advanced touches part 2

Hey, what's up everybody? I just want to talk about advanced touches because there's so much to it and it's so fun. But it's also one of those things that could be very confusing for some of you guys. And I think it's also good, like I did the touches with this girl named Maria. She's awesome. But also it's just like, it's good to just talk about it in general because I don't feel like I'm on display mode as much. So I think this is going to be a good helpful video to kind of just reiterate some things and also to kind of go over some things I didn't talk about in the previous video. So I still want to continue on the mentality of the things that went on and the things that like maybe were missed a little bit was that even standing up, you can do a lot of these different things of like touching your shoulder, lower back, stuff like that. Also, another thing I didn't mention, and this is like a bit further on in the interaction, remember like 2 steps forward, 1 step back. You want to keep doing that. And when you go 2 steps forward, You take it to a new area, a new level, and then you go back to the safe areas or like back to the basics. And then when you go 2 steps forward again, it goes even more advanced. Okay, so it's like it just keeps escalating and then it chill. You have some chill moments and then it escalates some more and then it's chill. Um, really, I've done this, uh, I don't want to go scripted on it because I've really It really is kind of you're feeling her out and then you're seeing her reaction and how accepting she is. If she's reciprocating touching and she's smiling and she's— maybe she's even saying flirty things and you can read the room and like just do more stuff. Like if that's the case, you know, you're at, you're at a nightlife environment and she's like saying flirty things and she's, you know, dancing on you and she's like, you know, touching your arms and stuff like that. Then those are the types of gals that I end up advancing it even more where I'm touching her waist. I didn't mention that, but touching her waist, her lower waist, that's very sexy, very awesome whenever it's calibrated. I think calibration is the huge word for this because if I just intro and say, hey, how are you doing? And hey girl, how are you doing? And I grab her lower waist. That's uncalibrated because it's just too much too early. It's weird because it's, it's a weird dynamic where it's like something that is creepy in the beginning is player later on. Did you get that? Something that is cringy or something that's too much when you're first doing something, or in the middle of the interaction maybe, can be great later on. Okay, so it's— I just want to share that with you because it's a progression. It's not this like one-size-fits-all type situation. I can physically progress with a girl in one night, like pretty good, you know what I'm saying? Where it's like one-night stand, like, you know what I'm saying? Easy, you know what I'm saying? Uh, but I have to read the room. But there could be other girls that are more reserved where I can only progress it to some degree. And again, it's all about calibration, okay? You have to be able to see how she's reacting. What are her face reaction looks like. What is her body language saying? That's a big one. And really just seeing what goes on. But whenever you see that there's— a lot of the times when there's no reaction, when she's not fazed, then that's the best. And I think I'm going to go into a little bit of a story here because it's good to get a good idea of my progression and how things go about, because I think you guys will experience the same type of stuff. But when I first started out and my dating coach was like telling me, he's like, dude, it's like your talking is good now, it's, it's getting better. It's like you gotta physically escalate. And I'm like, okay. And so I, I was like, all right. So I went and I was like, I physically escalated and it was cool. Like I was like touching the shoulder and arm and I thought it was a crazy big deal. Not even fazed, you know what I'm saying? And, uh, my dating coach was like, yeah, it's like, dude, like do more, like do more. Like she was like feeling it, like do more. And, um, and so I would like to like talk to the next one, and I would do more. And then it got to the point where my coach was like seeing how timid I was, and that's why coaching is such a big deal. Uh, but he saw Tim and I was like, dude, he's like, do me a favor, like I want you to overdo it. I want you to like have her back away or give you a weird look when you're touching her. And I kid you not, man, for the next— For the next 2 weeks of me talking to women Cold approaching, getting their numbers, talking to them. I was trying to overdo it for 2 weeks. It took me 2 weeks, guys. 2 weeks to overdo touching. Like, it blew my fucking mind. It blew my mind. So it's one of those things where it's like, damn, it's like I'm touching her shoulder, I'm touching her waist, I'm, I'm like pushing her away, I'm bringing her in and hugging her close. Like, What the fuck is it going to take? You know what I'm saying? It finally crossed that barrier. And it's cool because when you figure out your threshold, then you know where to point it back. You don't have to do that every time. But as a beginner, I do suggest you guys to get out there and I promise you it's going to be just like my experience where you're going to be amazed how much women are okay with our touches. We make such a big deal out of it. We are the ones that freak out about touches. Oh, that's cringe, or oh, that's creepy. And we're quick to point that out, you know what I'm saying? Even when a guy does a little something. But in your own life, in your own experience, like, it helps so much. And it wasn't until I found that barrier that I found that limit. And it's like, okay, that's, that's where it's too much. And again, it wasn't even that big of a deal. Like, She backed away and gave me like a whoa. It's like, and she even says like, dang, you're really touchy. And as she was backing away, and I was like, oh snap. And so, but that same gal, we ended up making out, you know what I'm saying, the next day. So it comes to show, even when you mess up, it's not the end of the world, you know what I'm saying? Uh, because it's not an overshoot overshoot, you know what I'm saying? You know, if it's like something crazy drastic where you're just Cupping her ass as soon as you say hi, then yeah, that's gonna be you're gonna be in a lot of trouble probably. But no, it's I'm not talking about that, but I'm just talking about slightly over calibrating. Okay, I'm not saying go super drastic like I just said, but like over calibrate it to some degree. You know what I'm saying? And so in that example, I was like grabbing her her lower waist and like you know bringing her in a bit much and stuff like that. And it finally was like over. It was it was a bit much. You know what I'm saying? But it wasn't like super. Super crazy, you know what I'm saying? Um, so it's one of those things where it's like you got to find where that's at. But really, for you guys that are just getting used to this, or maybe this is like new to you or something like that, like definitely try to push yourself to get comfortable touching women while you're talking to them. Uh, I figure out— I've, I've seen this too many times. Uh, there's just a lot of nice guys that I coach And there's, you know, the thing with that is that you're just having the pleasant conversation, but you're never like touching and engaging. And the thing is that your touches are the gateway to kissing, okay? Your touches will open up kissing because like basically, especially for my casual guys, like if you're, if you're wanting to like get laid and stuff like that, and if, if you're wanting to do that quickly, Then you got to get good at this part. Like, you got to get good at it because the quicker that you can, you know, touch the girl and she's feeling comfortable with it and everything like that, the quicker that you can kiss her. The quicker that you can kiss her, the quicker that you can do a little bit more bedroom touches type stuff, and then the quicker that you can have sex with her. Okay, so it's like, that's the, that's the pattern. That's the goal. Because if you really think about it, It's such a big gap, such a big change from going from not kissing her at all to having sex with her. Like, that's such a huge jump, such a huge jump. So it's like you gotta have these steps in between to really understand and, and see the flow of it. And when you get the flow of it and you get a feel for how it should be, and, and you're actually doing that on a regular basis, then all of a sudden It makes everything that much better, cleaner, and you could just kind of just go from there, um, to where it really does make a good difference. So it's one of those things that I don't want this to be like something where you have like some sort of formula. There isn't a formula. It's really more of a feel, and it's calibration to that woman. Okay, I'm gonna talk about calibration in a social sense, but I'm gonna say the physical calibration is always going to be to that woman. And if you have a background of an idea of that woman and you get a feel— you're going to get a feel for her as you're talking to her, right? So you can get kind of calibrated to even how her vibe is. If she's giving off party vibes, giving off like you meet her at a nightclub and she's barely covered up and shit, like, there, that vibe, usually 9 times out of 10, like, you can Do a lot of physical touching and it's like she's not even going to be fazed. But, you know, maybe you meet her during the day and she's more reserved and she's like religious or just tends to be reserved and she's like kind of shy or whatever. Um, then you can even tell even off of that to some degree. I still would do 2 steps forward, one step back, because you'd be surprised even, even in that And the example I'm just giving, how you can still escalate touches and let her get to that spot, you know what I'm saying? But it's one of those things where it's— you can pretty much still get things going on to where you can just continue to escalate, continue to get things going in a sense that it will get you to that next level. Logistically leading is another thing. And I'm going to talk about this, but it's like when you're at one spot and you're interacting and you're physically escalating, and then you go to another spot, it almost like— it's almost like a kind of like a reset in a good way, you know what I'm saying? To where you can redo things. Or like you're— maybe you're touching her standing up, you know what I'm saying? Um, and then you sit down and you have different touches there. It's like a different feel, a different vibe. Um, so I highly suggest logistically leading her around. You know, get showing your different places and different things like that and kind of just going from there. Uh, and that, that usually goes really well. So again, calibrate. You can get all the way. I mean, if I'm— there's been lots of times where I've been with the party girl and like she's grinding on me and like we're, we're having a good time. She's touching me and stuff like that, and I'm touching her lower waist, I'm touching her ass. I'm like, you know, whatever. It's like— You can have that and then all of a sudden get to another transition of it. So that's like pretty much the basics of it, guys. Uh, even on a first date, uh, first date, uh, physically escalation is, is big too. Um, a lot of you guys will probably be in that realm where maybe you're talking to the gal and you're not going to touch her too much for whatever reason. Maybe it's just during the day. During the day, you can kind of touch her a little bit. I don't go super crazy during the day. It's a different vibe. I don't know, it's just a different vibe. I tend to just try to flirt with her and build attraction and rapport in how I socially talk to her, how I look. The only sexual tension I do in day game, which I think is just good in general, is just stand closer and look into her eyes, like, and then talk slow. You stand closer, look in her eyes, and talk slow, and, and you— and she's the one that breaks away eye contact before you. That's, that's sexy. That's, that's money. Okay. And you could even do that during the day. So no big deal. Also too, when you're calibrating to the woman, uh, what you want to do when you finally do see the micro expression or the backing away or whatever, like depending on what you're doing, like let's say like this is her lower back and I'm touching it and I go to her waist and she's like, you feels a micro expression, then I'll pull away. As soon as I see tension or feel tension, I'll pull away immediately. Okay, but not in— don't do it in a way that's like you just touched a hot stove, like, oh, I'm sorry. Like, no, don't do that because women are feelers and they're gonna— it's gonna feel like you did something bad and you didn't, you know. It's just she's just not comfortable with whatever touch you did, right? Um, so don't do that. And also just don't do it super fast, but do it. In a quick enough fashion to where I kind of do it naturally. Like if I overdo it, she backs away or she gives a micro expression and I'll just be like, it's like, but then it was like the other day is like I blah blah blah and I'll just like use my hands to like say something else. I don't sometimes I acknowledge things and certain things I don't. So I acknowledge like if she pulls away for like if I'm trying to kiss her and she pulls away, I'll acknowledge that which rarely happens. But I will acknowledge that. But this, like the microexpression or the pulling away, I don't acknowledge it. I just move along like nothing happens. Now, don't get me wrong, like in the back of my mind, I know that that's like, okay, she, she backed off. So in that sense, if that happens and you're still on the date or you're still talking to her, at that point, you could just keep talking, act like nothing happened, keep it flowing naturally. I would then just start to test the waters with the light touches again and see how that goes. You know what I'm saying? Go back to just shoulder arm stuff, but very here and there. And then depending, like if I have all night with her, like let's say I still have 2 hours with her or something like that, and it's like only 9 o'clock or 10 o'clock and she's gonna be there till 1 or 2, then I would still try to ramp up things again. You know what I'm saying? Advanced touches really have a good part in night game, which is why it's advanced because you're battling the music and you're battling different things and entertaining her friend group and all these different things. But the benefit is you get time with her to advance touches to get the lay. I mean, you can get the lay that night sometimes. You can get the lay the next time you go on a date. It just sets the tone. So much for so much different opportunities. All right. Um, yeah, so that's pretty much what I do. Whatever touching motion I'm doing, if it's the leg, then I'll just slowly put my hand down and away from her leg if I'm touching her leg, you know what I'm saying? Um, whatever it is, if you see that you over-calibrated or it's, it's a bit much, then pull away in a, in somewhat quick fashion, but don't like make it a jerky motion either. Okay. And, you know, use your arms naturally after that. Use it to talk or whatever, you know what I'm saying? Uh, still own that you went for it, but don't like say it like, oh, I'm sorry, I messed up. Like, don't, don't. That's just, it comes from, that just comes from a lower frame and it just, it isn't just right. You know what I'm saying? Um, but I mean, unless she actually says something, says something, then yeah, I acknowledge it, but. At that point, just keep it going, keep it moving. You'd be surprised how it's— it'd be all right, you know, from there. So if you guys have any questions about this, like, leave something in the chat, uh, feel free to answer. It's one of those things that you're not going to really have questions until you actually try it, until you actually do it. Um, highly suggest it, especially going on dates and stuff. There's so many missed opportunities, especially for the casual guys out there. So many missed opportunities. to close the deal and get lays and stuff like that when you're not physically escalating like this. And that's pretty much it.