#96 Bilateral Processing Bootcamp Step 3, 4 and Resources | Recovery Secrets Series

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All right, we are live here. Welcome everyone to our Recovery Secrets daily coaching session. We are so happy to be here with you on this lovely Friday morning. Can't believe it's Friday already. So it is good to be here with you. If you're going to be joining us live, feel free to say hey in the chat box there. If you're with us— sorry, I don't know, my brain's doing something different. I'm doing a different intro in my head. If you're gonna be joining us live, feel free to say hey in the chat box there so that we can, excuse me, engage with you throughout the session here today. And so at the end of the sessions, you can ask questions and so that we can welcome you. It is good to be here with you all for a continuation of our boot camp week, which is all about bilateral processing, one of our processing tools to get to the root of trauma. So this lovely man to my right.

Good morning, everybody. My name is Brad. If you are new, great to have you here. We are in our 4th day of our bootcamp. So if you haven't seen the previous modules, that's okay. We're going to do a quick recap of everything we covered, but make sure to go back and watch the other 3 videos before kind of moving on and trying this processing tool, because everything we covered has been building up on itself. So if you, if you missed one or you haven't been here, make sure to catch up on those. But today we're talking about the 3rd step in bilateral processing. Which is installation. So what we're going to do today is we're going to recap what we covered so far, explain installation, and then explain how to actually close out the processing session. So by the end of this, you will have full knowledge on how to go from, you know, beginning to end with this tool so that you can actually go forward and implement it this weekend, which is our goal for you guys, is to actually implement and do this processing tool for the first time or again and really start Taking steps forward. So great to have you guys, and I'm excited to dive in.

Cool. Me too. So let's do a recap, right? Like Brad said, if you haven't seen everything leading up to this point, it's okay for today, but make sure before you take action on this tool, you go and you watch those modules so you have an understanding, or those sessions, so you have an understanding of everything that we're talking about here going in. So good morning everyone. Good morning, Helene. Good morning, Delaine. Good morning, Pat. Good morning, Larry. Good morning, Lena. It is great to have y'all here with us. For those of you who joined us for bingo last night, thank you. Yep.

Yep.

It was a ton of fun.

It was great seeing you guys. Most of you guys were there. Kayleen is extremely sore. She hasn't said, oh, she said it yesterday, but if you just saw her hop around, yeah, you see me hopping and like making weird sounds. She's very sore.

You can all get on Ryan's back for that because we did something crazy in bootcamp.

Squats for 40 minutes.

Hundreds. Well, he's gonna say that part of it was my choice, which is true. I chose to double basically what he said. He gave us 2 options. That's okay. Anyway, she's sore. So our recap here, I'm like starting to defend myself to him.

Yeah.

Okay. So our recap here. Good morning, Judy. Our recap. So our 4 steps to bilateral processing. Let's get some engagement going here. Step number 1. Step number 1. This is what we talked about on Tuesday or on Wednesday, I think on Wednesday. Step number 1.

It's what we had you guys take action on.

First step. So we have 4 steps to all our processing tools. And again, this is a conversation for another day, but they follow a pretty logical sequence. There's a sequence of events that happens with all our processing tools. I know some of you know more than one processing tool. Good morning, Lorena, or good evening, Lorena. Ted, that's super weird.

Yeah.

Uh, good morning, Tatiana. Great to have you here. Step 1 to our processing tool, our processing tool here, our bilateral processing. Good job. Lorena, right? So prep and identification. So basically with all our tools, we're gonna start with some sort of prep and kind of awareness exercise. So step 1 was prep and identify. Step 2, we talked about yesterday, was what we're just going to call processing here. Step 3 and step 4, this is what we're gonna talk about today. So step 3 is called installation. Step 4, squiggle. Just gonna call it close and recap. Now again, even though this has a very kind of generic name, close and recap, we don't wanna be skipping That step. It's tempting to skip the last 2 steps. If I— now, this is a little bit based on experience, but largely based on an assumption here. So just preface that going in. In my experience, when professionals will do some sort of bilateral stimulation work with you, whether that's EMDR or other sorts of tapping, they very often skip this step. Again, that's based on experience personally and with clients, but of course, largely an assumption because I haven't I don't have a big enough sample size there, but they like to skip these 2 steps because really this is— we talked about it yesterday. I think, Brad, you used the term the heavy lifting. This is where the heavy lifting happens. And that's true. And that's true. But just like any—

I don't know.

I want you to think about like an example could be cooking, right? So, Brad and I, Monday nights, we go out to the store, we get everything that we need, and we cook for the week. And we do all this cooking, right? We do the heavy lifting. We cook, cook, cook, cook. And once everything is cooked, Now, the heavy lifting is done, but what's important to set us up for success during the week are 2 final steps, which is sorting everything out into containers and cleaning up so that the house is not a mess for the week. And so that it's easy to pull that food out of the fridge. So we're not guessing as to how much we should be eating in a certain sitting. Just as important, even though the heavy lifting is happening here, just as important to ensure your long-term success.

Mm-hmm.

So that's what we're talking about today, installation and our final step, which is a closing recap. Really simple to understand. What's easy to do is easy not to do. So make sure you don't skip these steps. So I want to pull up our worksheet from yesterday so that we can do a little just refresh on that. And then we'll jump into these final steps here. Do you have any words in regard to recap?

Oh, this recap? Yeah, not the closing recap, not step 4. Yeah, I mean, installation is, is equally as important as the processing. Basically what processing is, is removing the emotional charge to whatever the negative belief and memory was. And then the installation is really strengthening that new belief so that you actually move forward in your life and really cement in that, that belief. So that because if you've been with us, your beliefs, you'll know that your beliefs create your reality, all of your actions, all of your decisions are really based around the beliefs that we hold, whether we know the belief or not. So to really Finish this process, you want to not just process the negative belief, but you want to install a new belief and make that as strong as you possibly can. And I think that's it.

Okay. So for a lot of the things that we talk about here, whether it's addiction or really any sort of change that we're making, there's 2 paths. There's basically 2 things that need to be changed. So I want to use the example of addiction because I think it's a more straightforward one than what we're talking about here today. Right? So there's the path of pain and the path of habit, meaning there are basically 2 reasons that we're doing something. So let's say you're addicted to chocolate, just as like a really— or well, I guess we could use alcohol as a really straightforward example, right? There's going to be some sort of pain that probably drives you to that moment. So maybe you have a fight with your partner, maybe you have a bad day at work, and you go to the alcohol, right? There's that pain. Once you eliminate that pain, there's something else that is driving you to take that action, and that is Habit. That's all that it is. It's just habitual. So you'll notice even when there's a lack of pain, you go to do that thing, right? So you might— I mean, we all have habits, from buckling your seatbelt in the car to what you do when you get home to the things that you say to yourself and to others. We all have habits, and habits are largely what's driving our life. But these 2 forces are what are dictating your actions, which dictate your outcome. So what we're doing in step 2 of this process, we're talking about processing. We're eliminating this route. We're eliminating this road here. When we eliminate that road, even, even though it's emotional, we still have mental habits. And so basically, in a very basic sense, what the installation is going to do is it's going to eliminate this road here, eliminate the habits, because it's going to show us basically what to do different moving forward. Does that make sense?

That does. Yeah.

Okay. So let's share this worksheet here so we can do a little more of a recap. So, so far now we're building off of a one-sheet worksheet. This is a great worksheet. I'm going to give this to you at the end of today. We've talked about prep and identification. So what we've done is, and we talked about this on Wednesday, so if you haven't seen Wednesday, make sure you go back and check that out. We've discovered, we've uncovered an unprocessed memory, some sort of distressing memory. We've identified a negative belief that represents that memory. And again, I'm not going to go through the things that we talked about and how to get those things. We've also identified a positive belief. So basically the opposite, what we want to believe. Okay. And so what we did yesterday is we did all of this processing. So we talked about these sprint recoveries of bilateral stimulation, which we'll talk more about today in some way, shape, or form. It could be auditory, visual, physical. So these sprint recoveries of bilateral stimulation and then rest. And we're doing these sets, rating our distress level of the unprocessed memory and the negative belief. So we're thinking about the unprocessed memory, we're holding the negative belief in mind, we're doing bilateral stimulation for 45 seconds, we're taking a break, we're checking in with ourselves, we're saying, okay, on a scale of 0 to 10, how distressing is that? And we're writing that number down for 12 sets. Okay, what we're doing next is something we call installation. And so basically what we're doing here is we're moving from The negative. We're moving from the pain into the positive, into the good. We're moving from the pain into the good. And so what we wanna do here, and this is all that we're gonna be talking about today, these 2 steps here, what we wanna do here is we wanna find a future situation. So this is one extra step that we haven't done yet, right? We wanna find a future situation where maybe you normally would've held that negative belief, but now you're gonna hold the positive belief. Does that make sense? So you're looking for a future situation. And a great example of this, what would be a situation you could see yourself in the future where you might have gotten triggered by this thing that you're processing in the past? Okay, so maybe it's, I'm worthless. And maybe you commonly feel that around a parent figure, right? And so maybe that's even what you're working on. An unprocessed memory is from when you're younger with a parent figure. The negative belief is, I'm worthless. The positive belief is, I'm worthy. I'm worthy of love. Finding a future situation where you would've in the past felt that negative belief. So maybe it's a family holiday, you find yourself around that person, maybe you share news with that person and they don't, they won't respond positively. Maybe they don't support you in a choice that you made, right? So you're looking for a future situation. And then what you're going to do is you're going to look at the future situation, hold your positive belief in mind, and then work on something we call believability, which we'll get into. In, in a little bit here.

And you imagine, and you imagine yourself going through that scenario as if you believed that new belief, right? So if you— what was it, worthless, right? You said I'm worthless was the negative belief, and the new belief that you might want to build, it's not always the inverse, but for this example, we'll use the exact inverse, the exact opposite of I'm worthy, right? So you want to imagine yourself going to a family event or whatever it is, wherever you felt worthless or got triggered, that worthlessness was triggered and imagine yourself going through that, but with the belief that you are worthy, how would you act? How would you feel? What would you think? What would be going through your head? Would you keep yourself in that scenario? What would you say? You know, so that you would feel worthy of yourself in that scenario. And that's what we're doing here is we're, we're strengthening that belief. And what we're building is we're building a reference in your mind that will be strengthened through, which we'll explain a little bit through bilateral stimulation as well. So it's very simple. You just imagine yourself in a future scenario and you pick one for, for this one session. So if one worksheet is one session, you pick one scenario and you install that, right? It doesn't mean you always have to do one scenario. In your next session, you might feel like, okay, I got this one locked in, I'll try another one. And you might— you can start stacking them more and more and more. But it's about putting yourself in that scenario, that future scenario, that imagined future scenario where you would have been triggered in the past. But now you're acting as a new self. Now you're believing this new thing. Now you believe you're worthy. Maybe you don't accept this. Maybe you just leave the room. Maybe you just laugh it off. You know, maybe you're like, okay, yeah, no, no problem, whatever. That's okay. And you don't feel worthless because you know your inborn worth, but you're putting yourself in that scenario in your mind. You're visualizing it. You're feeling it. You're there and really embodying that new belief and installing that new belief. And you install it by Through the visualization and through really putting yourself in that scenario and thinking through all your senses, what's going through your mind and things like that.

So that's what you're doing. Okay. And so, and we'll address this as we continue in the session here, what you're doing here, again, you're picking that future situation. You're reminding yourself basically of the positive belief. You already chose the positive belief. You're rating your beginning believability level. Okay. On a scale of 0 to 10, how true does this feel to you? 0 being not true at all. 10 being as true as the sky is blue, right? So that's what your rating is. So we're having metrics for both of these things. Now our goal for distress level, let's get some engagement. Our goal for distress level is to get this number where? What's our goal for distress level? Let me know in the chat box. I'm gonna bring this out.

So 10?

So 10, we want our distress level at 10? Where do we want our distress level? This was a question in our quiz bingo last night. So I know some of you know it.

Yeah.

Nice. Right. Nice. Lorena, Mimi. Awesome. Kim, it's great to have you. Lena, right. Lowered. Right. So we want the distress level at zero, zero distress. We don't want to be distressed.

So that's the goal.

So that's the goal. The stress level is zero.

Good luck. You can just scribble and tell us what it says.

I should just write in script and then just like, yeah, you should. You should start writing in script and then no one will know I can't spell.

Or you could learn how to spell.

So. I know how to spell, but Siri's not. I use a resource to spell. I don't know how to spell.

Does Siri know how to spell?

No, it doesn't. So we want our distress level at a 0. Where do we think we want our believability level? We want our distress to be a 0. Believability, where do we want that to be? So distress level, we're working on something like, I'm worthless, right? We want that to be a 0. Believability, we're working on something, I'm worthy, I'm capable. We want that to be a 10, right? So these numbers are going to be opposite each other.

Okay.

So that's where we're working to get that. So let me pull this worksheet up again.

Yeah. So distress right here is for the old belief, right? So your old belief will have a distress level. Your old memory will have a distress level. We want to get that belief. When you think about the belief, you feel no distress, right? So when you think about, in our example, the belief I'm worthless, you don't feel any distress at all. That's the goal. So you can think of it and be like, I don't feel anything. Right. And then the new belief, I'm worthy. How, to what degree do you believe that to be true? And obviously we want to get that up to a 10. So I just wanted to explain that.

So that's what we're working on here. Okay. So in this step 3, the installation, we're working to get this believability level up higher and higher and higher. Now this entire worksheet, let me zoom out one second. This entire worksheet, I guess that's as far as I can go. is going to be one session that you do. Now, you're probably going to have to do multiple sessions. So you're gonna have to do this worksheet a number of times, depending on specifically what you're working with. Okay, so you're working each time, each time you do this worksheet, you're working to get this distress level lower and lower and lower until you get to 0. And you're working to get this believability level higher and higher and higher until you get to 10.

Mm-hmm.

So that is your goal with these numbers. Yeah.

So you might get, you might go through all 12 steps of processing and your distress level might be a 6, might be a 7, right? So the goal isn't to get the distress level to zero on the first session. The goal is to get the distress level to zero over time. If you can get it to zero over one session, that's good, but you still want to check in later down the road to see, is it still a zero? And that's what you want to do. And that's why the 4th step here is so important because you're not going to be there after one session, and you want to make sure that you close it out in the right way.

Yeah, so it does happen. And again, it's going to depend on your situation specifically, and we'll talk about this in a second. You want the distress 0, you want the believability 10. Sometimes what happens is the distress can be 0 and the believability can be 4 or 5, right? So then where you're going to want to spend your time is in this installation. Okay, so what you're doing in the installation, you're doing the same thing that you're doing up here in regard to sets. You are doing sets of bilateral stimulation, and we'll talk about the difference in a second here. You're doing sets of bilateral stimulation with the sprint and recovery style. So you're doing 45 seconds of bilateral stimulation, thinking about your future situation and your positive belief, and you're doing 30 seconds of rest, and you're checking in, you're checking on that believability level, and you're doing it again. 45 seconds of bilateral stimulation, 30 seconds of rest, checking in with yourself. Again, what you're doing here is you're holding your future situation and your positive belief in mind. That's what you're thinking about here. And then, you're doing that bilateral stimulation. Now, I'm going to be straightforward with you. We have 4 sets on here so it fits on one worksheet, okay? You can do as many sets of installation as you want, up to 12 or more. I mean, you can do as many as you want. We have 4 here. At least, I want you to get 4 in.

Yeah, it's more of a minimum.

A minimum of 4.

You can do as many installations as you want.

You can spend significant time here if you choose. Again, doing that sprint and recovery, 45 seconds of bilateral stimulation, 30 seconds of rest. Again, you can do as many as you want there.

Yeah. So like Kayleen said, the goal for the worksheet was to make it as simple as possible in like a one-sheeter. So everything is on one single sheet.

So yeah, so that you don't have to, you know, find multiple documents or feel like it's this big, big task. One worksheet, so capable, right? So before we move on, does that make sense in regard to the installation? Now we're going to talk about what the difference in the bilateral stimulation During the installation and during the processing is we are going to talk about that, and the next step is super duper easy. But again, what's easy to do is easy not to do. Okay, so step four is our close and recap. Really super simple. What you want to do here is you just want to spend and put a timer on for this. You're gonna have timers all over the place for this this processing tool. Spend a couple of minutes, two to five minutes. Diaphragmatic breathing, right? So that's belly breathing. There's a reason that we do that. That's going to help your mind process things. With— I recommend safe space, and I want to press hard on that. If you haven't built your safe space exercise from The Art of Trauma Relief or from when we've taught it in the Recovery Toolbox tools, when we've taught Recovery Toolbox tools in Recovery Secrets, make sure you build your safe space. It's going to benefit you heavily because it's a visualization exercise, and this is a very visual tool, and that safety to close out is a really powerful thing. So I want you to spend 2 to 5 minutes diaphragmatic breathing, which is just that belly breathing, deep breathing with safe space or your most powerful recovery toolbox tool. So whatever that is for you. Okay. Again, I highly recommend safe space or another visualization exercise because this is so heavy kind of in that area. And then all you're doing here is you're just taking a couple of notes. So you want to just look back on your session here and you want to say, okay, was there anything that came up that is something that I need to work Additionally on in a different session, right? Did my brain lead me to this place that it wasn't specifically related to this thing that I was working on, but it made me aware of a different place to start for a different prompt? Okay. Or just overall, how do I feel like the process went? And sometimes you might have a good amount of notes. Sometimes you'll, you'll have just one or two notes, like it went well, or, you know, the believability, we need to spend more time there. The stress level's looking good, whatever it is, right? Whatever it is.

It's kind of like, what, what do I need to do next? Right. Oh, I, I, when I was doing the processing, I came up with this memory. I want to process this one further. Right. Or next session, I want to focus on installation a lot more or whatever it is. So that's a great place for that. And we say 2 to 5 minutes of diaphragmatic breathing with safe space. Something that I like to do, if the timer kind of stresses you out, like, oh, I have to do this in this amount of time, just do it until you relax. That's the goal. The goal is to get yourself relaxed and calm down and just to make sure that you're in a steady place. After you do this, because like I said, you can end, you can go through all the processing and still be at a 6 distress level, 7 distress level. Your distress level could still be pretty high even after you go through the installation. Right. And this is kind of like, if you, if, if you think about this kind of compared to like exercising, you stretch before exercising and you stretch after exercising, you do some sort of cool down to make sure that actually, I don't know why you do cool down. Why do you do cool down?

That's a great question for Ryan.

That's a great question for Ryan. But anyways, you do a cool down.

I think so. You like, literally, you don't, your muscles don't go from a place of super duper, like just the opposite reason you do a warmup is what I'm guessing. We can ask Ryan for sure is you don't go from a place of static to like completely involved with your muscles.

I know why. I know why. Cuz it works out. If you don't do the cool down, your, your, the lactic acid will build up in your muscles and you'll be more likely to be sore. So you kind of work it out at the end.

That makes sense.

Yeah. So it's like the same thing. You want to get yourself into a relaxed state at the end of this, but the time is, it's not irrelevant. That's how long it should take. It should take 2 to 5 minutes, but don't feel like, take 15 minutes if you, if you want to take 15 minutes, you know, it's not hard and fast rule.

Yeah. Okay. So I'm going to give you access to this worksheet. Now, the cool thing about this worksheet, we also have some instructions. The first couple of pages are instructions. So if you forget, you can just follow along. Now, remember that. You do not have to cross every T and dot every I. That is important. You do not have to cross every T and dot every I. So like Brad said, 2 to 5 minutes is what's written there. It's okay to not set a timer for that. If it takes you 1 minute and it just takes you 60 seconds to get relaxed, great. It doesn't really matter how much time it takes, right? Just don't skip that last step. As long as you're going through the steps, that's all that matters.

Right? Because the goal is not to be perfect. The goal is to be Imperfect. Oh, I was, I was up. That was literally the, the one time I asked chat to answer something. I thought I didn't actually ask them though. You didn't? No, but I don't know.

I thought you, you looked at me.

I thought you, cause like you're always the one who's like, action breeds. I never do that.

But usually I'll say like, let me know in the chat.

Opportunity stolen away.

Oh, I guess I'll feel guilty for the rest of my life. Just kidding. Anyway, so that's the whole kit and caboodle. Okay, so now you know how to process with bilateral stimulation. Yes, congratulations. Now we want to talk about some different elements of this, right? Because you know the steps, you know how to follow them, but there are going to be some things that you are going to have questions on the first thing that you go through this. So we're going to give the handsout. I see Kim asking for the handouts. We're going to give the handouts at the end. I'm going to give you 2 amazing, amazing handouts from Broken to Unbreakable. One is that worksheet. And another is what we call a slide summary, but it's going to be a summary of basically everything we talked about in this bootcamp.

Super valuable.

Yeah. Unbelievably valuable.

So you won't have, like, I still recommend going through the bootcamp and getting like the deep knowledge on it, but you can go through and just read the instructions on that worksheet or go through the slide summary that we have and just get a recap of what we covered. Now, I think what we need to go through is how to actually do it. Cause we never explained how to actually do the bilateral stimulation. I know you're going to go into like, well, what if this happens? What if this happens?

But no, I was going to, I was going to do that first.

You were okay. Okay. I thought you were moving into that one. So perfect. So now we're going to, we're going to walk into how to actually, cause we haven't talked about how do you do the bilateral stimulation when you're processing and doing installation. So we're going to give you different tools for that. We're going to give you tools that all of you guys can use. It's going to be a video that will walk you through everything. And we're also going to go through a different, a few other options that you can use and then kind of explain the overall theory of it as well.

So there's a couple of ways that we can do the bilateral stimulation, right? We can do it visually, we can do it auditorily, and we can do it physically. When I look at Brad because I don't know how to spell something, I'm trying to look into his brain. He closed it off. Okay, so there's, there's basically 3 ways for this purpose here that we can do the stimulation. Yeah, and it's visual, auditory, and physical.

We talked about visualizing, but for this type, these are the 3: the visual, Auditory and physically.

Yeah, there's not going to be enough space in your brain to visualize while thinking of the belief in the memory and, and letting your brain kind of do its thing because it needs some freedom there. So 3 main things here. So visually, what can we do visually? Okay, there are resources. We're going to give you a resource that you can do visually. Not everyone likes visually. What's really important about visual is to not strain your eyes. Your eyes are really important and we don't want to hurt them. You don't have to do visual. Here are some options though for people who want to do visual. There are things called light boxes, if you've ever seen these online. Now, I'm not recommending that you go—

Totally unnecessary.

Buy these, but the basic premise—

$6,000.

Yeah, they're very expensive. The basic premise is you have this light box, right, that has, I don't know, we'll say like 15 different light bulbs in it. And basically a ball of light travels from one end to the other. So you're getting that visual stimulation because your eyes are following and tracking that ball or the light that is lit from one end to the other. So you're keeping your head still and you're following it and tracking it with your eyes. So that would be an example of visual. We have a resource with a visual example. Again, most important thing is to not strain your eyes. So this is going to depend on what device you can use to use it. But it is a ball that travels across the screen, the screen back and forth. So you're following the ball back and forth across the screen. If you're going to use our resource, which I'll show you in a second, you want to make sure that your eyes are going far enough side to side without causing strain. So the goal, if you're going to do anything visual, you want to not move your head. Your eyes are the thing that are going to be moving. You want your eyes to go as far as possible to either side. Without causing strain, without causing strain. So just where you feel that strain, like because it's straining your eyes because you're going too far to the left or too far to the right, pull it in a little bit from there. That's the perfect distance to make sure you're getting that bilateral stimulation.

Yeah. So light box, right? So you're moving your eyes left, back, left and left and right. Do you wanna pull up the resource now just so we can show them what, what it'll look like? Because what, what it is, it's a video that we're gonna give you guys where it has that ball that goes across the screen. It's just a circle that goes. Left and right, but you wanna make sure that you're watching it on a big enough screen, right? So if you're watching it on your phone, it's not gonna work. You're gonna be moving your eyes like, like this. So you wanna make sure it's on a computer screen and you're close enough to the screen. You know, you're not like 2 inches away from it, but you're close enough where you're actually moving your eyes far enough from it. The visual, just so you know, we've, we've used all of these. We've used the visual, we've used the auditory, we've used the tactile or the physical, and they all work. So I wanted to say that as well. Yeah, you want to bring that up?

Yeah, so I'm going to talk about one more thing because the auditory is paired with that. Okay, okay, before I bring up that video to, to kind of show you.

Sure.

Now you're not going to be able to hear it because I'm not going to play it through the speakers because it won't make sense. But in that video as well, or another resource that you can use, you can use auditory bilateral stimulation, which just means you, you need headphones in for this. So you need headphones on or in, and what it's going to be, it's going to be a tone In either side of your ear. So it's going to be a tone here, a tone here, a tone here, a tone here, a tone here. And so the video that I have set up as a resource to give you guys has that auditory element as well. So you can use the visual and the auditory. They do align. You can just use the visual or you can just use the auditory. Okay, so I'm going to pull that up and show you kind of what that looks like.

Now again, you need headphones in to So it's going to be a very boring video for you to watch.

So this is the video and we'll give you this in the resources section. And so this actually follows the worksheet. This is a great resource. This is a 30-minute guided processing session. I'm also going to give you a resource for a 60-minute guided processing session.

Yeah. So this takes you through the worksheet step by step by step by step. So you don't have to think about it at all. It gives you instructions.

I'm not talking in the video. So it's, they're silent instructions.

Silent instructions, but it walks you through.

So if you can see the, this here, it walks you through the worksheet step by step by step.

Yeah. So if you have no idea what you're doing, this will walk you through. So this is the best place to start. If you're brand new to this, it'll walk you through and you'll get your feet underneath you.

Okay. So it's going to walk you through each different set. It has instructions. This is what this looks like. Okay. So for those of you who are like, oh my goodness, that is awful in regard to visual. Don't watch it. Okay. I personally am not a huge fan of this visual. Some people really like it. I'm not a huge fan of using my eyes. I like the tactile or the auditory better. So if this strains your eyes, don't use it. You can pop your headphones in and listen to the tones, or you can shut your eyes and do your own kind of tappers here. But that's what it looks like. This resource is great because it also, we have the, you know, the 30 seconds of breathing in there as well. So it really just walks you through it. Step by step, which is super, super awesome. So again, there's your visual and your auditory.

Yeah. And don't take Kayleen saying, I didn't, I don't like the visual. She actually processed some of her worst symptoms with visual bilateral stimulation.

So what are you saying? Just ignore me?

No, I'm not saying ignore you. I'm saying don't let that deter you from doing it because it is so powerful.

It is.

And right, like you, you process your nightmares and your flashbacks. With the visual. So I didn't want that one comment to deter anybody from the power that that has.

But not that visual.

Right, right. Oh, just the odd— the— sorry, the— what do you call it?

The light. Yeah, yeah. So if there are different visuals are going to have, you know, a different kind of effect on, on you there. Now that video you can also speed up and slow down, which we'll talk about in a second, why we would want to maybe speed it up or slow it down in regard to The processing. Okay, so last thing here is physical, so tactile. So there's a resource that we have. Now this is an additional kind of expense. We don't work with a company; we don't make these ourselves. If you choose to go this route, it's an awesome, super duper route. Do you want to pull those out?

Yep.

So these are called tappers, and it's just a bilateral stimulation basically machine. Now the cool thing about this actually is. It also has lights and auditory, so you can plug headphones in and you can do the auditory on this as well. You can sync this up with the video if you still want to follow along in the video. But basically what it is, it's a small little device that is— you are going to plug these tappers into and they're going to vibrate back and forth bilaterally. So the left and the right, then the left and the right, then the left and the right. And you can adjust the speed and the intensity Of that, and we'll talk about why you would want to do that in a second here.

So you want to turn it on?

Yeah.

So these are the— these vibrate left and right, and you can see there's lights that correspond with them, and you can probably hear it. So these are just vibrating left and right, and you can adjust the intensity of the vibration and also the speed of the bilateral stimulation. And what's great about these is that these are probably my favorite way, and I actually use these in combination, use these in combination with moving my eyes left and right with the tapper underneath my eyelids. So I have my eyes closed. I'd hold these and I'd move my eyes left and right. That's the way that I like to do it. But this is a great resource. We'll give you the website of it. It's again, not necessary, but if you want to invest in it, I highly recommend it. For me, it allowed me to go deeper into my, my memory and my belief and my emotions. So that was helpful for me. But what you find, I really like this.

You'll naturally find yourself— you might not be aware of it— you'll naturally find yourself moving your eyes underneath your eyelids when you kind of shut your eyes. This is cool because you kind of set it and forget it, so you can just kind of turn it on and think, which is great. It doesn't mean you can't do it other ways, right? So I don't like people to be like so reliant on these that they feel like, well, I can't process without it, right?

Right.

The auditory is a great thing to do. The visual, like Brad said, I did most of mine visually. These are an awesome resource, but they are a little bit of an investment. I think they're like Like $250 or something.

I think it's like $175 or something.

They are professional.

Yeah. This is professionals use. That's why it's expensive.

Yeah. There's no cheaper version of this. Actually, the ones that they're starting to come out with different things like this on the market, and they're actually more expensive than these and they don't have as many settings. So we'll give you a resource to that. It's, it is a great resource, but again, it's not necessary. And that's really important.

I processed a lot using this, this technique, this tool. with, without tappers, again, just closing my eyes and moving my eyes left, left and right. So I just did that. And that you need absolutely nothing. You don't need a video, you don't need access to the internet, you can just do it on your own and walk yourself through the process. So one last thing I want to say is that we have a different model. So we have like an older model, they don't make this one anymore. So if you see one that looks different than this online, it's the same thing. They don't sell this anymore. But it has the same functionality.

Little fancier. So we'll, we'll show, we'll pull that up. If you guys want us to pull that up at the end, we'll pull up the website and kind of walk you through that and tell you or recommend who What to kind of get there? So that's what the bilateral stimulation is.

The brand is Neurotech.

So if you, I'm going to give a link.

I know, but I just want to put that out there as well for those of you who are interested.

But if you spell it wrong, you're going to get something totally different.

Oh, really? Yeah.

So it's Neuro T E K Neurotech. So we're going to give links out there at the end for all of those resources. The videos we have videos that are just. the bilateral stimulation. So, there's no instructions involved so that you can kind of do it on your own. We'll pull up the link to that website at the end as well. And, that website is going to be in the resources and in the slide summary that I give you as well. So, a lot of great ways that you can do. But, and I love what you said there about Brad just did it with his eyes, with no resources, with no computer, with no sounds, just with his eyes. You can do that as well. So that's the most important thing I talk about sometimes. Tappers being— anyone ever seen Dumbo and Dumbo's magic feather? Right? So Dumbo's this little elephant that learns how to fly because one of it, you know, he has his big, big ears, right? And he's a circus animal and his ears are so big that he can actually flap them and fly. He's an elephant that can fly. And he basically doesn't believe in himself. And so a friend of his gives him this feather and says, Dumbo, this feather is magic. It's going to make you fly. And he flaps his ears and he could fly and he's holding this feather and, you know, he becomes the talk of the town and the, the, the big guy to go see in the circus. And then some, something happens. He loses his feather. He's like, oh, I can't fly without my feather. And the friend's like, well, no, Dumbo, actually the feather wasn't magic. You could do it all on your own. Right. And so I don't want Tappers to be your magic feather. You can do it all on your own. Again, great resource and it is recommended, but you can do it on your own.

Yeah. So it's a great resource to have because like, I, I've used it. I've not used it. I've done it with just my eyes. It's great. It's great to test different things out. Some things were better for me than others, but it was great.

Couple more things I want to talk about. Okay. Speed. Let's talk about the speed of how fast do you want the tapping to be? Now, this is going to be in the resources at the end as well. The general overall rule. Now, if you have tappers, you can adjust intensity as well. That's going to be personal preference. Speed for processing, real simple, faster than installation. Keep the processing faster than the installation. If you have an intensity option, keep the intensity more intensity with the processing than with the installation. Okay. So processing more intense and faster, installation slower, less intense. That's a good general rule, but you're going to fall into your own kind of thing in regard to what feels right for you.

Yeah. And if, if you ever need a reference, you can go off the video that we're going to give you that resource and you can just see Or here, because there's going to be auditory to it, uh, uh, audio to it as well at the speed that we put in kind of for default. So if you want to default, just go to that video and you'll see how fast we have the, the beeps going. And that's how fast you can have the, the tappers going or your eyes moving left, left and right. But like Kayleen said, most important piece is just installation is slower than, than the processing.

Okay. So last thing I want to cover, and then I will pull up the Neurotech website because I think it's actually really cool. Last thing I want to cover is, well, there's, there's really 2 things, right? And this is just something you're going to reference. So I'm going to bring up a slide here.

Okay. A lot of clicking.

Trying to find Zoom.

Oh, that's funny. Just clicking on the same tabs. I'm like, where are you going?

Back and forth. Okay. Look how many tabs I have open. Okay. So some reasons you might want to move from your processing, which is step 2, into your installation. Okay, so these are reasons to move from processing, which is step 2, into installation. So number 1 is you reach all 12 sets. You do all 12 sets of your processing like we talked about on that worksheet. It's time to move into installation. Another reason you might want to move into installation before you reach the 12 sets is if your positive belief comes to mind automatically. That's your brain telling you, hey, let's move on. It doesn't necessarily mean you're fully done with your processing on that thing forever. But it's your brain saying, hey, let's move to the next thing. That's a good sign. That's a great thing. Even if you only do 3 or 4 sets of processing or 1 or 2 sets, if your positive belief automatically comes to mind, you can move to, in, in the installation, which is step 3. If your distress level plateaus, now this isn't uncommon, this isn't dangerous or anything like that, but if you have it plateau for a number of sets, let's say 4 or more, you're, you're kind of at a sticking point and it's okay to move to installation there as well. So that would be kind of like your brain saying like, hey, this is, this is kind of it for today. Like we've done what we can for today and we're ready to kind of move on. So just another kind of signal to move into the installation. Again, not necessarily a bad thing, just your brain's going to need a little time to kind of rest. Your distress level reaches zero. So no matter what set you're at, if your distress level reaches zero during that processing, it's time to move into the installation. Again, that's another sign that your brain is saying, hey, let's move on. Another thing here, if you feel like you're no longer in control. Right? So if you feel like you're— we want to have that one foot in the present. If you feel like that foot is starting to not be in the present, move into the installation. Okay? And it's up to you to know your limits when it comes to this. Okay? So if you feel like you're not in control, move on to the next step again, which is the installation. And then if your distress level goes up between sets, now this is up to you as an individual. This is not a bad thing. Okay, I have this on here really to make sure that we say it, to make sure that you're making good decisions for yourself. It is okay to go from okay eight seven eight nine five three two and it and it be this kind of roller coaster. It is okay if you're uncomfortable with it, then move on to the installation. But again, this we're we're looking for distress. We're walking into. The distress in this exercise, and it is okay. However, if you're uncomfortable with it, move to the installation or take your stuff out, take yourself out and do a recovery toolbox tool.

Yeah. It's like, it's, it's kind of goes back to the step before. If you feel like you're no longer in control, like if the distress level goes up to a point where you feel like this is a little too much than I want to deal with right now, then you move on. Also, I want to say something right here too about the 12 steps or sets, 12 sets. This is the starting point we want everybody to start out as, but as you do this, you're going to learn more and more. Your skill's going to advance in this tool and just processing in general and you, and you're going to know how to control your emotions more and really navigate everything better. Once you really master this tool and you go through it, feel free to push that a little bit longer to experiment what works best for you. Same thing goes with on the worksheet. We say 45 seconds of processing, 30 seconds of rest. Feel free to experiment with that as well. And same thing with the installation. If you feel free to, instead of 45 seconds of installation and 30 seconds break, you could try a minute or you, instead of 4 sets, you could do 10 sets or whatever it is. So I want to say this is a starting point. It is a starting point for a reason, right? This is the place we want everybody to start. Do 12 sets, follow these kinds of guidelines. But as you do this a few times and you start to master this and You want to experiment, don't be afraid to do that because that's what we're all about here is we want you to learn how to do this and do what's best for you. And only you ultimately are going to know what you need. And there is going to be a level of experiment— experimentation and trial and error and to see what works. So I don't want you guys to be afraid to go off of, you know, what we said today, but use this as a starting point and it might be everything you need, but Again, don't be afraid to, you know, try new things and go deeper into your healing.

And come back to this. If you start to experiment and you're like, well, things are— it's not working the way that I want to, come back to it. Okay. So I'm going to give you this as a resource. Now, this is a slide summary. Again, it's from Broken to Unbreakable. Talks about when to use this tool. Talks about something focused, which is pretty important. It talks about when you might want to work with a professional on it and how to do that. What it's used for, what the stimulation is, the reminders that we talked about on Tuesday, walks you through the worksheet, how to prepare for a session, the memory scan, the common beliefs. It's just, again, some more reminders when to stop processing sets and move to installation, an overall recap of the process, when it might be a good idea to work with a professional on this, and all of our resources, which are clickable links. So the 30-minute guided video, a 60-minute guided video. Or excuse me, 60-minute bilateral stimulation, audio and visual for processing. So that's at processing speed. All it is is that ball moving back and forth and those sounds.

For 60 minutes.

For 60 minutes. So you can pause and play whenever you want.

Yep.

60-minute for installation. So you're going to see what the installation speed, and it's a little bit slower. And then we have the professional tool link here as well. And I'm going to pull up that in a second. Some notes on professional tappers. Guidelines for the videos, and then notes on speed. Okay, so I'm going to pull that up, and then if you have any questions, feel free to get them in the chat box, and we'll stay for the next couple minutes. Well, not the next couple minutes, the next 12 minutes. So there's an example of a light bar. I don't know actually how expensive they are, but this is the website.

They're a few thousand dollars, I think. Let's see.

Oh, that's, that's not crazy.

I thought it was more expensive. I think they updated a lot of stuff, so maybe they—

Yeah, maybe they're able to bring it down a little bit. So it looks like they updated this again.

They did. So whatever design you get, it's not the one that we have. Yeah.

It's not the one I got.

The standard one was the last one that I saw. That's a, that's new, right?

This is, this is new as well. Oh, so this is classic. So maybe it's more of the analog that we have. So anyway, you're going to go to this. It's $150. I think it's, it is US. And if this is something that you want, again, you're going to be able to, this, ah, this is a lot simpler, I think, than the new one they were selling. This is good.

The new one was, it was It was—

it's made for professionals, so it's made to save data for different clients and stuff like that. Pretty simple. You'll see it comes with the actual tappers. They look a little bit different. And then this is the— what the actual machine looks like. So you can see, oh, it even has a timer. That's interesting. And you can adjust it.

The speed. That's what I'm saying.

Oh yeah, you're right. Because it's a timer.

Let's move the video. So how this one would work is that you probably press the button, it lights up. The audio, so it has has a spot for headphones as well, and it has left and right audio beeping as well. So if you wanted to plug in headphones, you could do that. So you would just hit the button and adjust the volume here. This would be the speed, so you'd hit that button, adjust the speed. Same thing here, here, and here. So with the tactile, the intensity, so it's similar. This is this is a much better design.

Yeah, that's nice.

Than their new one. Yeah.

So 150 bucks, and it comes I guess with small tactile pulsers. You can buy. What do they call them usually? I guess you can buy large for an extra $2. I don't know the difference between small and large. I have small hands, so I think I always got the large ones. But well, yeah, I don't—

I wasn't— I don't think you need them.

It doesn't matter.

I never go at max.

Doesn't matter all that much. So it comes with a headset, like an old-fashioned Walkman one, not that comfortable, but you can plug your own headphones in. Literally. Yeah.

And I haven't heard Walkman in a long time.

You really don't need an extender. The thing is pretty long. And I also think it comes with a Oh, I guess they don't come with a carrying case. Also not that important, but whatever. You can add these things on. You certainly don't have to. The normal version is enough and it's $150, which is pretty cool. So you can check that out. Again, all this is going to be in the slide summary that I'm going to share with you. So I'm going to share those 2 resources. I will share them in the chat box there. Any questions? I mean, amazing job with everything that we talked about this week. This was not an easy It's not an easy amount of information to digest. It's, I want to say, because it's not that complicated, it's the most complicated tool to explain and then understand. Once you actually take action on it, you're gonna be like, wow, this is actually the simplest tool in regard to processing. There's just a lot of setup that comes into play here. So Delane, you sparked my memory. Now that you know how to do this, now I don't want you to have fear in doing this. I don't, if you're going to order tappers, please don't wait for them to arrive because they could take a little while.

Yeah.

My challenge for you is to take action on this over the weekend, get 1 or 2 sessions in, 1 or 2 of those worksheets in. I'm going to share those worksheets now.

So this weekend, today, Saturday, Sunday, try to get this in. We talked about healing routine in past sessions where you were— the goal of everything we're teaching is to build this into a routine. So we want you to have a healing routine and we want you to be working on your processing on a daily basis. Consistently over a long period of time, because consistency in healing is the only magic pill, as those of you would know from Bingo. But it's something we want you to implement, right? So go through this. If you're brand new, go through the 30-minute guided session and you'll find that on the slide summary. Kayleen's going to put that in the comments right now. It's also going to be below this video if you're watching after the fact in the platform, but go and do that. 30 minutes. Think about it. 30 minutes to get this, this much processing in. And you now have the knowledge to basically have unlimited therapy sessions. That's what I liked about this idea and learning these skills myself was like, I can do as much healing as I want. And you now have that skill. It's up to you what you do with this information. You know how to process your past. You know how to identify the root, process it, install a new belief. You can make incredible, we've made incredible, incredible strides with this one tool alone. But right now it's all about implementation. And so this weekend, do it, get it done, get 3 done, get 5 done, get 10 sessions done, but at least get 100 sessions done and get 100 sessions done. But this, I want to bring back what we talked about. I'm gonna hit you. I'm gonna hit you. Hit myself. I don't, I don't think we've ever done this. It's a flippy board. These, these are the mindset things we talked about on Tuesday, right? So if you're apprehensive about this, go back to what we talked about Tuesday and rewatch it. Right? So if you're apprehensive, you're not sure, but I'm just going to do a quick recap right now. This is not dangerous. Pain can be good. The goal is to be imperfect in this. You're not supposed to be perfect. If you're feeling overwhelmed, it's okay. You're supposed to feel overwhelmed when you're doing anything new. You're going to feel a level of overwhelm. Healing is inevitable, right? If you never give up, if you never quit, you are literally guaranteed to heal if you never give up and you keep taking action. Stay aware of what's going on. Stay positive and be patient with yourself and be consistent. You might go through a few sessions and not see any change in your distress level, it doesn't mean nothing's happening. You're making new connections. You might be, you know, becoming aware of new memories, even though you might feel the same level of distress, you might be becoming aware and building out that, that memory network that we talked about, and you're discovering new things about yourself that will lead to your breakthrough. So even if you don't see a measurable difference in your distress level, you're still making progress. You want to stay consistent. You want to stay patient with this entire process. Even if you're not seeing, you know, numerical changes, whatever it is. The last thing I want to say is if you are brand new to this, you've never done this before, expect yourself to be tired afterwards. I remember the first time I did this, I was exhausted. Like 30 minutes of this was much more exhausting than— not even, not in a bad way. It was just like your brain has worked and you're just literally tired. And oftentimes that's what happens when you process things is Your body gets tired and relaxed and you want to take a nap. If you feel that, allow yourself to sleep. That is part of processing. That is part of healing, giving yourself the rest you need. This is like working out in the beginning. You might be able to get one 30-minute session done and you nap for an hour and a half. That counts. And that counts. Yeah. Yeah. And that's huge. And that's huge. And you want, I want to make sure you guys know it's okay to rest. It's okay to sleep. Sleep is good. Sleep is healing. Sleep is processing. So allow yourself to sleep if you're tired after doing the session, but you'll be able to build up that skill more and more and more over time where we've been able to do what, 5, 6, 7, 8 sessions in a day without hours, hours of it without having to sleep. So I wanted to put that out there as well.

Awesome. So amazing, amazing job with all this. I'm going to let you read a couple of comments. I'm gonna run to the bathroom and then come back. Sure.

I'll read through a few comments, but what I want guys, what I want you guys to do is implement this and then we're gonna come back Monday. Right. Okay. We're gonna come back Monday and we're gonna answer all your questions after implementing this. So this is kind of, this is a very important step of, of this bootcamp is you actually implementing this. You have to take action and then come on Monday and we'll, it'll just be basically a question and answer session where we answer all of your questions. We help your understanding, but you need to take action. You need to take action. That's where you're going to learn the most. That's where you're going to learn or see the gaps in your understanding is by taking action and fumbling with it. And then we want you to take action, fumble, and then come on Monday so that we can answer, answer your questions and make sure that the whole process is clear to you. So how many people are going to do— do— I want to see in the chat box how many people are committed to doing at least one session Over the weekend, if you're going to do more or committed to doing more, I want to hear that too. So just let me know. I want to hear it because the more if you if you write it out, if you type it out and we all see it, you're going to be that much more likely to do it. So type out I'm in. I'm going to do it. I'm going to do one session. I'm going to do two sessions. Whatever it is, or just me. Whatever it is, Lorena says me. Lena says me. Lena, I apologize. Lena says me. But I want to hear from you guys. I want to hear from you guys because this is so important. Pat says, I commit. This is awesome. All right. Mimi says me. Lisa says me. Judy says at least one. That's awesome. That's where it starts. Kim says I'm in. That's awesome. Everybody is in. That's awesome. Alrighty. I'm going to read one question here from Larry. Larry says, does moving your tongue, would moving your tongue left and right in the mouth work? I've never done that, so I can't speak on that. It could work though. In the beginning, I would stick with these. And if you want to experiment with those things, you can do that as well. And I'm just scrolling through these questions really quick because I have to hop off and let Kayleen get back on the computer. Delaine says, I'm committed. And Helene says, I'm committed. That's great. All right. Kayleen is dancing coming in here. So that's awesome. On Monday, I want to see you guys and I want to hear back from you guys. So great job, guys. I got to go. We got to run. We'll see you later. Have a great weekend and get that processing in. This is the beginning. You're not going to say anything?

Oh, I thought that was it. Okay. Amazing job this week. Keep it rocking by taking this and taking action through the weekend, because knowledge without action, as we learned in bingo last night, is useless. All right, amazing job, you all. Love you, believe in you. Look forward to seeing you Monday. We have some cool things coming up. Ryan, I believe, is next week. Next week. And we have our 100th session coming up, which I believe is the week after next. We have a community night social hour coming up in a couple of weeks. So just some things to look out for. But love you, believe in you. Couple more I'm ins. Awesome. And we will see you all next week.

All right. See you guys.

Bye everyone.

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