How To Unleash Unshakable Confidence

Do you have confidence or do you lack confidence? I submit to you that most people struggle in the arena of confidence. I'm going to teach you today how to have confidence and not just how to have confidence and confidence, which is what most people think they need. I'm going to show you how you can have unshakable confidence. And if you don't have it already, I'm going to show you why. So. So confidence. Let's first, before we do anything else, let's write the word confidence on the board. So we're going to write it.

What's the root word of confidence? Confide. What does confide mean? To trust.

So if you don't have confidence, that means you don't trust yourself. So if you lack confidence, my question for you then is, why don't you trust yourself? Is that a good question? I think it's a great question. And here's the reality. People who have confidence can accomplish more than people who don't. Who don't. In fact.

It'S unfortunate. It's unfortunate that con artist are very good at helping people develop confidence in things that are not true. That's what makes them a con artist, right? Because they're getting you to put your confidence in something that's not trustworthy. So they're getting you to trust something that's not worthy of your trust. And that's what makes them a con artist. But a con artist oftentimes is better at selling a lie than people who believe the truth are at selling the truth.

Because the person who's selling the lie believes in the outcome he desires to have more than the person who believes the truth believes in the truth that they say they believe.

And so unlocking the confidence code, how to unleash unshakable confidence. So I've had several people ask me this.

The first one that comes to mind is my man, Brian Bowman. So Brian said to me one day, we're on our way to the golf course, as he and I often were, and he's like, myron, you have more confidence.

No, he didn't say confidence. You have a higher sense of certainty than anybody I've ever met. Do you teach that?

I said, no, I don't teach it, but I can tell you where it comes from. He said, where does it come from? I said, I have a book, and it tells me how everything works. And it's filled with promises and practices and precepts and principles and practices that give me the ability to make predictions about outcomes in the future so I can Position myself on the path of prosperity. Prosperity means to flow on the path of prosperity. So that when the good times start rolling, I'm already there, buckets in hand.

Would you like to know the name of the book he said? The Bible. I said, you nailed it because he knew me. So he knew. He already knew which book it was going to be. Okay, so how do you unleash unshakable confidence? You become expectant based on comprehension of principles. This is how you build confidence. You start out by being expectant based on principles, on your competence, on your comprehension, rather of principles. So the better you understand how things work, the more confidence you have. The less you understand how things work, the more random you believe things are. And so you believe things happen according to happenstance. Right? But if you understand principles, then you can intentionally apply those principles. This is why, by the way, the whole concept of evolution is such a farce. Because.

Order doesn't come out of disorder without intention. So the first law of energy, or the first law of energy conservation is.

Everything is energy. Energy is neither created nor destroyed. It just changes form. Y' all all heard that scientific principle, right? Okay, Everything is energy. Energy is neither created nor.

Changes form. Then second law is the law of entropy. So what does entropy mean? Anything left to itself tends to move more and more towards disorder. Think about it. If you leave anything alone long enough, it becomes worth nothing. If you leave a garden, you plant a garden, and you don't cultivate the garden by pulling the weeds and water in the garden, fertilizing the garden, then the weeds take over the garden. You don'. Isn't it fascinating? You don't have to plant weeds.

They just show up. You don't have to plant weeds.

Nobody says, what are you doing? I'm planting some weeds. No, you don't have to do that. And if you don't take a bath, you're not gonna get cleaner over time. You're not gonna smell better over time. Why? Because anything left to itself tends to move more and more towards disorder. If you don't clip your fingernails and toenails, they turn into claws.

Some people actually intentionally go get their fingernails turned into cloth. But that's another conversation for a different day. Okay, so.

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Your ability to navigate the landscape of life is going to be in direct proportion to your understanding and comprehension of principles that exist. So we just talked about two principles. We talked about the principle of energy, and we talked about the principle of entropy. So let me. Let me just talk about that really quickly. So one of the Reasons. One of the reasons people have confidence, have confidence, who have confidence, have so much confidence is because they understand the law of energy versus the law of entropy. So did you ever think about the fact that if you're going to take some aspect of your life, it could be your health, it could be your relationship, it could be your wealth, it could be, it could be whatever, any area of your life that you are going to make better. Intention is required. You have to set an intention. I am going to intentionally use my energy to make this aspect of my life better.

But you don't have to set an intention for your life to get worse.

Like, I don't have to set an intention to get out of shape.

All I have to do is nothing. I don't have to set an intention to.

Not smell good. All I have to do is not take a bath, not take a shower, right? And so if you do nothing, everything in your life gets worse. Here's how powerful the law of entropy is. If you buy a piece of real estate in the United States of America, you get this thing called depreciation and you can accelerate the depreciation. What does that mean? The government says that if you buy this piece of real estate and you do nothing to it, in 27 and a half years, it will be worth nothing.

And so because you are going to do something to it to make it better, to make it last, they will give. You take whatever the price of the real estate is divided by whatever the price of the structure, not the land, the structure is. You divide it by 27 and a half, you multiply that number times seven, and you can take that much as a tax write off in the first year.

Wow, that's crazy, right? And you say, myron, what's the point? My point is, if you don't do anything, your life is going to get worse.

In order to have progress, intention is required. But in order to digress, the only thing that's required is neglect.

So one of the things we have to make sure we do if we're gonna have confidence. Don't neglect the principles that make life better. So there are some principles in business that I operate by that make my life work very, very well. Here's one.

If I desire to make more money, then I have to bring more value to more people or a higher value to fewer people in order for me to make more money. Because people will only pay me in direct proportion to the value I give them.

Like, well, no, but people should pay me based on how hard I work. Well, let's say you work really hard and you go out to some remote area in the middle of Oklahoma and you dig a ditch with a shovel. And that ditch is 10ft deep. 10ft wide. No, 10ft deep and 10ft square. You dig a. That's a big ditch, and you dug it with a shovel. That's some really hard work. How much are you going to get paid? Well, nothing, unless somebody wants a hole that deep. It's not how hard you work that makes the work valuable. It's who values the work that makes the work valuable.

And so one of the things I've got to do as a principal, the reason I know I can make a lot of money is because I know that I care to serve a very large number of people a very high value, which causes me to make a lot of money. By the way, that's the formula for you, too. All you got to do. All you got to do is stop thinking about yourself long enough to focus on obsessing over somebody else's problem. And if you can find a big enough pool of people with a big enough problem and pockets at least deep enough to solve that pay to solve that problem, you can make a fortune. Wow, Myron, that seems like an oversimplification. Okay. I mean, if you want to make an excuse, any excuse will do. It's like, my neighbor came over one day and said, dude, can I borrow your lawnmower? I said, yeah, man, I can't let you borrow my lawnmower. My wife's making beef stroganoff. He turns around and walked away. He said, wait, what.

What's beef stroganoff got to do with me borrowing your lawnmower? I said, nothing. But if I don't want you to borrow my lawnmower, any excuse will do. No, that didn't really happen. Okay, okay. So it's like we can always find an excuse not to do something, okay?

They're laughing at me because I don't have a lawnmower. I already know they're laughing at me because I don't even have a lawnmower. I don't have a lawnmower. I have a mowing company who wants a lawnmower. Or, well, it's not therapeutic anyway. Different day. Conversation expectant based on principles. So you must love and understand principles if you're going to make your. If you're going to develop confidence, you must love and understand principles. Stop trying to make life the way you are and make yourself more aligned with the way life is. Stop trying to fix everything. Outside yourself.

And start fixing the things inside of yourself. Because if you fix the things inside of yourself, all the broken stuff outside of yourself will have a lot less impact on you. Myron, the world is unfair. Yeah, it is. But you know what? You solve the problems inside of you, and it will matter way less that the world is unfair.

Myron, I'm a woman in a man's world. Guess what? You solved the problems in you.

You'll make the men around you wish it was a woman's world.

Myron, I'm a black man in a white man's world. What? Okay, I get it. If that's what you believe that if you want. But guess what? You fix the problems inside of you, it won't matter what man's world it is.

It's way easier for us to drop the iPad than it is to keep put it on the chair. So it's way easier. It's way easier for us to look for the answer to why our life's not working outside of ourselves. It's way easier for us to find an answer outside of ourselves. But it's impossible to fix answers that are outside of ourselves. It's harder to find answers inside myself. Well, the reason my life ain't working is because, yeah, I work really hard, but I work really hard on stuff. Only I care about.

How many on tracking. See, you gotta fall in love with solving other people's problems. But see, here's why you one of the. I watch people who attempt to sell stuff and they don't even realize the reason they can't sell is because they're obsessing over the commissions. Like, I had somebody call me last week and I thought it was my bank, and so I answered it, hey, Mr. Golden, I'm with PP&L, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And I work alongside you and I wanted to talk to you about your electric bill.

Who are you and what do you want?

Well, we were such a company. I don't know. Okay, Are you with ppnl? No, I'm not with ppnl. Is Pennsylvania Power and Lights. Okay, because for my house in Pennsylvania. Are you with ppnl? No, I'm not, but I'm talking. I want to talk to you about your bill because we can get you a rebate and blah, blah, blah. Okay, sir, I appreciate the fact that you called, but I don't care about a rebate. But how much is your electric bill? I don't know how much my electric bill. It's on auto. Is. It's on auto pay. I don't know how much it is. I don't care how much it is.

But I know you're smart and you're a businessman. Click. Now I'm done. Cause you wanna talk to me about what's important to you. But I just told you I don't care. And it's not that I don't care because I have so much money. I don't care. I don't care because it is a waste. It's costing me more to have this stupid conversation with you than whatever amount I'm paying for my electric bill.

So I don't wanna talk to you about how much my electric bill is because then I have to go find out how much my electric bill is, and then I have to call you back and have a con so I can save $16 in my electric bill. This is dumb.

I can go read a book and learn how to make $16,000, and you're talking to me about saving money on my electric bill? You're wasting my time.

Okay? Can you tell I was irritated by that?

This is my irritated. I'm irritated. Faith. Okay? You have to love principles. Love and understand principles. And then you must learn and apply. Learn and apply principles. So you gotta love principles. When you love principles, you become curious about them. When you become curious about them, you start looking for them. I wonder why this works. I wonder how that works. I wonder why this works. I wonder how that works. I wonder why this works. So recently, recently, a year and a half ago, I bought this guitar course. And so far it's been like $13,000 that I paid for this guitar course in a year and a half. But I'm cool with that because I want to master the guitar, and I'm serious about mastering the guitar. I'm not. And I discovered something about myself and music and. So weird, because I'm kind of weird. Don't agree with that. Okay.

I discovered that I like music theory more than I like music.

I know that's weird. Like, listen to music's fine, but, man, understanding how it works is epic. Right? Okay, so learn and apply principles. And by the way, the reason I decided to master guitar, because I was reading the book, and it made me realize when I was reading that book, oh, everything.

Works off of vibrations. You have harmonic vibrations, and you have. You have melodic vibrations, and you have symphonic vibrations. I'm like, okay, so the better I understand music, the better I'll understand life. Oh, I'm gonna master the guitar.

That's how my brain worked out that situation. Okay, cool. So learn and apply principles and then leverage and accomplish based on the principles that you love and learn. This is how your life changes. I promise you, if you will learn more about how things work in life, your life will get better. Not it might get better. It will get better. Okay. Some people don't want to be bothered, though. And so.

Why don't some people want to be bothered? Why don't some people want to learn these principles? Because you bought into the lie. Your lie identity that the cultural, hypnotic societal mechanism gave you that you're not smart. They told me I wasn't smart. Like, if you looked at my report card from first grade to third grade, you'd have thought, this guy is a genius fourth grade through 12th grade.

Probably a dodo bird.

Not the smartest guy. Not the sharpest knife in the drawer. Not the brightest bulb on the tree. This dude right here, he's not smart. I got way more Fs and Ds than any other thing from 4th grade to 12th grade. But if I bought into. If I would have bought into the lie that I'm not smart because I didn't do well in school.

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Unfortunately, the miseducational misdirectional system validates the system at your children's expense.

I thought I hated school when I was in school. You know when I knew I hated it when my kids were in school? That's when I discovered. Oh, this is terrible.

The principal called my office one day. Mr. Golden, your son didn't get his homework done again last night. Let me help you understand something, Bud.

It's not homework. It's schoolwork. Y' all didn't finish teaching them at school.

And they're not going there for free. I'm paying y' all do your job. And don't expect me and my wife to do your job when my children come home. We have a family. We have stuff we want to do together. If you think I'm going to obsess over my children doing this stuff y' all call homework to validate your degree, you are out of your mind. And if you don't want me to send my children to school with a backpack full of dishes they didn't get washed last night. Stop sending all this junk to my house.

You say you didn't say it just like that.

I was not confused. I might have been wrong, but I wasn't confused.

And I don't believe I was wrong. And I wasn't going to help this miseducational misdirectional system I wasn't going to help them make my children think they're not smart.

Anyway. But you bought into that lie, which is why you don't want to learn principles. You avoid learning because you think you're not smart because of the identity the school system gave you.

You know, I'm keeping it real. And then you have to have extreme belief based on your competence.

Do you know confidence is the result of comprehension of principles, but it's also the result of competent practices. You have to competently practice those principles. And that's where confidence comes from. Like, I know this principle works. It's one thing to know that the principle works. And so, like 1 plus 2. 1 plus 2 equals 3. 4 plus 4 equals 8, 5 plus 5 equals 10. It's always going to be the same. Principals always do what they always do. They're not going to stop working because I started applying them, right? And so when I start applying them and I start getting results, then I know what to expect at the end of doing this activity. And so now all I gotta do is look around and see what I'm good at, what are my competencies, what am I competent at? And so I've gotta discover my proficiency, discover what I'm good at. And by the way, don't make the mistake of thinking that you're not good at anything, because everybody's good at something.

God wasn't handed out gifts and said, well, you know what? You ain't getting nothing today. Keep moving.

And so you discover your proficiency. What are you good at? Like, hey, here's what I discovered. So I've got six brothers, and I was really frustrated as a child because I've got six brothers. One older brother, five younger brothers. All my brothers can run, but I got this brace on my leg. I can't run.

Like, I didn't like the fact that I was different. I hated it.

I didn't hate it a little. I hated it a lot.

Couldn't run. So guess what? I learned how to fight. Okay.

Y' all weren't expecting that, were you?

But guess what?

Now that I'm an adult, I'm glad I couldn't run as a child because I would have wasted a lot of time running that. Instead, I used observing how things work in life.

So you discover what you're good at. And I was good at watching people and watching things and breaking down how things work and reverse engineering processes. Why? Because, well, that's what pretty much what I could do. And so I developed that's my proficiency. I didn't know that that proficiency would eventually, like, make me millions and millions of dollars. I had no idea that that would happen. I just knew that I was good at what I was good at and the stuff I wasn't good at wasn't good at. So I didn't waste a whole lot of time attempting to be better at things I was bad at. You know, one of the biggest mistakes people make in life, why they don't have confidence is because they spend too much time attempting to strengthen their weaknesses instead of strengthening their strengths.

You know how much time I practice running? Zero.

But you know how much time I spent practice analyzing? Almost all of my time. Why? Because once I analyze it, I figure it out, then I can apply it. And then once I apply it and it works, then I can come back and report. And when I report, people pay me for my reports.

Isn't that great?

Okay. I thought it was great. Okay.

Discover your proficiencies. And once you discover your proficiency, once you discover what you're good at, then develop that proficiency passionately. In other words, have a good time getting better at the things you're good at.

This is how you're confident, you know? So I remember right before I got. I was. I was in Miami. I think it was in 2019. Maybe 20. 20. 2019. I think it was 2019. I was in Miami 2019. Grant Cardone was having his 10x growth con. Russell Brunson was speaking. Russell asked me to come out and help him with a presentation on stage. I'm speaking to 35,000 people in the Miami Marlins. Are. And right before I went out, somebody said, are you nervous? I'm like, I'm a whole lot of stuff, but nervous is not on the list.

I don't ever get nervous when I'm gonna speak. And I know that's weird, but, hey, this is who you're dealing with. I don't ever get nervous when I'm gonna speak. I don't care how many people I'm speaking to or how few people I'm speaking to, I don't get nervous. Why? Because I already know what's gonna happen. Why? Because I passionately improved my proficiencies, and I just. This whole thing about communication, I promise you, I've studied it more than most people you ever hear communicate in your life. So I'm not worried about whether what I'm gonna say is gonna make sense. I know it's gonna make sense because I made it make sense to me before I ever thought about attempting to make it make sense to you.

And I had so much fun learning all this stuff that I know how to do and that I use now on a daily basis. I have had so much fun developing these skills. I. I'm not the least bit concerned about whether or not somebody's going to get it. Of course they're going to get it. What else would they do?

If you don't understand where I'm coming from, that sounds pompous, probably sounds arrogant. But if you understand where I'm coming from, it's a level of confidence where I'm not worried about the outcome because the outcomes are predictable based on the inputs.

So you discover your proficiencies, then you develop your proficiencies passionately, and then you deploy your proficiency passionately and profitably. So then once you get good at doing a thing.

I remember the first time I did, like, a seminar to sell something from the stage. I wasn't nervous, but I didn't know what I was doing either. And so I invited Jerry Clark to come speak at this event. And.

It was a friend of mine who had a network marketing company, a direct sales company in. He did an event in Waco, Texas. Jerry lived in Dallas. My friend Stan said, hey, you need to have Jerry come speak at your event. I was like, why do I need to have him come speak at my event? It's my event. Small thinking, but I let him talk me into it. Okay, whatever. Jerry can come speak. So I spoke. I only did. There were 35 people there. I did $350 in sales. That was my very first event. It was in August of 2003, 2001. August 2001, 2003, something like that. Anyway, so then Jerry got up and spoke. Same 35 people. Jerry did. $3,500 in sales. Jerry said, hey, when you leave tomorrow, you're flying out of Dallas, aren't you? I said, yeah. He said, get there early and we'll have lunch. I'm like, okay, cool. So we get there, we go out to lunch. Jerry pulls back the curtain and shows me the speaking business. He had been speaking for 15 years. He was making millions of dollars a year. He showed me his speaking business. I was like, oh, this is going to be so great. Just so happened that my very second seminar, Jerry was speaking at that event. So I got with Jerry and he coached me some more, and he told me to do some stuff. I was so nervous because the stuff he told me to do, I had never done before.

I literally. And this is my. Like, I spent every dime I had to get to this network marketing conference. In Birmingham, Alabama, where I'm going to be speaking to these, quote, 700 people. And I'm going to make, I don't know how much money, but it needs to be a lot, because I spent all of my money and borrowed my dad's van and drove here, like, left on Thursday and got to Birmingham on Friday night. Because I had to go to Jacksonville and pick up my tapes, Cassette tapes the duplication company in Jacksonville duplicated for me. And so I was. And I was supposed to speak on Saturday morning. They kept putting it off, putting it off, putting it off. I didn't get to speak till Sunday morning. I was the next to the last speaker on the last day. There were only about 130 people left. I called my family, like, pray for me. I'm going to be speaking this morning. They cut back my time. They pushed back my. I don't know if. And then Jerry told me to do. And everything Jerry told me to do, I was very nervous about. Because none of it made sense to me. Well, think about that. Good coaching most of the time is gonna be counterintuitive. Think about it. If it made sense to you, you'd already be doing it.

So it didn't make sense. What he told me to do didn't make sense. But I said, I'm gonna do it anyway. I'm gonna do exactly what he told me to do, exactly the way he told me to do it. I'm just gonna see what happens. But I got everybody praying for me. Cause I was scared. I mean, I wasn't nervous. I was scared. I was like. I spent all my money. I don't even know if I got enough money to get back home to my family. I'm in my dad's van. I can't leave my dad's van down here in Alabama. What am I, like? I was nervous, right? And so I got up, I did everything Jerry told me to do. I got down to my offer. Now, here's what's funny. I was so nervous. My offer was $147.

I was. I'm telling you, I was nervous. And so I did everything Jerry told me to do. And I'm thinking to myself, these people, like, there's no way this could work. But I did the whole thing exactly like he laid it out. Because I'm coachable. I got done with my offer. I told him the price. There was a lady on the front row about where you are, Trudy. And my table was in the back corner over there. Lady jumped up. She said, what? What? And she jumped up, she ran to the back table, and people started following her.

I was in shock. It was. It took every amount of restraint that I could muster up to keep from breaking out into hysterical laughter. I had never. It just didn't seem to make any sense to me. And then two other people who were there said, hey, can you come do a training like that for my people? One of them said, can you come do a training like that for my people in two weeks in Cleveland? Can you come do a training like that for my people in Baltimore?

I'm in the game.

I went to Cleveland. I made $6,600 at that event. I ended up doing $5,900 in sales. That was in 45 minutes. That was like, what just happened? That was a fortune to me back then. Then I'm pretty sure it was 2001, now that I think about it. And then.

Went to Baltimore, made $8,800. I'm like, this is a thing.

You can make $5,000 every weekend. Oh, it's on now. You shouldn't have showed me, Right? And so I just kept doing, put that thing on, rinse, repeat. Every time I go to event, somebody else would book me. Somebody else would book me. And I started calling people I knew in network, hey, you want me to come do a free training for your people? And then I'd start. It just started growing from there. And then people started telling people about these trainings I was doing, and I started raising my prices from 147, then 297, 297, then 497.

So you deploy your proficiency passionately and profitably. And now my offers are like. My big offers are like $350,000 a year, a million dollars a year. Start out with my little. Those don't even make me nervous. Why? Because I passionately developed my proficiency profitably.

And then. So it's expectant based. You unleash your confidence by being expectant, based on your comprehension of principles, by being. Having extreme belief in your competencies. I have extreme belief in my competencies. I know that everything I work on is going to work because I know how it works.

And by the way, if I don't have enough belief in the thing because I don't have enough experience, like, I don't. This new mentor of mine who's teaching me how to, like, buy hundreds of millions of dollars worth of real estate, like, I don't have any experience in that. So guess what I do. Guess what I do. I borrow his belief to build mine so I'm going to do the action based on the fact he believes it'll work, and then I'll do it based on the fact he believes it works. I'll do everything he says the way he says to do it because he believes it works. And then guess what? Then it'll work for me. And then I have a whole new level of confidence from a whole new level of competence.

And then excellence in behavior and character. So this is the one. This is probably the biggest kicker of all the kickers.

Excellence in character and behavior and character. What does that mean? It means keep your word to yourself. Start there. What does that mean?

If you don't have confidence, you don't trust yourself. What's the number one reason people don't trust themselves?

Because they've lied to themselves so many times in the past they can't believe a word they say.

Think about your New Year's resolution, January 1, 2023.

What date in January did you let yourself off the hook for? That one.

And so what happens is we make choices instead of decisions, and then we let ourselves off the hook. And we've lied to ourselves so many times in the past, we can't believe a word we say. So if you say you're going to do something, first and foremost, keep your word to yourself.

Don't say, I'm going to do something and not do it.

If you don't do the thing you told yourself you're going to do, have a penalty to pay.

Okay, number two, Penalty to pay. Like what? Let's say you say, I'm going to do my webinar, my first webinar, my first presentation, or my first challenge, or I'm going to launch my ebook or my. Whatever, my first affiliate offer on this day. And if I don't launch it on that day, I'm going to. You want to really challenge yourself? Pick somebody you don't like. I'm going to pay that person $100.

Don't be looking at me like you can't think of nobody. Somebody you don't like. Oh, Myron, I like everybody. Quit tripping.

You might be able to sell that to somebody, but I ain't buying. Okay.

Was that too human? Okay. Yeah. So keep your word to yourself. Keep your word to other people.

Psalm15 says that a good man.

Swears to his own hurt and changeth not. What does that mean? That means they say they're going to do something, even if they find out that it's going to cost them time, effort, energy, money, or heartache. Or difficulty or pain after they gave their word. They keep their word anyway.

He swear to his own hurt and changeth not. Keep your word to others.

Which brings me to the last point. Keep your word even when it hurts. Guess what? Guess what kind of person you will be. You will be the kind of person who knows that when you say something, it matters. And you'll know that it matters because you made it matter.

I'm telling you. If you will practice these principles, you will develop an unshakable confidence. And here's what confidence will do for you. It'll open doors that have been closed your whole life.

It'll usher in opportunities that have been running from you.

When you have unshakable confidence, you don't have to waste 40 years of your life wandering in the wilderness.

You can let that 11 day journey just take 11 days. Do you know it was 11 days from Egypt to the promised land? It was an 11 day journey.

And it took all of the adults 20 years old and older, 40 years.

And they died in the wilderness. Never got to see the promised land.

Why? Because their confidence was shaken.

If you will have confidence, you will be able to do things.

Like it'll create a whole new universe of opportunities for you. I'm not speaking from theory, I'm speaking from what I know to be true. Because this is how I live my life.

Go out, study the principles, become proficient in the practices and you will profit immensely in your business. Stay blessed by the best and we'll look forward to seeing you in the next video. Peace out.

Works.