In this motivational monologue, the speaker explains why many people quit just before achieving success, attributing the pattern to a predictable emotional dip that occurs during any change effort. Drawing on the "Emotional Cycle of Change" model by Don Kelly and Daryl Connor, the speaker outlines five distinct stages: (1) Uninformed Optimism, (2) Informed Pessimism, (3) Valley of Despair, (4) Informed Optimism, and (5) Jackpot (success). For each stage, a concrete "move" is offered—system‑building, tracking progress, maintaining consistency, writing down standards, etc.—to prevent the emotional dip from stalling momentum. The narrative stresses that failure is rarely due to lack of knowledge or discipline, but to emotions hijacking effort, and that recognizing the cycle lets people stop over‑reacting. The speaker concludes with a call‑to‑action: viewers should identify their current stage, comment "stage" to receive a one‑page worksheet, and engage via likes, comments, and shares.
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You quit right before you hit the jackpot. You're probably thinking that it's your fault, but in reality, it's not. And there's a reason for that. And I'm going to show you what that reason is today. It's not a discipline problem. It's a predictable emotional dip right in the middle of change. There are five stages, and each one has a move that keeps progress from stalling. Now, why does all this matter? Because most people don't fail because they don't know what to do. They fail because their emotions hijack what they're trying to accomplish. And that's usually the point, that consistency matters. And this isn't one of those videos about consistency. You guys have heard this over and over. This is about understanding the emotions of what holds you back from. From being consistent. Because if you can read the cycle, you stop overreacting. I don't know how many times I've seen or heard of a story very similar to the gold diggers out in San Francisco during the Gold Rush. So many people quit right before they struck gold, comes in right behind them and takes all the glory. This happens every single day. And it's absolutely happened to me multiple times, including very recently. But the five stages are one, uninformed optimism. Number two, informed pessimism. Number three, the valley of despair. Number four, informed optimism. And number five, the jackpot, success and fulfillment. Now, stage one, uninformed optimism. This is when you got that idea you're ready to go and you're rocking and rolling, excited to start. The risk is you take on too much too soon because you think it'll be easier. Optimism is not a strategy. The key move is to build the system now. Weekly actions, calendar blocks, tracking the progress. Stage two, informed pessimism. This is when reality smacks you in the face and you realize that this was a lot harder than you thought it was going to be. You start second guessing, you start delaying, maybe you start procrastinating, or you start looking for a different way. You're already changing your strategy, and yet, honestly, you're barely off the finish line. Now tell me that you haven't been there before. Everyone that I've coached and including myself, have been there multiple times and sometimes a couple times in the same year. Couple psychologists, Don Kelly and Daryl Connor, they described this in their paper that was called the Emotional Cycle of Change. It doesn't mean that you're weak. It means that you're in the process, which is entirely normal and natural for us to feel the emotions that we get when we get to the dip. And this is where stage three comes. In the valley of despair, you're discouraged, you're tired, you've been looking for outcomes, but none are showing up. Progress feels invisible, which by the way, on a side note, that's why it's important to keep track of the things that you're doing, so you can actually measure the progress and the growth. Even though the outcomes aren't there yet, the inputs really do matter. And that's that consistency piece that none of us like to talk about. Because growth isn't what happens to you on your best day. Growth comes from the things that we do on our worst days, when we're not feeling great, when we don't want to do whatever it is, they drift into what some people call, well, I really had to get this done. But this is when stage four, when you stick with it informed optimism, momentum starts. Because now your skills and your consistency is catching up with the things that you've done through the first three stages, with the exception of quitting in the valley of despair, that is confident becomes earned. The basics and the fundamentals do matter. Results arrive, relief, confidence ensues. If you want to stay on top and keep producing, you have to keep doing the things that got you there. Or otherwise you're just going to slide back down through the cycle to the valley of despair and then you're going to give up and quit. This is the part where you write things down, lock it in, turn the things that you did to get there, into your new floor, into the standard. This is just the way we do. Because remember, your standard isn't what you do on the great days, it's what you do on the days that you don't want to show up. So what I'd like for you to do is what stage are you currently right now? Put a name on it. I have a document that'll show you each stage that you have. I've got a response and things that you should be doing in that particular stage. So just message me or comment stage. Because regardless if you want to elevate to a multimillion dollar business, if you're an entrepreneur or if you want to get promoted, if you're working in corporate America, you have to measure your progress. So once again, comment stage. If you want the one page worksheet, I'll send it out to you. Please, like comment and share. We'll talk to you soon.
