How To Be There For Your Friends

When our friends are struggling, our instinct is to rescue them, to pull them out of the mud, to fix. To fix. And if you're the one sitting in the mud when somebody attempts to fix, even if it's well intentioned, it is a horrible feeling. Just don't do that. You're making it worse. And what true friendship is, is not the desire to fix or pull the friend out of the mud who you really want to see out of the mud, but it's your willingness to sit in the mud with them, to get in the mud and turn to them and say, this sucks, you know, and it's not fun being in the mud with them. You don't want to get in the mud with them, but you choose to get in mud with them until they're ready to say, can we get out now?