A short livestream conversation (host Bunny Young with guest Rocky) about setting boundaries while many people are working and schooling from home. Bunny outlines multiple boundary types—me time (self-care), role-based boundaries (parent vs. teacher), calendar/work hours, autoresponders, and physical workspace cues (e.g., a designated corner, twinkle lights, Windboard). Rocky offers brief, grounding advice (stay calm around horses). The video closes with a call for viewers to share their boundary strategies and an announcement about an upcoming "difference makers" series.
Chapters
Hey, Starfish. So what we are going to be talking about today is about boundaries and the aspect that we're all living kind of on top of each other right now. So that's kind of difficult to think about how to create boundaries when. If you're listening to this live, we're dealing with all of the stuff with staying home and schooling from home. And last week we talked about the kind of creative ways of doing self care and doing all of that. So I want to make sure that you know how to set some boundaries. And I brought one of my special guests.
My name's Rocky.
Oh, you. You are very, very special guest. So I have kind of a few areas that I'm setting boundaries in. I need. I still need time for me, I still need just me time. Not me time to think about the business. Not me time to think about what I'm gonna do for the family, but me time to just meditate. Me time to just work out. Me time to just sit and do nothing, have a cup of coffee. I need boundaries of when somebody is doing schoolwork. I need those kinds of boundaries to know that right now I'm acting as your mom.
Hi.
Or if you're a dad or a dad. And then when we're doing schoolwork, I'm acting as your teacher and just kind of having those clear verbal boundaries, but also making that something that can be discussed and cleared up with the family. Right. Because otherwise that can lead to confusion and all sorts of stuff. And with your calendar, that's another boundary. To know that just because we're all working from home doesn't mean that we're working 24 7. So when are you working? When are you not working? And being clear about that, my autoresponder.
Are you spending time with your family?
And my autoresponder is something that I've always appreciated as a nice boundary, a buffer to be able to let people know when I'm available, when I'm not, how best to reach me. I know I use the equine analogy a lot. Randy says I'm a dad. My kids say that he is a dumb dude. Is that nice? Should his kids say he's a dumb dude? What should they say?
He's a nice dude.
Is Randy a nice dude?
Nice girl.
Randy's a nice girl. Well, Randy, you're a nice girl. Straight from Rocky. So being able though, to set those boundaries with your clients, set those boundaries with your family members and be able to talk through that, I think for me, in the boundary work, it's Being able to actually articulate it. Because oftentimes I find that I'm setting a boundary when I'm frustrated. And then it's not coming across as a boundary, it's coming across or me setting a boundary, it's coming across as me being mad. And if you're waiting until you're frustrated or mad to set a boundary, then Randy said, thanks, Rocky. Then it can be difficult or it can be received differently. The thing that also is a boundary is where you're working right now. So I have these twinkle lights behind me. I have my starfish behind me. I put my wind board up there with some awesome loving words from clients. This is my space to work. So this is my space that the kids know if I'm here and wonder woman is standing outside of me, the door that mom's working and that we're giving me some space to be able to do that. And that way it's not something that I continually have to say, hey, mommy's working. Leave me alone. So you need physical boundaries. You need emotional boundaries, you need boundaries for your own self care. You need boundaries for your own sanity and your own mental space. That's a lot of boundary setting. But I believe that you can do it. And if you just start with what you can see in the physical space and set boundaries around what you're going to do today and what you're planning on getting done and what you would like to tackle and be realistic about it, as well as start implementing just little boundaries of creating your own little space. You know, Elmo's behind me in a rocking chair because three quarters of this room is our guest bedroom, but this little corner is mine. And that's my space to make a difference, and that's my space to make an impact. And when I invite you into my space, it makes it that much more special. Rather than you not knowing there's a boundary of this being my space or not, and then just crawling in here and me getting frustrated and saying, rocky, I'm trying to work. Huh? How'd you feel when I asked you if you wanted to be on Facebook live with me?
I felt so excited and I felt so, like, super.
Can you today how you set a boundary? Like when the horses are nudging you with their head, how do you set that boundary? Do you get super frustrated and say stop? Or do you just set a clear boundary and say, nope, this is my space?
Well, technically, when a horse, you gotta.
Speak up just a little bit, actually.
You need to stay calm and you.
Need to stay calm and setting boundaries. So that's what we have on boundary work. Thank you, Starfish, for being here. Thanks for making the world a better place. I want to know how you're setting boundaries and other starfish want to know how you're setting boundaries. And like I said, be on the lookout for our new difference makers discussion that's going to be launching next week. And I'm looking forward to sharing all of that with you. And if you're a part of those videos, I can't wait to get those out for you. Thank you for making the world a better place. Thank you for making a difference and stay safe and stay sane.
Just letting you know when the first time that I started riding at Mr. Bruce, a horsefly bit my horse and like that and I stayed calm and I hold on to the rein so I wouldn't fall over. So you should stay calm when you're on a horse.
