In this solo presentation, Christoffel Sneijders reflects on the phenomenon of the midlife crisis, describing how people gradually adopt a social "mask" that hides their authentic selves as they progress through adulthood. He outlines the typical age‑related triggers—30s, 40s, 50s—where accumulated life experiences (career, relationships, parenthood) prompt existential questioning: “Is this all there is?” Sneijders links this questioning to deeper psychological concepts such as the inner child, meaning‑of‑life research (including Viktor Frankl’s observations from concentration‑camp survivors), and the desire to reconnect with one’s original dreams. To address these challenges, he introduces his Remaster Workshop, a structured program designed to help participants identify and release long‑standing mental luggage, rediscover their true desires, and re‑engage their inner child. He also emphasizes the amplifying effect of collective energy, using a quantum‑physics analogy to argue that a group of motivated, positive individuals creates a powerful environment that accelerates personal transformation. The talk ends with an invitation to join the workshop and a hopeful note about the possibility of reclaiming purpose and happiness in midlife.
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Hey, good to see you. I read an article about the struggle of being you, about midlife struggles we have, from a friend of mine, Nicolin Huizinga. And it made so much sense because I thought, somewhere we all wear a mask, as she was writing. We grow up, we get in our teens or 20s, we have dreams, we have passions, what we like to do. Then somewhere life gets to us. We start playing a role almost. The role that society, our parents, our partner, our work expects from us. And when we get in our 30s, then we maybe have a partner, our job is more secure, we did our things, and almost those chains are getting more and more to us, and we're getting more and more that mask. We're not really ourselves anymore. In those moments, you can see it a lot of times when I look in my therapy room and people come in, they're in their 30s, they have something like, is this everything, Chris? I've got a house, I've got a wife, got a partner, got my money, and is this it? Is this all that life is? And then of course there's the midlife crisis when we hit somewhere 40, although nowadays it's a little bit changing. You can have the midlife crisis when you're 30, you can have midlife crisis when you're 50. Or the third, midlife crisis, when you're 50. The most typical is still when you're in your 40s. Why is that? Research shows when we hit 40, so when we experienced everything in our life emotion-wise. We had a partner, we had breakups, we had beautiful times, we had jobs, we changed jobs, we moved houses, we had holidays. We saw almost everything what was possible for us. And somewhere then at 40, you have something like, yeah, is there something else? And then you see that people really have more changes, change partner, they start buying motorbikes, they start doing a new hobby or whatever. But still they have somewhere that void from, is this everything? Now I do something totally new, like a hype, because it's new, gives new adrenaline, new dopamine, new happiness. Short-term happiness, because most times we buy it. Now we get even older, you know, 45, 55, and somewhere in that moment that also when we have kids, they move, they move out, we're getting more by ourselves again, probably with a partner or with a second partner or whatever number of partners. And then sometimes really it hits us, where are the dreams I once had? And when I look back on my life, I started with so beautiful dreams, traveling, change the world, or whatever simple dreams we had, just by I want to be happy with a partner, life, etc., etc. And we look back and we think, where did they go? And become aware we were wearing a mask for such a long time, not really following our heart, our gut, our real passion, our real dreams. In those moments People love to make a change, a real change, to find themselves again. But they also sometimes hit a wall of all the learned habits they have for the last 40, 50 years. From the day they were born to now, all those things on your backpack, in your backpack, you carry with you. And you like to change those, but you don't know how. Now, in those moments We really think we could do something. One of them is really an awareness, where is the true me? And it's not the true me in what I like to do, but what's really my true me? What's my little— sometimes they call it in psychology the inner child. What is really my deepest desires I have as a human? Me as a human. And existentialism from psychology, they also go, What is your meaning of life? Why do you live what you live? Because based on research, he was in— one of the founders of that was in a concentration camp and became aware that people who survived the concentration camps somewhere had a bigger meaning of life than people who didn't have a meaning of life. So we start thinking, what's really our meaning of life and how can I get there? And to get there, sometimes this projecting where you want to be, but sometimes hard because you're so ingrained with all the things from the last 20, 30 years. And sometimes we have to get rid of all those old luggage to find ourselves new. And when I was thinking of that, I thought, yeah, that's also the reason why I developed that Remaster Workshop, to help people with this question: where's the true me? What do I really want to do in my life? What are my dreams? And how can I really fulfill those? How can I get rid of the things that was blocking me, without throwing everything away, but really finding my true self again and follow what I really want to do deep inside. Getting that inner child outside again. That would be a beautiful thing for me and to see happening with all those people. And then the last thing, just imagine if you would follow the Re-Master Workshop. There are a lot of people there all together And based on quantum physics, when we create energy all together with each other, you create a huge more energy of all the people. And sometimes it combines more, so it's easier to change. And as an example, say you're in the neighborhood of people who are happy, it's easy to become happy than sad. If you're in an environment where everybody is sad, it's easy to cry. So just imagine you're in an group where everybody wants to change and everybody has a positive idea to change. It will help you also to change. Love to see you. Thanks for listening, watching. See you next time. Bye.
