How to Understand People Who Have Hurt You #leadership #productivity #service

23 Aug 2022 · 1 min

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A brief spoken monologue advising listeners who have been hurt to reframe the harm as originating in the other person’s suffering rather than as a reflection of themselves. The speaker encourages setting boundaries and protecting oneself while choosing understanding and goodwill from afar instead of revenge; the piece closes with a Confucius quotation about revenge.

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If someone has hurt you, if someone has betrayed you, if someone has stolen from you, if someone has caused heartbreak in you in any way, understand it's less about you, don't make it about you. And it's about them. They're suffering, they're in pain. They're not conscious to what they're doing. Do you want to hurt them back? Or do you want to understand them? And I'm not saying you spend time with them. You know, protect yourself, set boundaries, but wish them well on their journey from afar. And it was Confucius who said, before you go off to seek revenge, it's best to prepare two graves.