CSChristoffel SneijdersThree brains: head, heart and gut for decisions you keep deferring

How To Reach Maximum Happiness: Simple NLP And Hypnotherapy Tips For Everyday Life

18 Oct 2018 · 2 min

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In this segment, Christoffel Sneijders explores why people struggle to rate themselves as fully happy, emphasizing that true happiness is often hindered by subconscious, body‑based issues rather than purely mental thoughts. He introduces a model of the subconscious divided into three "brains": the logical head (often associated with men), the emotional heart (linked to compassion and commonly expressed by women), and the gut brain tied to fear and survival instincts. Sneijders explains how these distinct centers influence communication styles, leading to misunderstandings between genders, and suggests that recognizing and addressing the bodily (subconscious) components can help increase personal happiness.

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Because if I ask now numbers from one to ten, who dares to say that in happiness he or she is a ten? Almost nobody dares. Yeah, they can say nine and a half. When I see people as a therapist or as a coach, they say, "Yeah, I'm not really happy." About what? About life. Wow! That's huge. About what? Yeah, that's that's hard. So really come aware. What is it actually? What is bothering you or not? Or where can you increase that happiness? So how do we solve issues? Why do why are solving issues so hard? Why don't we live for happiness? Because your issues are not in your head. Most of the issues are in our body, as we call the subconscious. But I split the subconscious in different kinds of things. Now, as I said, we have a head, heart, and gut brain. Head is logic, and that's what most men have. And we think about that logical. We have a gut brain that is connected with fear and survival mechanisms. Because I was just in the airport flying from Europe to here, People have a fear of flying. You know what? You know where they're the most time on a toilet, because this part is fear and connection. Let's go. And this part is most times what women have, and they communicate from is from the heart. That's why men and women have so much difficulties because we're logical, and a woman just likes to have compassion and connection. Yes, honey, but I'm watching something. And so we communicate in different levels.