How to Live an Outstanding Life

All right, so have you ever found yourself desiring success but then find yourself sabotaging that very success? Do you find yourself avoiding opportunities to shine and expand your horizons and experiences? Are you always asking yourself questions like, what's wrong with me? What's my problem? Well, if you're like most people, if you're like me, you're probably made fun of a lot as a child.

By other children. You are probably misunderstood by adults. Well, I've got great news for you today. You are different. And your difference is not your dysfunction. And I believe that what happens when we go through life believing that our difference is our dysfunction is that we spend most of our lives hiding ourselves. We spend most of our lives hating ourselves. We spend most of our lives hindering ourselves and thinking that it's happening on the outside. Well, I've got great news for you. It's the difficulties of your life.

The setbacks that are the setups for the comebacks. They're gonna make you shine like nothing else could. So stop cursing your curses.

Stop being burdened by your burdens, and let your burdens be a blessing. And I'm telling you, if you will do that, it will take your life to a level that you can't imagine. So today we're going to talk about the fact that your differences aren't your dysfunction. Because if you believe they are, you're probably hiding right now. You probably. And when I say hiding, what do I mean? Like, you know, there are things that you could do to take your life and your business to the next level. Maybe using. Utilizing social media. But you don't like how you look on video. Well.

Utilizing YouTube or TikTok or Instagram video. But you don't like the sound of your voice. You don't like how you look or the shape of your body or something about you. When you look at yourself, you don't really look at yourself.

You look at the identity that somebody who didn't recognize your greatness gave to you when you were a little child. And I'm here to let you know, you gotta let it go. You gotta let it go. Now, I had a lot of things, quote about me that were wrong with me when I was growing up. My nickname in my family was and still is Big Head.

It wasn't that funny.

Because I have a big head. I can't. Like, I tell people, like, when it comes to golf hats, I don't wear snapbacks because, like, the back of my head just leaks out of that hole. Okay, okay. But my head was this Size when I was in the first grade, right? And I didn't realize why my brothers called me Big Head until I became an adult. I saw a picture of myself. Oh, that's why I saw a picture of myself in first grade. That's why they called me Big Head, right? And as if being called, like if being Big Head wasn't enough because I was Big Head, I also had polio as an infant. So I walk with a brace on my leg my whole life. And kids made fun of me. And I was chosen last when we were playing games on the playground. And all of that made me feel less than, but not as if that's not bad enough. I've got six brothers, all of them can run. I've got one older brother, five younger brothers. They can all run. I've never run anywhere in my life. I don't know what it feels like to bound from one leg to the other through the wind. And your hair didn't do it, okay? So I didn't have that. And then I grew up in Lewistown, Pennsylvania.

Lewistown, Pennsylvania, little bitty town. There were six black families in the whole town in the 60s.

And.

I did great in school all the way through the third grade. And it went downhill from there. So now here you got this big headed kid.

Who walks with a limp, who can't run, who's struggling his way through school. When I graduated, oh, man, I meant to bring it in here. When I graduated from high school, I went to a small Christian school in Pennsylvania. And when I graduated, they gave me the most likely to get on your nerves award. It was like a little pill bottle with some earmuffs that were made out of those little pipe cleaner things, said Meyer and Gold. They had like a table full of trophies. And I'm telling you this because all of these things made me want to shrivel up and just disappear when I was a child. And I am telling you that all of the. Like, I'm 63 now, right? So all of the things that I hated about myself because other people made me feel less than. All of those things are things that were absolutely essential to me becoming the person who could fulfill the purpose of my life. If I had missed any of that.

I would have missed all of this.

And I'm telling you, stop lamenting your lamentations. Stop thinking that the things that were missing in your childhood was the result of God, like, making a mistake when it came to your life.

The enemy. Yeah, no, my jacket is like jacking this microphone up, not my beard. It's my jacket. But I'm gonna take my jacket off here in a minute. Cause I'm hot anyway. So.

Stop. Stop thinking that you are or aren't who they told you you're not.

Some of you. There was a kid. I remember this kid. His name was Dave. Dave Ray. We were in fifth grade, and.

He was really cool and popular. Cool and popular? You're in the fifth grade. How cool could you possibly be? You're in the fifth grade, for crying out loud. Anyway, he's the fifth. We're in the fifth grade. He's cool, he's popular. I'm just me. Oh. And, oh, to make it all that worse, like, all of my brothers have normal names. And I got Myron. Oh, I hated my name so bad when I was a kid. Oh, you don't even know. You've never seen a child hate their names so much. I was born on Mother's Day. I remember I used to say to my mom, really? Really? You gave all my brothers normal names, and all you could think of when it came to me was Myron.

And that's how I said it too. I'm like. I said, mom, nothing personal. When I turned 18, I'm changing my name. I hated it. And you know what's worse? I hate my middle name even worse. Like, my children were teenagers. I hated my middle name so much that my children were teenagers. When they found out what my middle name was.

They didn't know I had. Like, they didn't even know. Even though my dad always called me by my first and middle name, they still. They missed it. So my middle name is Freddie. My dad would say my name. Freddie, right? I hated it. I just hated it. And I remember I was in the sixth grade, so I was probably 11 or 12.

Me and my dad are walking down the street right here in Tampa, and one of his old friends from when he was a kid came up to us. And my dad was proud. He was, like, proud of his sons, right? My dad's like, son, this is my friend Mary. We grew up together. Mary, this is my son. Son, tell Mary your name.

I was in shock. Like, what is happening here? Like, you just told me her name. I was an introvert too.

And I didn't like my name. And so now I gotta talk to a stranger, and I gotta talk to this stranger about something that I'd rather not talk to anybody about. I gotta tell her my name. And I know y' all think I'm just saying this, but I'm showing you that you're not the only one that has stuff in your past that you don't like about you.

So part of the reason I didn't like my name is because I didn't know how to say it. You say. What do you mean you didn't know how to say it? So my parents were from Tampa. We grew up in Lewistown, Pennsylvania. I had cousins in Pennsylvania. I had cousins in Florida. I had cousins in Ohio. And we went to see family a lot. So my family, even to this day, they call me Marin. It's like M A R I N maren. Like Marin, right? My brothers, that's what they call me. They call me Marin. Right? And I'm an auditory learner. So Marin sounds very different than what my teachers called me because my teachers called me Myron. But my cousins in Mount Union, they called me Marn.

And my cousins in Florida called me Myron. I had no earthly idea how to properly say my name. Now, I know that sounds ridiculous now, but when I was a child in. It was like I had all this stuff going on in my head about my name. And it was like. It was a tragedy, right? And I didn't like myself.

And I didn't like. It wasn't that I didn't like myself. It was that I didn't like the things about myself that other people brought to my attention that made me feel less than. But I didn't realize why they were doing it. I didn't realize the reason they were making me feel less than was because they actually felt less than. And that was the only way they knew how to make themselves feel more than.

And when I realized that, I was like, wait, so it's not that you don't like me, that you messing with me. It's that you don't like you, that you messing with me. Oh, cool. Say less, do more. Right? And so what we have to do is we have to free ourselves from this. Because I'm going to tell you something. If there were no challenges, there could be no champions.

Like, do you understand?

Goliath was a stage for David to reveal to the world that David is a giant slayer.

And I'm telling you that all of the things in your past, the fact that maybe you were abused as a child, maybe you were made fun of as a child, maybe you were beat up, maybe you were called names, maybe you were whatever, all of it. Yeah, I know it was hard, but I'm telling you, it was a blessing. Your difference is not your dysfunction. Everybody wants to live an outstanding life, but very Few people are willing to stand out to do it. And we got to be willing to do this. We got to be willing to stand out and stand up and let people see us and stop hiding and stop attempting to be invisible because we feel like we might not be accepted and stop measuring ourselves by other people's yardsticks and. And stop pretending that. Stop pretending that.

I just.

I'm just not that good. Well, you're good enough to help somebody if you could take your mind off of you long enough to put your mind on them. I'm telling you, it's so freeing. So there are four areas that I want to talk to you about where you have differences.

That might be causing you to hide from your assignment.

And I want to challenge you today, whether you're out there in the YouTube sphere or whether you're in this room, in this roomisphere.

I want to challenge you to stop believing that your difference makes you weird. Because the thing that makes you weird is the thing that makes you wonderful. I mean, granted, granted, there are some people out there who are just weird, right? And what I mean by that, there are people out there who have, like, they're socially disturbed and psychologically disturbed. I'm not talking to those people. I'm talking to those of you who just don't like yourself because of an experience that you had in the past when you weren't even mature enough to understand life yet.

And you still believe that you're too tall or too short or too ugly or too handsome or too pretty or too light or too dark or too whatever smart or too dumb. And you're still, you're buying into all this stuff and you're dancing around the responsibilities of your life, attempting to avoid stepping into your greatness because you don't see it as your greatness. You see it as your flaws. It's all of those things. It's all of those things that were so called wrong when you were a child that have been assigned or not assigned, ordained by God that you go through to make you strong enough to bless somebody else through it. The scripture says that we are to comfort others with the same comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God. What does that mean? If you're going to help somebody go through something, you got to like, make it through something with your attention paid on. Paid on God. With paying attention to God, you got to listen to his voice. And so there are four areas in which you're different. You are mentally different.

And I'm. And some of you, you Believe that your mental difference is dumbness or stupidity. It's not. It's just different. Your brain works differently. And unfortunately, too many children are taught by teachers who want to use the students to validate their own education.

And intelligentsia, as opposed to teachers who want to draw out the brilliance in the child. They want to demonstrate their brilliance in the student. Because some students are adults. Instead of the teacher seeking to draw out the brilliance in the student, they. They're seeking to highlight their brilliance in the minds of the students.

Like, there are college professors who are proud of the fact that most people fail their class.

But guess what?

You don't even understand the purpose of being a teacher. Because if most people fail your class, they didn't fail. You failed. You're the failure.

So you're different mentally.

Your curiosity is different. Maybe you're one of those people. Maybe one of those. You're one of those people who always has a question. And maybe that's the thing you got in trouble about the most when you were. Why do you ask so many questions? Like, do you have to ask, like, I should have named you Mark? Like, middle name Mark, first name question, question mark.

Like, you're always asking questions. Maybe you're one of those people just curious. Now, see, I was curious as a child. It got me in so much trouble because I wanted to know how things worked. And I didn't ask as many questions, but I took everything apart.

Why'd you take it apart? I wanted to see how it worked. Then I wanted to see if I could put it back together. In fact, if something got taken apart in our house, well, it wasn't always me. It was just always me who got in trouble for it. If one of my dad's tools were missing out of his toolbox, he assumed I was the one that moved it. Why? Because I love tools. Why? Because they help me take things apart. And sometimes they help me put them back together.

Keeping it real. Right? You're mentally different. Maybe you're mentally different because your mind always has a question. But why? Why is this that way? But what about this? How about that? How does this work? When can we do this? When is this going to happen? Like, maybe you're one of those people who. Your questions frustrated your teachers because they didn't know the answers.

But you didn't realize that God was preparing you in those questions to become a better teacher than the teachers you had so you could guide other people who are like you when they are coming through to the light that you've been looking for how many of y'? All Tracking. And so I'm so glad. I'm so thankful that so many things in my life were so difficult for such a long time and I paid attention. I'm so glad that I wasn't great at sales when I got started. I'm so glad that I was. So what's worse than terrible? Like woefully awful. That'd be worse than terrible, right? I was woefully awful at selling when I first got started in sales. Now, here's how I define woefully awful. You just do presentations every week and everybody says no. For how long? A year and a half.

So I was terrible. I was terrible at getting to yes. And it wasn't because I wasn't talking to enough people, because one of the things I learned. Well, you just haven't talked to enough people yet. Okay, well, nobody's going to accuse me of not talking to enough people. That's going to happen. And so eventually we got to a yes. But you know what taught me more than getting to yes? Getting all those no's and figuring out what didn't work is what led me to figure out what would work.

So you're mentally different. Your curiosity is different. Which means if your curiosity is different, what else is going to be different? Oh, your competence is different because you're so curious you have answers that other people don't have because you were willing to ask questions that other people wouldn't ask.

I.

Think one of my biggest challenges, like discipline challenges that I have still is my curiosity causes me to do.

Stick my learning tentacles into too many learning environments at the same time.

Right? That's like you say, how many? Too many. I don't know. But I know we're close.

Right? And so. So. But because your. Your curiosity is different, your competence is going to be different. You're going to know things that people are going to look at you and think, how could you possibly know that? Right. And what happens is you will recognize that your competence is different.

In a way that other people don't recognize that it's different. Other people will think that you're potentially being like a smart aleck or smarty pants or know it all. When you're just curious and you already read the book, it's like sometimes I talk to my son. He said, oh, yeah, oh yeah, I read that book in 2017. He doesn't just remember the book, he remembers when he read it. Right.

And I didn't realize how astute my son was until years Years later. How many years later? Well, he told me about Bitcoin, I think when it was about $12 a coin.

And I dismissed it.

I know, right?

His competence. His competence, his awareness, his cognitive awareness of what Bitcoin was, was greater than mine because he told me about it in 2012.

That's a long time ago. I didn't acquire my first Bitcoin until 2017. That's a long time.

So. And by the way, for those of you who are watching, if somebody reaches out to you on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, Facebook or any other platform and you. And they've got my picture on their profile and they're selling you some crypto, it's not me. It's a scammer. Don't buy it. Okay, just thought I'd say that because a lot of people, apparently now they're deep faking me for like pain cream. So your competence is different. And so now what happens when you have a higher level of curiosity and then a higher level of competence? Because if you're really curious, you're going to know things that other people don't know. Now you're going to have a higher level of confidence. You know what? All of these things, all of those things in themselves are not bad. Here's the difficult part for you. If I'm describing you right now, here's the difficult part for you. People are going to think you're a know it all. People are going to think you think you're a know it all and you're not a know it all. You don't know everything. You just know the stuff you know. Right? And so one of the most important things you must learn to do to keep from buying into the lie that your difference is your dysfunction.

Is to stop vying for other people's approval.

Let God's approval be enough.

You are going to be misunderstood. If you're doing something, if you are doing something worthwhile, you will be misunderstood. And if you're not misunderstood, it's probably because you're not doing anything worthwhile. You're hiding. All you have to do is show up and shine. It blows my mind how many keyboard warriors are actually keyboard cowards?

And what I mean by that is.

They will call you everything but a child of God. And by the way, I'm talking about this because some of you are letting this stop you.

I don't like when people give me negative comments. Really?

Have you ever done anything hard, baby?

So.

You can't take it when people give you negative comments? But I Noticed a lot of the people who have the most negative stuff to say on YouTube. For instance, you click on their comment, you go to their profile. They've been on YouTube for 14 years and haven't posted one video. But they want to. But, but they want to put a comment lopedia about what's wrong with you in your comments because they're really delusional enough to believe whatever.

I'm. I'm going to ignore people in here who. I'm going to ignore all the people in my audience who are too ridiculous. And I hope that those of you on YouTube did not hear what Cole. Okay, so, okay, anyway, so you're physically different. Your appearance is different. Well, you know.

I'm just like when I was a child. I'm telling you, I hated the fact that I had polio. I hated the fact that I couldn't run. I hated the fact that people made fun of me. I told you about Dave Ray. He was real cool and real popular. One day he was making fun of me while I was walking down the hallway. Elementary school. And he was walking towards me and he was making fun of me and all these people around and, you know, he was laughing. They were laughing. So guess what I did? I started laughing. Dave, that's hilarious.

That's great, bro. As soon as he got close to me, bam. Punch him right in his nose. Blood all over the hallway. We got called to the principal's office. The principal asked him, so, Dave, what'd you learn?

Ah, shucks, Myron, you can't go around punching people. Dave, what'd you learn?

Oh, shucks. Now, I wouldn't punch somebody in the face for making fun of me. Now I'd probably just do the why? Because.

Why did I punch him in the face? Couriers are actually keyboard cowards.

And what I mean by that is.

They will call you everything but a child of God.

And by the way, I'm talking about this because some of you are letting this stop you.

I don't like when people give me negative comments. Really?

Have you ever done anything hard, baby?

So.

You can't take it when people give you negative comments. But I noticed a lot of the people who have the most negative stuff to say on YouTube, for instance, you click on their comment, you go to their profile. They've been on YouTube for 14 years and haven't posted one video. But they want to. But they want to put a commentlopedia about what's wrong with you in your comments because they're really delusional enough to Believe that somebody is watching this video because they want to know what that person thinks about it. Stop caring. Your haters are your elevators.

Here's what you do. Next time somebody leaves you a negative comment on social, here's what you do. You go, aw, poor thing.

Aw, poor thing. Like, stop letting it stop. You. Don't let the haters make you be invisible, because the people that God sent you to serve, they need you to show up and shine so they can find you. Okay, so you're mentally different. Yeah, I'm mentally different. But not only that, you're physically different.

And usually your physical difference was highlighted by other people.

With the word too in front of it. Not two tw o. Not t, T, o T o O. You're too. You're too ugly. You're too fat. You're too skinny. You're too smart. You're too dumb. You're too. Too tall, too dark, too light. Too. This, too. Yeah, whatever.

I'm. I'm going to ignore people in here who. I'm going to ignore all the people in my audience who are too ridiculous. And I hope that those of you on YouTube did not hear what Cole said. Okay? So. Okay. Anyway. So you're physically different. Your appearance is different.

Well, you know.

I'm like, when I was a child, I'm telling you, I hated the fact that I had polio. I hated the fact that I couldn't run. I hated the fact that people made fun of me. I told you about Dave Ray. He was real cool and real popular. One day, he was making fun of me while I was walking down the hallway. Elementary school. And he was walking towards me, and he was making fun of me. And all these people around, you know, he was laughing. They were laughing. So guess what I did? I started laughing. Dave, that's hilarious.

That's great, bro. As soon as he got close to me, bam. Punching right in his nose. Blood all over the hallway. We got called to the principal's office. The principal asking, so, Dave, what'd you learn?

Oh, shucks, Myron. You can't go around punching people. Dave, what'd you learn?

Oh, shucks. Now, I wouldn't punch somebody in the face for making fun of me. Now, I'd probably just do the why. Because.

Why did I punch him in the face? Because I was already in pain. I was in pain from that. I was in pain. Not from the fact that my leg didn't work like my other leg. I was in pain from the fact that other people brought it to my attention. It didn't really bother me.

It didn't bother me that my left leg is smaller than my right leg or that I walk with a limp or that my left leg was 2 inches shorter than my right leg. That didn't bother me. You know what bothered me? It bothered me that it bothered other people.

Until they brought it to my attention. I really didn't even notice it unless I was picked last on the playground or something. But, like, I, for the most part, every now. And, like, even when I walk right now, I don't feel like, I, quote, walk funny unless I see myself walking past the door and I see my reflection or I see myself on a video walking. I was like, wow, that's what it looks like.

So to me, it just feels like walking. You say, why am I saying that? Because I hated it. I would have given anything as a child to not walk funny and have a brace and a Herman monster shoe on my left foot. I would have given anything. And granny boots because I had to wear orthopedic shoes. They look like granny boots off the Beverly Hillbillies. I hated it.

I am so thankful. Now, I know that sounds weird. I am so thankful that I have polio. Like, there's no universe in which I could be doing the stuff I'm doing had I not, like, we just celebrated. And y' all are gonna think this is crazy, but I'm telling you, everything affects everything else. We just celebrated last week, like, hitting a million subscribers on YouTube. It was so much. It was cool. It was fun, all that, but it would not have happened. Hear me now, what I'm saying now. It would not have happened had I not had polio. You're saying, well, that doesn't have anything to do. I'm telling you, it wouldn't have happened that fast. You say, how do you know that? Well, because I know that one of the results of me having had polio was the fact that because I couldn't participate in a lot of physical activities, I spent a lot of time observing other people and observing things. Like, a lot of time. And so I was talking to Dr. Bob. I can't remember his last name. He's a professor at.

Is. Rutgers in New Jersey. Rutgers. Rutgers. Rutgers University. He was a professor there. And he used to publish this little magazine called Bits and Pieces that I subscribed to back in the 80s. Yeah, back in the 80s. And it was like a little motivational magazine that was about this big, and it had maybe 20 pages in it, and it just had little quips and quotes and Stuff in it. And so he subscribed to my conference call a long time ago, back in the early 2000s. And he would just come on my conference call every week. And so one day we had a conversation and he told me that he was the guy who published bits and pieces. He said, myron, you know who you remind me of? Well, first he said, this is Dr. Bob. His name will come to me.

He said, you have.

An ability to come up with titles that's better than anybody I've ever seen in my life. I'm like, that's interesting. He said, it's really fascinating to me that you remind me of Milton Erickson. I'm like, okay, who's Milton Erickson? Well, Milton Erickson is the father of modern day neuro, linguistic programming, hypnosis, coaching, counseling, whatever, whatever, whatever. I said, that's fascinating. And he said, but you know, something that you and Milton Erickson had in common? I said, no, what? He said, Milton Erickson also had polio as a child. He said, and he talked about how when he was a child, because he couldn't participate in certain activities, he just spent time watching people. I was like, that's amazing. I can. I've spent my whole life just watching people and observing. So not that y' all care, but hopefully you will one day.

So.

I. I can remember because I couldn't run. I. I remember watching people run and attempting to figure out what movements they were doing that gave them the ability to run. And so I analyze, as a child, I would just sit there and watch people run and just analyze it for hours. Which sounds weird, but I mean, what else was I gonna do? So it's really, really fascinating that I believe that this thing that has been. That as a child was so painful for me as a child has become so profitable for me as an adult. And when I say profitable, I don't mean money profitable. I just mean, like life skills profitable. And.

If I had a chance to go back and do a. Do over and live a life of Myron golden without having polio, I wouldn't take it. I really believe that God in his sovereign wisdom ordained for the purpose of my life and my assignment that my body slowed down so my brain could speed up.

So don't, don't hate on yourself because of what everybody else pointed out in you. What's missing? Just utilize that. Like, how can I benefit from whatever. How can I benefit from my brokenness so I can help other people who are broken? Man, if you'll look for that, I'm Telling you it'll take your life to another level for sure. So you're physically different.

Maybe your appearance is different. Well, I was a black kid in a white town. That made me different. But guess what? It did. And we moved around a lot, so guess what it did. It gave me the insight that everybody is not the same everywhere.

And so I learned how to deal with people in the country, and I learned how to deal with people in the city because we moved around a lot. And I didn't look like. Like when we were in the country, in Lewistown, I didn't look like the kids I went to school with. But when I was in the city, we were poor, so I didn't look like the kids I went to school with there. Even if they were black kids, I didn't look like them because, you know, they had way more money than we had. I mean, when. So it was all like, my appearance was always going to be different.

But I'm telling you, embrace that difference. Because that difference is. If you embrace that difference, that's where you'll tap into your destiny. Your abilities are different.

Did you know that? Every weakness creates a strength, like a compensating strength.

So instead of lamenting the weakness.

Take advantage of the strength. Leverage the strength. It's there for a reason, and stop hiding. Okay, I know I keep saying that because some of you believe you're not worthy to show up and shine until.

Show up and shine. Now.

The longer you're showing up and shining, the better you get at it, and the more time you give people to find you. So you're physically different in your appearance. You're physically different in your abilities. You're physically. You're physically different in your artistic acuity. So I remember when I was growing up that my brother Jeff especially, and my brother Rob especially, they were the two really, really good artists in our family. Like, they could draw. They could draw and make stuff look real, and they were good at it.

Jeff has always been musically inclined, and so.

It was different. And I remember my mom telling us that my grandfather could play the piano by ear. I'm like, how does anybody play the piano by ear? But some people can hear music, and it just. They know where to put their fingers, right? And for me, my art didn't show up like that. I mean, I could draw okay. I wasn't terrible. Don't judge me by the drawings I put on my board, because I have other stuff that I've drawn, too, okay? So just calm down. But.

My artistic ability showed up more in words.

Than in pen and paper. And see, what happens is when we don't get the gift somebody else gets, we think we don't have a gift. I remember.

When I met the girl who would eventually become my wife.

And I met her her first day in college. And I wasn't the only guy that liked her.

But I was the only guy that could write poetry, make you hurt yourself.

And I remember I wrote this poem. I'm not gonna. It was like, 27 stands. I'm not gonna give you the whole thing, but y' all wanna hear something about it?

So it was called what Will It Take?

And this was the first poem that I wrote for her. Because when I go in, I go all in. I'm throwing the gauntlet down. We ain't playing. Let's go, right? Because the day that I met her, I did go back to my dorm room and told my brother, who was my roommate, I met the girl today I'm gonna marry. She didn't go back to her room tell anybody she was gonna marry me Anyway, I have my work cut out for me, so went like this. What will it take? What will it take to win thine heart Thou fairest of the fair?

What will it take to win thine heart Thou fairest of the fair? It will take.

Wow, it escaped me. I haven't said it in a long time. Fairest of the fair Will it take? Okay. What will it take to win thine heart Thou fairest of the fair? Will it take a prince of princes Or a valiant knight to dare to win in one so beautiful as you might that require a nobleman A priest, a king or someone even higher? What will it take to win the heart of one so kind and fair? In youth it will probably take a rich man More handsome of a truth what will it take to win the heart of one so comely and sublime? Must one be a sovereign ruler Or a monarch in his prime? None of these do I possess and yet I seek to win thine heart Thou queen of elegance above these valiant men I'm not a prince of princes and I've never been a knight but if I had a chance to win your heart I think I might I'm not a nobleman I'm not a priest or king but to win your heart thou farest I'd make the bells of heaven ring Since I don't know what it takes to win your heart so true Please tell me what it takes to win and that's what I will do she said, oh, Myron I said it's on now, boy. It's out.

And a whole bunch of promises later. A whole bunch of poems later. Finally got her to say, I do. My art showed up in words. It didn't show up in a musical instrument. It didn't show up on a canvas. It just showed up in how I expressed myself. So.

Yeah. Lyrics.

You're not just physically different, mentally different, but you're also emotionally different. Stop hiding. Because you're emotionally different.

Like, maybe you're, like, you're emotionally. Your emotional empathy is high. And maybe you feel other people's pain readily and extremely. And you're really, really sensitive. Don't hide that. Let that work for you. Let that bless other people.

Maybe. Your emotional emulation is high. This is really good. This is really high in people who are good at sales. Your emotional emulation, you actually know how to show people not just feel. You don't just know how to feel what they feel. You know how to show people that you feel what they feel.

Your emotional emulation is high. Your ability to let people, without saying it, to let people know that you feel where they're coming from is really high. Guess what? Guess what some people are going to do. They're going to say, you're just so manipulative.

Oh, yeah. Oh. I'm telling you, you have to stop needing other people's approval or you will never do anything impactful. Because other people are like crabs in a barrel. They don't want you. They think you getting ahead means they have to get back. The two don't have anything to do with each other. Okay.

Your emotional expressiveness is high. Sometimes when I'm doing YouTube videos, I get really intense. I watch the video later, I'm like, dude, why do you sound so mad?

And I'm not mad. I'm just excited in, like, getting the point across. And some people are like, I wish you'd stop yelling all the time. Me too. I wish I'd stopped yelling all the time. That makes two of us. Right? But let. I'm not talking about character flaws. I'm talking about.

Just human flaws. We all have them. Like, you don't stop believing in this idea that you have to be perfect in order to show up. The people God sent you to serve are waiting for you to show up.

And you're socially different.

You're introverted. And extroverts want to make you feel like being introverted is not enough. I know some. Some of the most successful people I know are introverts. So maybe you're an introvert and you think, well, I can't be successful because I'm an introvert. Or I can't do a YouTube video or a TikTok video because I'm an introvert. No, I get it, trust me. And I know you are like, I am an introvert. I'm naturally an introvert.

I have some extrovert, I've developed some extrovert qualities, but I'm naturally an introvert. Or maybe you're an extrovert. And when you're an extrovert, guess what people do? They look at you and they think you're a show off. You're just showing off. That's all you're doing, showing off. Just a bloat show. That's all you do. You want everybody to look at you. But extroverts are expressive and they get their energy from people. Introverts are more contemplative and get their energy from being alone. Neither one of them is good or bad. They're both good, they're both bad. They both have their good qualities. They both have their bad qualities. One's not better than the other, they're just different. Because if you're an introvert, you were sent to do stuff that introverts are supposed to do. And if you're an extrovert, you were sent to do stuff that extroverts are supposed to do. Just embrace whatever you are. Just embrace it. Or you're an omnivert. Now, what's an omnivert? An omnivert is an introvert who operates as an extrovert or an extrovert who operates as an introvert. So you can get your work done. And if you're that, be that. But if you're not that, you don't have to attempt to be that. Just be what you are. It's so funny. If you're an omnivert, when you're around extroverts, they think you're an extrovert. But if you're an omnivert, when you're around introverts, they think you're an introvert. So, like, if I go.

To. If I'm in a. If I'm in an event and there are a lot of people there and it's not my event, I always sit on the back row in the corner. I don't want any attention. None. It's not because I'm. I'm ashamed. Like, I don't want to. I want to. I'm there to learn. I don't want. I don't want to Taint all eyes on me. I, like, I would just be. I'm happy to be by myself. Like, when I go to events like conferences, like, I'll usually have my couple of little friends that were close and we'll just sit around and talk the whole time. Just because, like, all that limelight stuff, If I'm teaching, great. If I'm not teaching, I don't. I don't care about it at all. Don't even want it at all. It's not because there's any shame there. It's just like. It's just. I don't know. I just like. I like. I like my me time when I'm. When I'm done doing an event and when I'm doing an event and the day's over, I express it like this. I am peopled out.

Like, I've used all my people energy today. I don't have any left. So I'm gonna go somewhere and be by myself so I can recharge. Right? So whatever you are, though, be that. So all of that, all of that. Myron's my rant to say this.

If you will stop hiding and. And trust that God didn't make a mistake when he made you different. I think what you'll find if you'll look at your differences.

You will find your values, the things that you value. And by the way, your values are what's going to attract your audience, who's going to. Whose lives you're going to add value to. And they're going to add value to your life because they're going to pay you.

So your values come from your difference.

Your virtues. A lot of your virtues come from your difference. People laugh when I say this, but I quit drinking when I was 11.

Say, when did you start? I don't know. It's probably three or four. And it was just normal. A lot of people don't know this, but during antebellum slavery.

They would. The slave masters would give the slaves alcohol on the weekends and holidays so they could drink away their sorrows and not have to think about the fact that their existence is a slave.

A lot of people don't know that. That's a lot of the genesis of alcoholism in the black community. A lot of people don't know that anyway. So from when I was growing up, it was normal for parents to give their children beer if they were drinking beer. They just give their kids some of the beer. I don't know if any of you experienced that or not, but I did. I was allowed to get a can of beer out of the refrigerator when I was 4 and just drink it like it was soda.

And don't judge my parents, because my parents were awesome. They were awesome.

I don't care if you judge them or not. They don't care either. But my parents were awesome. They weren't perfect, but they were awesome. But you know what made me quit drinking? When I was 11, I loved going to work with my dad.

Loved it. I had so much fun. I felt like a kid in the candy store. I'm at work with my dad. We're working on this roof one day helping build Mr. Buck's barn.

And.

I heard my dad bragging to one of his co workers, yeah, man, my son's the hardest worker you ever seen in your life. That boy is just. He's amazing. Yeah, that Michael, man, he's short. I'm thinking Michael. But Mike was very, very tidy. It was very. His room was always clean, washing dishes, whatever vacuum. He didn't. He was. Michael sure came working. I thought to myself, michael's not the one that's here today. I'm here. Why is he bringing on Mike? And then he saw me looking at him. My dad saw me looking at him when he was talking to his friend. He could see the look on my face. He said, yeah, that Myers sure can drink some beer.

And I thought to myself, I don't judge him. I love my dad. I thought to myself, he will never be able to brag on me about that again.

So I quit drinking when I was 11.

But I'm glad that that happened because it showed me something that. That the fact that I was drinking beer and gin and vodka.

Sorry, sometimes every now and then, some wine. When I was a little kid.

That difference, that. That's the family I grew up in. And our whatever level of whatever.

Is one of the reasons I don't drink alcohol.

Just.

Look at your differences as a gift.

And find your virtues in those differences, find your values in those differences. And then the other thing is, it gives you visions so you can find your visions and your differences. So, like, health is really like one of my highest values, right? Like, focusing on health. Because I learned a long time ago that just because you're getting older doesn't mean you have to get weaker and sicker and tireder and, like, less able. Like, I. When I was growing up, I believed as you got older, you had to get weaker and sicker and tireder and less able. But I don't believe that anymore. And so. So a long time ago, I really started focusing on my health. Like, late 90s, I really got, like, dialed in, focus on my health. Got away from her a little while, but came back like, I cold plunged this morning for 5 minutes in 37 degree water. If I wasn't going out of town today, I'd do a whole workout routine in my biohacking room. So I do stuff to focus on because my mom told me when I was a little kid about this.

What'S it called?

Syndrome called post polio syndrome. You've probably heard of it. Dr. Siobhan, right? Post polio syndrome, people who had polio when they were younger, when they get older, like, it re emerges and then they get weaker and blah, blah, blah. I'm like, oh, no, sir. No, sir. We gonna keep that enemy at bay. And so one of the reasons that I value.

Like, fitness, nutrition, biohacking, and all of that is because I know that if I didn't, like, I've got something in there that I got a giant waiting laying in the cut for me, waiting to rear its ugly head and show me, no, we ain't having it. Like, that's why I do, like, regenerative medicine with my doctor in Dallas. Like, and I'll fly to Dallas and get these needles that are this long injected into my spine with all this, like, regenerative medicine stuff. Why? Because I know that there is a possibility of this weakness coming back. And so I fight the enemy as far away from the door as I possibly can so it can give you visions for the things you should do in the present. Look at your different. Look at the differences that you've had your whole life as a guide to your destiny. And I think you'll be blown away when all of a sudden you look around one day and say, I declare, I'm here. Your difference is not your dysfunction. Don't buy the lie. It costs too much. All right, my peeps stay blessed by the best, and I'll see y' all on the next video. Bye for.