It's Not Them, It's You

6 Sept 2026 · 1 min

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In this reflective monologue, the speaker examines the tendency to blame external factors—whether in romantic relationships or in business settings—for failures, and argues that the common denominator is often the speaker themselves. The talk highlights how people create narratives that place fault on teammates, company direction, or others, while avoiding personal accountability. By urging listeners to consider that "maybe it's you," the speaker emphasizes the difficulty but necessity of self‑examination and taking responsibility for one's own impact on relationships and team performance.

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The only common factor in all my failed relationships is me, right? And I think that in business, we sometimes forget that we have an impact in the teams and the people with whom we work. And when I hear people say, nobody on my team gets it, the company's direction is wrong, I have to fix everything, the only person I can trust is myself, I'm starting to think like, maybe it's not the team, maybe it's not the company. Maybe it's you. And that's a very hard thing for people to come to terms with because it's much easier to create a narrative that everybody else is getting it wrong because it's very hard to say, I'm getting it wrong.