A short YouTube talk (by Clegg and others) about choosing thoughtful responses over emotional reactions. Uses a high-school football anecdote—senior player benched, reacts poorly, then learns to re-engage—to illustrate the formula E + R = O (Event + Response = Outcome) and the claim that better responses improve outcomes.
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Look, Gen Z, stop feeling sorry for.
Yourself when things don't go your way.
I coach high school football here in.
Charlotte, North Carolina and it is an honor and a privilege to work with these kids.
A few years ago, one of our.
Senior running backs made a mistake. Coach pulls him out, says get on the sidelines. What does this senior do? He walks out, body language is terrible, he hangs his head, he's frustrated, he's kicking dirt, doing all the things that you don't want to do. What was really happening?
Well, first off, he lacked focus, which.
Is why he was making the mistakes.
But that's not the bad thing. It was how he reacted to getting.
Benched in the moment.
And that's what I call little R reaction, which is a very emotional, quick.
Immediate, but emotional response.
I went over to him and I.
Said, ck look man, you can't control what coach does to you, but you can control your response, which is big.
R response, which is a very thoughtful, non emotional response.
I said, you're a senior.
You can respond by dropping your head.
And kicking dirt and feeling sorry for.
Yourself again if you want.
Or you can tell coach to give you another shot, redeem yourself and keep moving forward. Which response do you think coach wants.
To see from you?
So he reengages, he admits his mistake, asks coach for another shot, gets back.
In there and does a great job.
What I gave him was the formula.
Of E plus R equals O event.
Plus your response equals the outcome.
You want to improve your outcomes, Change the response.
Don't little R react. That's the emotional response.
Be thoughtful.
The old saying is life is 10% what happens to you, 90% how you respond. We all have a choice to either react or respond. Negative emotions can stir up, that's okay.
We all get them.
But how we respond to those negative events is well within our control. Focus on the type of responses that.
You have on a day to day basis.
Remember, no one's going to feel sorry for you.
If you want better outcomes, have better responses.
