minimum, even if you're not that good, you'll be the last person standing. The last person standing. So the last person standing, oh, you're still here. And that gives you legitimacy. Okay? So preparation, patience, and persistence. Don't give up. And all of these three things are based upon you doing something that you really want to do, not something that you feel obligated to do or something you should do or something that somebody else wants you to do. Is this something. Goes back to whoever asked about purpose. Is this is something that you want to do? Does that make sense? Yes. Okay, good. Awesome. Good. So again, like I said, I. I believe that you can get through just about anything if you're prepared to do it. So if I have any questions, just feel free to type those in and I'll do my best to answer some of answer or refer you to some of the answers to some of these questions. Okay. There's some here. Welcome. From South Africa, from London. Several people from South Africa. From Toronto, Canada. Yeah. So some of you know me through success, Guyana, we launched a program called Trainer Mastery Program. We take people through a series of programs to become. To become great trainers. Great trainers. Not just good ones, but great. The best goal of, you know, the mission of our business is to create the best teachers, leaders, and facilitators in the world. Because if we do that it changes the way we learn, particularly for adults. And when that happens, a lot of the problems we have out there will get solved by people that don't have their ego in the way they know how to cooperate, work on teams, collaborate and get creative. And that's what's needed. But that's not what school teaches you. Teaches almost the opposite. Okay, when is my new book getting launched? Oh, thank you, new dad. Somebody call me dad. I don't think you're my son. Okay. So anyway, my new book is coming out in the spring. It's called Summit Leadership. It's the lessons of how to take your team to the top. Lessons that I've learned on Kilimanjaro and how they apply to you and your business. Very powerful, with lots of great lessons and stories from the mountain and also some great stories of how you apply it in your business. And it's a step by step process. The purpose of the book is so that anybody that wants to build a team, no matter what level you're doing, has a step by step process to build a true championship team that will pull your butt out of a fire if you need it. Okay, how can you register for Trainer Mastery Program? Well, you can go to Success Gyan SG Success. S U C C E S S Guyana. I think it's spelled G U Y G U Y E N ANAN or somebody like that. You might know how to spell it. You could type it in the, in the comment section so somebody can know how to register for that program. Or you could just come to my website, go to blairsinger.com and let us know that you're interested in that. Or you can just send. Just let us know now and now we know and somebody will follow up with you. Okay, so it's great and it's easy. It's Trainer mastery program is $15. One, five, $15, that's it. Three days, three, four and a half hour days is, it's a, it's a blast. And you will, at the end of that, those three days, you will know. You will know more and be better prepared as a speaker than 95 of the professionals out there that think they're already good. And that's a problem. Promise, you can ask anybody who's been to it and they'll promise that. There you go, Succession. Thank you, Anon. Appreciate that. Almost had it, right? Success Gyan G Y A N so just go check them out. And they have an amazing array of other programs too for entrepreneurship and taught by some of my very, very Good friends and students. Okay. All right. So again, I believe that right now one of the. If I could get one of these questions right here it is. Well, this is a common one. Amiya Karambe says, give a quick lesson for dealing with the Little voice in this tough time. Sakhan asks, why attitude is everything right there? Yeah, right there. Why is attitude everything? So let me link those together. Let me think of those together. So there, you know, in the book Little Voice Mastery, this book here, some of you have seen it before, maybe. This book that I wrote is basically a manual on how to deal with your little voice. Actually on our website, blairsinger.com if you go there, there's a Little Voice challenge, right? There's 21 techniques in here. And on my website, I take, I do. There's 21 videos I take you through so you can master and learn each of those. To learn how to master the little voice. Things like, I'm not good enough. It's too depressing. I can't do it. Why does this always happen to me? All these things that Little Voice does to sabotage you. Secrets are in this book. Secrets are in this book. So that's, that's one thing is, is to understand that there's no one thing, one Little voice thing. The one, if there is one, the one is to know you have a little voice and to know that you can change it. Remember I said in the beginning, it's all about hope. You can change it if you are willing to prepare. Be patient. Persistence with your. Persistent with yourself. Okay? Prepare, study, be patient. Practice it again and again. Be persistent. You'll. Some days you'll be good, some days you won't. But it's the person that is going to understand these three P's that will keep moving through adversity while other people quit. People. Some people don't have time. They switch. They chase shiny objects. But if you're again, first of all find out what it is you want to be doing or a couple of things that you want to do. Okay. We have an amazing. I taught the, the coaching group today or last week our goal setting process, Mac Newton's and my goal setting process to find out your most definite purpose. What is it you really want? So you take, I'll just give it to give you part of it really quickly. You make three columns and one column you label as personal and family. The middle column is business and career. And the last one is self growth. And what you do is you list the five things that you want in each of those Areas. So you have 15 goals, five that you want in each area. Not the ones other people want you to have, not the ones you feel obligated to, not the ones you got to do, but the one you really want. So you don't share this with anybody. What do you want? Most people don't know what they want. What they want is what their parents told them they should want or what their school teachers told them they should want. What do you want? I mean, really, what do you want? Because if all these things I'm talking about preparation, patience, persistence. If you're doing something that, yeah, I really don't really want to do this, you're not. You're not going to do any of those things. So start with what you want. What is it you want? Okay, and you have 15 of these things. Then you go through each column, pick one out of each column, that if you got that one, if you got that one goal, it would make the biggest change in your life and biggest transformation. Not the easiest one, not the most powerful, Not. Not the easiest one, not the one that will probably happen anyway. Not the one anybody told you to do, but the one that would actually make the difference and circle it. So now you got three goals. And then you take a deep breath, look at the three, and pick one out of those. Out of those three goals, which one would make, if you accomplished it in the next six to nine months, which would have the biggest impact, positive impact, that is on your life? That's your purpose for now. Now your purpose can change. Somebody says, what's your purpose in life? I don't know. I think I'm supposed to be teaching. What am I supposed to be teaching? I've taught so many different things. I don't know, but I know it's in the area of teaching. I don't know that I'll ever know. I just. You just look at the feedback to determine if you're on path. You know, if the bumblebee goes after honey, it pollinates at the same time, if it. If it decides it doesn't want to go, it doesn't want to make honey, it doesn't want to go into flowers, what it wants to do. It wants to become an Olympic swimmer. Bees gonna die. Bees will all go away if they all decide they want to swim. They don't want to go into flowers. And all the flowers go away, all the plants go away, and we go away eventually, right? As long as the bee does what it's supposed to do. Now, the bee is programmed to do Something you're not. I mean, well, maybe you are. You're programmed to do something, but we're just not, we don't do it automatically. The bee does it automatically. It's, it's like in their DNA you will go out and get nectar and make honey. Yeah. So we're taught it. So we don't know the little kids. Like, we do whatever. So we go to school, you go out and make money. You go, so, okay, that's what I'm gonna do. But, but we now know since 2020, with all these people quitting their jobs, get asked why? Why are they quitting their jobs? Well, they're quitting their jobs because they don't like their employer. They like being home a little bit. They got a taste of being at home and having a life of their own and realize that they could get all the work done they were doing at work in about half the time they're operating at home. So they were wasting all this time at work. And then they go, why am I doing that? There are also people that are holding down two and three full time jobs online. Okay. So they're working for this company and they're getting a paycheck over here, working with this company over here, getting paycheck here. And what they do is they juggle, they have like two computers on their table. And so they're, they're in a meeting over here, something comes up and they go over here and neither one knows about the other. That's how they're making money. Now I think there's a little bit of an integrity issue there to not, not let your employer know that, but that's what people are doing. So it's all about money, right? What if you decided to try to do this process, this goal setting process? Find out your mdp, most definite purpose. Because like I said, the purpose can change from, you know, one month, it's this. For the next three months is my purpose is to, I just want to become a better husband right now. And, and, and that's the one that I circled. And, and, and what is. And I make a list. There's more to it than just the columns, but what are the things I got to do? So I'm going to work on, I'm working on that for the next three to six months. Okay. And then as that gets better, then I do the process again. Okay. That MDP might be different now. So start with what you want. Start with what you want. So important. And if you don't know what you want, then Experiment. Take, get a side job here, side job over there in 2020. The term we talked about before, the term side hustle. Side hustle is a very popular term. What's a side hustle? A side hustle is, that is a part time job, a part time occupation or part time business that you take on even though you have another full time job over here to make more money. Or even entrepreneurs that are starting their business, they need more cash, they'll do other things too, like home delivery, pet sitting, tutoring, all kinds of things like that. And that's a mult, that's a multi billion dollar business all over the world. Okay? And anybody can do that. As a matter of fact, go on the Internet and look up side hustle, side hustle. And you'll see all kinds of stuff. You'll see like the top 100 businesses you can do and you'll have a million of ideas. And you go, ah, that looks interesting. Let me try that. And get your feet wet. Get, do something like that. India is the only country in the world, is the only country in the world that has mass produced more than 15 million graduates every year. More than 80% are unemployable. Interesting side gig. Okay, yeah, it's a side gig, a side gig, side hustle. But look it up on the Internet. You'll be amazed at the number of great ideas that are out there. To get started on your own thing without going through all the risk of just cutting ties and jump and jumping in the, in the abyss. Okay, okay. Somebody wanted me to repeat the three Ps? The three Ps are preparation. You can do anything you're prepared to do. Number two is patience. You're planting seeds, you're watering the seeds. You got to be patient. Watch, watch it grow. Don't give up, don't get distracted. And persistence is the third one. And that is basically just don't give up if it's. That's why I'm saying it's got to be something you really want. If it's something you really want, then you'll have more persistence toward doing it. Okay? You need to develop certain strengths, strengths of discipline, strengths of persistence, strength of never giving up. Because for some people, they're used to giving up quickly, they're used to changing quickly. And if that's you, and that used to be me years ago, change it now. Start, you know, again, go to the gym and get yourself just to go to the gym five days a week. Even if you don't do much, just get yourself to go to the gym, do something five days a week and just keep doing it for 30 days. And then at the end of 30 days, maybe take it up to six days a week. But don't quit. Build the discipline, the persistent muscle, the persistent patient muscles. And in your brain. It's the reason I use fitness and health because it's the most physical and something you can do today. And it may not even cost you any money, okay? But you need to develop that skill that. Because we live in a world of. Some of my friends call snowflakes. You know what a snowflake is? Snowflake is in the face of adversity, they melt. Okay? There's a lot of people like that. Now if you're on this call, you're not. Because if you're with me, you wouldn't. You wouldn't. Snowflakes don't show up here, okay? But what I'm saying is, is that we are a world that is not used to dealing with a lot of adversity. It's been pretty good in some places. Okay? Now that things are a little crazy is the time you got to start going back to the gym and working on building your discipline, persistence, patience and preparation, okay? It's a muscle you got to develop. It's a muscle that will serve you for the rest of your lives. And it will also be a demonstration to your kids that what it's going to take for them. My kids go. They're teenagers. And young adult. And a young adult. What do I do now? What should I do now? I said I don't know what to tell you to do. But what I'm going to tell you do is you need to change your habits. Whatever. You need to start working out again. You need to get back in the gym. You need to be doing something on a regular basis. And. And you start doing that, then your brain's going to start working better. And it is. Now one's taking a real estate course and the other one is he's got a job. He's a mechanic at a. On an auto dealership. And he's putting in extra time and extra hours. So again is it comes back to your physical and mental disciplines. Okay. All right. Blair, do you have any program for would be life and business coaches? Yeah. You know, the Trainer Mastery program is perfect for that. I mean, that's. It's basically for coaches, trainers, facilitators, speakers, and even for people that want to be just be leaders of their own teams in their own organization. So it crosses that Board. And when I teach it, I teach it at all those levels. But, yeah, I mean, for example, today I have several coaching programs I've documented and trademarked. And I. For my. The people that I coach, that are at the diamond level, coaching, I give it to them. They bought the coaching program. I give them that coaching. The goal setting, it's all theirs. They have a lifetime free license to deliver it anywhere in the world. So it's. And so I'm teaching them all the components of those programs, and it's changing their lives now. They'll use it to change other people's lives. That's. That's kind of the way I do it. Okay. So, yeah. So check that out. Oh, Jashana gives you a way to register for the tmp. That's good. TMP online. Hi, Blair. Great to see you. Been a long time. My friend Nicole Jensen always speaks very highly of you. Yeah. Okay. Thank you, Ian. Yeah. Nicole's an amazing woman. And she's. That's a woman that knows how to be persistent. That's a woman that knows how to deal with adversity. And. And that's a woman that does, no matter what, will not give up. And that's the one thing. One of the things I remember about her. And she's. And she's also, obviously a great facilitator and a great teacher. So you're in good hands with her. Please give her a hug when you see her for me, when we're allowed to give hugs or wear a mask. But, yeah, she's great. So good to see you. And, yeah, absolutely, you're in good hands. She's gone through all my programs. She went through the programs at a time before we had certification. So she was. Is what I call an honorary certified Blair Singer Training Academy certified certified trainer because she's been through all the programs already before we said if you go through these programs, you can get certified. So she's the best of the best. Let's see. God gave appetite to the poor and food. Food to the rich. Is it not wonderful? That's kind of interesting. I never heard that one before. Jerome. I think that God gave an appetite to everybody. And I think that those people that allow their appetite to learn be more powerful than their fear. And the people that, like I said that the discipline to take responsibility and to continue to practice the three P's will always win it. It is not an issue of talent. It's not an issue of talent is way overrated. Was it Napoleon Hill said, I don't Know where he got his statistics in the 1930s. But he said, you know, I think he interviewed Dale Carnegie, and Dale Carnegie said the world is littered with men of talent. He says less than 80%. You know, he says 80% of the people with talent do nothing. It's only about 10 to 20% of them that actually make something of themselves. So talent doesn't guarantee anything. Persistence, on the other hand, there are many people that don't have the talent, don't have the education, but they end up doing pretty well because as you said, as you said, Jerome, they're hungry. They're very, very hungry. Kasia, great to see you. Just wanted to pop on and say hello, catch a bit of your wisdom. Oh, thank you. Is that the same concierge that's in our, is in our coaching program? I hope so. Good to see you. You cannot be hungry if you're being fed. Gary Vander Check. Yeah, so you. That's true for some. That's true for some. But if you're, if you're operating in your true purpose, if you're operating in a realm that you know you can change the world, you know, you can, you can help other people, even if you're being fed, you're still hungry. You're hungry to help, you're hungry to learn, you're hungry to give, you're hungry. It goes back to somebody we talked about at the very beginning about losing yourself, finding yourself by losing yourself in the service of other people. I know it seems like, it seems trite, it seems la la land stuff, but I just going to tell you after all these years, it really does come down to that. If you really love people and you love to help others, then find a way to do that. And then it becomes easier to do the, and do the goal setting process that I showed you here. Do the goal setting and, or find a BSTA trainer or somebody that's been through diamond coaching with me or whatever, and they'll show you how to do it and they'll do it with you and coach you through it. And you'll have, you'll have yourself the steering wheel for your life. Here are the 15 things that are most important to me right now. And here's the one that if I do this is going to make the biggest difference. I really want it. And then you go through all, what are the challenges, what are my resources and what's the plan? And I'm going to prepare for it. I'm going to be patient, I'm going to persist. I'm not going to give up. And you know what? It'll happen before you know it. Because your energy and your commitment will. Will draw resources to you. And those of you that have been around for a few years, you know that that's absolutely true. Absolutely true. So, again, check it out. No reason to live in a world where you are not happy. You're not happy. We talked about that in the very beginning. Just as a review that Seligman says there's three levels of happiness, and everybody's looking for pleasure. I'm going to get something good to drink that tastes really good. A sweet drink. Okay. Or something like that. That's pleasure, emotion. I feel great. Awesome. Okay. But it doesn't last long. A life of pleasure does not compare to a life of engagement, which we call the good life. That's when you're doing what you're good at, what you're strong at, what you want to learn, and time goes away. Maybe if you play, you have a sport, and you do a sport, you really love it, and you just realize time's gone away, or reading or studying or teaching or. Or helping or volunteering or whatever that is. That is a place where you're playing to your strengths. If you really want to learn your strengths, sit down with two people that know you really well. Sit down, get on a zoom call, get together, and here's the drill. I taught this this morning. Here's the drill. What you do is you take turns. First person goes, they say, okay, you have one minute, and you tell them what you think your strengths are. You tell the other two people, I think my strengths are. You know, I think I'm pretty persistent. I think I don't give up too easily. I love to study whatever it is, okay, what your strengths are at the end of that minute, or whatever it takes. Stop. Now, your job is to shut up, not say anything. Now, the other two people are going to tell you what they think your strengths are, which may include what you said, but I guarantee you there'll be some other things that you weren't thinking about. And your little voice might go, well, wait a minute. Are you talking about me? That's not me. You know all that stuff, right? And just listen, because you may discover that you have some natural strength that you don't even think they're strengths because they're just so natural to you. And when. And the reason this is an important exercise, so you do that, and then you switch to the next person, do the same thing. But then when you do that now you walk through life saying, well, this is a place where I can really shine. I can do this. No, I'm not going to do that so much, but I'm going to do. And so now you start to moving into an area of a good life where you're doing the things that you're good at or that you want to be really good at. Okay? And then of course, the third level, the most powerful for you personally and for the world around you is to be part of something bigger than you. To do something that's bigger than you, contribute to something that's bigger than you. And that's called a life of meaning, doing something for somebody else. That's why teaching is so amazing, because you're able to do all of that all the time. And you gotta be careful because when your little voice goes, well, what about the money and what about this? And you forget about the purpose and the drive is to really help other people, that's when it becomes a struggle. But when you're doing what you love doing and you're doing it with all your energy, with your. You prepare for it, you're patient with it, you're persistent, and you'll become the best at what you do and you'll love it and you won't even know what happened, and time will just race by. So, again, the reason for all this is that my thought for everybody is you should be happy. You should be happy, and you shouldn't have to struggle. Ruth Young, it's been about 10 years since we worked together. I took a bit of a detour. I'm now getting back to formulating those jail trainings. Wow. Ruth Young, congratulations. I don't know whatever the detour was, but I'm sure the detour, there was a purpose for the detour. I'm sure you learned a lot and now you come back a lot stronger. A lot stronger. So congratulations. And. And right now, does the world need what you got, Holy mackerel. More than ever. So thank you for doing what you do. Good. Good to hear from you. Okay. All right, Rakesh, you just registered for tmp. Excellent. We'll see you there. Make sure you let me know it's you. Okay. You have an amazing wisdom and on top of that, you have true compassion toward humanity. I don't mind if you don't mind. Who's who have been my coaches. Well, first of all, thank you for that. I don't know. Do I really love human? Yeah, I love humanity. Sometimes I get upset with individual people. I'll tell you that it's honestly, I love humanity. It's just some people I just have a problem with sometimes, if you understand what I'm saying. There's a person that I know better and they refute. They say they want to learn, but they don't. They refuse. And they, you know, people that are just like, really stubborn. You know, I can be patient for so long, but then my impatience kind of gets kindled a little bit. But thank you for the compliment anyway. Who've been my coaches? I've had great, you know, great coaches. I mean, I think my first coach in the training business was a guy by the fellow by the name of Marshall Thurber. He created a course called Money and you that I took as my first personal development program back in 1981. And so I met Robert Kiyosaki because he was taking the course too, and he taught us how to train. And then countless other individual coach. Jane Johnson, she's still coaching me today, 35 years later, she's still coaching me. She's an amazing coach. Seal, Stanford, Jeff Crippen, Alan Walter, just, you know, Tony Robbins. I mean, the best of the best, you know, Alex Mendozian. I, I, I can't, I really can't even say who my coaches are because there's so many. It's not like it's a coach, it's like a body of coaches. It's a bot. It's like a body of knowledge out there that I've tapped that I continue to tap into. The monks, the Buddhist monks in, in Dakayama Temple in Thailand. You know, know, I've been personally mentored and coached every week, every week by then for the last year and a half and every week and learning how to meditate and all that stuff. So again, Robin Clark from Train the Trainer class this year. I was the one who couldn't put my notes down. Just wanted to say thank you. Well, thank you for putting up with me is what I'm going to say to that. So thank you for that. Hey, David Belfor. David Belfor. Bear Wolf lockdown in Melbourne, Australia again. I'll bet, I'll bet, I'll bet. But good to hear from you always. Bilaza. My question is Salon. How, how to keep my mind clear while knowing there's a lot of turmoil in our world and fear keeps creeping in. I'm continuing to teach and serve, but I could use some help. Wow. You know, not being weighted down with reality. Ah, the weight of feeling the reality around us. You know, I, I knew this call was going. Going this long for a reason. It's for this question. Bellisa, I'm just going to say this. The reason that's such a good question is because I had the exact same question on Monday morning when I sat down with Monk B, who's the Buddha, who's the monk from Thailand that I work with every week. And he said, how you doing? And before he took me through meditation, I asked him this almost the exact same question. Elisa. I asked him, I said, how do I want to be able to meditate and calm my mind? That's why. That's why I learned to meditate so still the mind and expand who I am, right? And I said, you know, sometimes it's really hard. He goes, why? And I goes, because there's so much going on in the world today. You know, that Afghanistan with the virus, with the economy, with politicians that you can't believe, and all this crazy, crazy stuff and factions fighting with each other. I said, how do you guys do that? He goes, well, that's why we meditate eight hours a day. I'm going, well, I can't meditate eight hours a day. What suggestion do you have? And he was very. It was very interesting what he said. He said that. He said, look, he says, you meditate. I teach you to meditate. Why? Because for you, he says, for you, so you can calm your mind, so you can shut all that down, at least for a couple of minutes every day, calm your mind. And I'll tell you what, Belize, if you don't do a lot of meditation, if you can get somebody to teach you to do it well and. And keep teaching you, it's. It's priceless. I mean, my patience level has increased dramatically. My mood level is much more even. In other words, I don't get angry nearly as often. So all those things benefit. But then he said, but, Blair, it's not just for you. I go, what do you mean, it's not just for me? He says, we as monks are trained to teach meditation throughout the world because their motto is world peace through inner peace. World peace through inner peace. In other words, if you. If you're peaceful here, you will spread peace throughout the world. That's their philosophy. He said, so. So what we do so by you being conscious, conscious and calm, and being able to put brightness into your body and expand that, at least even for a few minutes, what you do is you expand that around the world because happiness makes you happier. Happiness and goodwill attracts more of the same. Okay, now it attracts Some negativity, too, but it attracts more of the same people that are negative. Negative thoughts create more negative, attract more negative thoughts and more negative people. So in his mind, he goes, blair, he goes, and I never heard him say this in a whole year and a half. He said this to me. He goes, blair, the reason we do it is because it's our duty. What he says, it's our duty to do this. It's not just for us, it's for the world. So what I'm going to say to you, Beleza, is this, is that your willingness to meditate and to be happy in yourself, to take. When you meditate and you close your eyes and you picture like I picture the sun right here in the middle of my body and expand from there. And is that when you do that, it's not just serving you, it's serving people around you, it's serving the rest of the world. That's why when they do meditation there, they. They'll. They'll have 10, 000 people to go to that temple every week just to meditate. And when they do their events once a month on the Internet, on Zoom, they'll literally have over over a million people all meditating at the same time. At the same time. It's an amazing experience. But that's their thing because they firmly believe they're doing what they're supposed to be doing. They believe that and they think that, and. And that's what Buddha said. Buddha says that what's on the outside is reflected. What's on the inside is reflected on the outside. Okay, so I had the exact same thing, because I was. Like, I said, so where's the sadness come from? Well, the sadness, he said, comes from the fact that you don't see the result out there. He says, but you have to understand something else. Everything, everything operates in cycles. Things grow and things decay. Things grow and things decay. Things grow and things decay. So when they decay, we're sad. When they grow, we're happy. But your knowledge that they grow and decay will help alleviate some of the sadness. And. And it was like. And I laughed. He says, see what I mean? I go, yeah, I do. And, you know, sometimes I look at what's happening out in the world, and I'm going, I might not live to see it, but it's going to swing the other way. And so I would never have made a statement like that. But to understand that we as human beings are imperfect and we learn by trial and error, and this is one of the biggest trial and Error experiments that we've been put through. All these things happening at one time now we'll either make it or we won't. I suspect we will. I don't know if I'm going to live to see it because it may. This cycle may take so may take years as other cycles have. But that he says that was a sadness because I'm like you. I feel it very deeply. I feel it very deeply and it's hard for me to be present with what I'm doing. That's why I meditate, clear my mind and then jump into what I do with all the passion and all the vigor that I can. Okay, so that's what I can tell you. But it was really. Oh, it's Robin asking as well. Okay, so I suggest meditating and getting somebody that will help you, that will, that's good at it, that will coach you. All right, what's this one? Shilpa. If people have more than enough money now, if people have more than enough money now then they are preferring to sit back in safety of home home now in times of COVID than to work for reasons and values need routine contribution. If people have more than enough money saved right now, they are preferring to stay home and be safe. Some people, some people and some people are not. I can tell you right now, like Rich dad. My my. I'm part of the rich dad advisor team. Nobody over here is doing that. They, everybody's got, they all got plenty of money. Everybody's got plenty of money. They don't have to work at all, but they are working harder than ever before. So you just got to start looking at the people that you want to hang around with. You're looking at some people that really don't want to give. No matter what's going to happen, that's going to be them. But start hanging to, to Monk B's point, start hanging around and studying the people that aren't like that. Now people say what was a discussion came up the other day. People say, you know, it's about, it's about this faction against that faction and this group against that group and blacks against whites and, and Christians against Islam and all that other stuff. And I'm going, you know, you guys are, I, I believe you're kind of missing the boat. I think it's between good people and bad people. It's, I mean my definition of good people that love to give, people that want to help people want to support, people that are open, open minded that want to want all of humanity to win as opposed to people that just want to do it their way and they want to lock the doors and close, close everything up and they don't want to connect with other human beings. So my goal, my point is to hang out with the people that want to do well. That one and that one. I'm sorry, that want other people to do well, as well as them. Okay. And there's a lot of those. As a matter of fact, I'll tell you, there's more of those than there are the people you're talking about in my experience. But see, that's my experience because that's what I seek. Okay, so it's going to be a question of what you look for. You ever notice if you, if you're, if you think that red, a red Corvette is a great thing to have and you really like to have one? You ever notice you go down, up and down the street, you see a whole bunch of red Corvettes all the time. Where do they all come from? It's because you're folk, because your mind is already has its radar up. You're looking at, you're looking for, for them. Okay. Same thing with people. So stop hanging around those people is my suggestion. By the way, I'm taking notes as you responded to me. I appreciate you and pray that my efforts will truly make a difference. Because it's scary. Yeah, well, it's scary, but, but here's the other thing about scary. It's only scary if you're by yourself. You ever notice that you go into a dark room, you know, a dark place, and you're by yourself. It's like, it's really scary. But if you go with a group of people, like five or six of you, it's not nearly as scary. That's life. Stop doing things alone. Stop commiserating alone. Start hanging around with the people that maybe they're scared too, by themselves. But together you guys feel great and working on projects that really help other people. Okay. All right, So I think that's enough for today. I'm grateful for you. You shared and taught me. I'm happy to teach, I'm happy to share. I'm happy for all of you guys to be who you're supposed to be. Start. I think if I were to summarize, this call went all over the board for sure. But I'm going to say this. Start with what you, you want. What do you want? What is it you really want? Start with an mdp, do a little goal setting, process and. Or go to blairsinger.com. and that goal process is there. You can download. It's an audio. You can download it. But. But start with what you want because that will give you the passion to be persistent, to be patient, and to prepare for it and to continue to be a great student. Okay? You do that. That's all a person can be asked to do. And no matter what happens in the rest of the world, you'll feel good about what you're doing, and that's going to give you happiness. Remember, reading the news will give you pain now. And remember that pain, that kind of pain is kind of like pleasure. You know, you can. You can move off of that pain pretty quickly. If you change your mind, if you change your focus of what you're doing, if you're a coach or you're a trainer and all that stuff's weighting you down and you get in front of a client, you ever notice that all that stuff kind of goes away? So do more of what makes it all go away, okay? And we will all change the world. That's my plan. Okay? You guys, be awesome. Thank you so much. If you have other questions, type them in, send them into Facebook or LinkedIn or YouTube or whatever you're looking on, and I'll do my best to answer your questions. Okay? Because what you want to know is way more important than what I have to say. And that's another way of quoting Anand if he's still on there. Okay? So thank you so much. And you guys have an amazing weekend, an amazing week, and go help somebody do something positive. Be amazing.