At what age can you find your Why?

Your why can emerge at any age, though it's usually fully formed by 18 or 20. Parents and teachers can help kids find it earlier by noticing what makes them happy and inspired, rather than pushing grades and job prospects.
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Some people ask, what is the right age to learn your why? There's no right age to learn your why. Your why is fully formed by the time you're about 18, 19, 20, fully formed. And so anytime after that, you can find it out for your whole life. And the longer life you've lived, you just have more data points, you have more information to look at to find patterns. And so people want to know if they can help their teenagers find their why. And the answer is, of course you can, especially for somebody who's a little younger, where their why is still forming. I mean, the odds are. And again, I don't know the science, I just know from talking to people and from experience. But maybe the why form is a little younger. It's fully formed a little younger. So, absolutely, you can talk to your kids and find out what drives them and when they've been happy. And most importantly is actually pay attention to when your kids are inspired and when they're happy and encourage that behavior, Encourage them to do more of that, because the clearer they are of their why and the things that drive them and have support, they will build confidence for those things in their life. And that will actually set them on a very, very good path going forward. Most of us, unfortunately, are not given that opportunity. We're often just told, get a job or do well at school or study harder. And then by the time we're 30 or 40 or 50 years old, we wake up and realize that we've worked hard, we've gotten good grades, and we've got a job, and yet we don't know who we are or what drives us. So really, a great parent, what they do will help push a child, push someone in, a student, if you're a mentor or teacher to someone in the direction that naturally drives them early, and that why will become loud and clear to them at a much, much earlier age.
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