Ep. 29 Unraveling Generational Money Beliefs with Energy Awareness Coach Maren Rasmussen

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[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: Welcome, everyone, to another episode of the Money's not yout Problem podcast. I'm Madeline, your host and today we have a very special guest with us. Her name is Marian Rasmussen and she's an energy, awareness and life coach. We're excited to have her with us to talk a little bit about her financial journey. What are some of the reflections and some of the lessons that she's learned so far? I'm going to let Marin introduce herself to you.

Hi, everyone. I'm Maren Rasmussen. I a little bit about me. I'm from St. George, Utah, and I've lived up in northern Utah for the past 20 years. I have two bonus kids that are 20 and 17 and then two little girls at home that are 2 years old and almost a year old.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: So those are the twins.

Busy almost. They're. They're 17 months apart. So, yeah, they're, they're both pretty little right now, but it's super fun. And I, I'm a certified life coach through the Life coach school. I've been doing that and more. So I do energy work. I have a gift to see energy and I bring in the coaching aspect of that as well, the mindset work, because energy gets stuck, but unless we change our beliefs, the energy just keeps getting stuck. So I love all things money and helping work on issues with the energy awareness sessions I do. And yeah, that's a little bit about me.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: Thanks, Fran. That's really interesting. So do you do a little bit that work where you get people unstuck from past emotions, the energy that's trapped in the body? So what you do.

Exactly. Yep. I. So I have a gift to see energy and it usually I can see it more symbolically. So the example I give often is like I might see a clock in someone's like stomach area. And as we start looking at that, a lot of times they might have like time scarcity issues or maybe there was trauma when they were little, something happened around time and being late or something. So I work on that and generational issues as well. So often I'll see ancestors that have passed on that, you know, maybe they've passed on beliefs like a big belief. I feel like that has been passed on generationally is money is Evil, especially if you're religious. There's a lot of that. And so being able to kind of bring awareness to it and then release it has been a huge help and bringing awareness to the client as well. To see like, oh, I don't need to think about money that way and be able to shift their beliefs.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: Excellent. And how's that? Is that difficult to do that via zoom or do you do in person?

So I mostly do email sessions. Years ago I started, I only did in like people in person that came to my house. But then over time I realized energy is not physical. And so I started offering sessions over email and realized as soon as someone like gave me permission, that's one of my rules. I have to have permission from the individual if they're over 18. If they're under 18, I get permission from the parent, but I get permission and then I can. I call it tapping into their energy. But I kind of connect their energy and then work on them. I also do over Google Meet or Zoom sessions.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: Okay.

Every so often I'll do group sessions. So like a group of like 10 family members or 6 friends get together and we just sit around in a room and I work on each person for about eight minutes. And those are super fun. Those are really fun sessions to just be together and kind of connect. That way people can kind of see what's going on with the individual and it's nothing ever comes up that you don't want to be seen, but. Right. It's really good to help clear the energy up. And my main goal, I call myself an energy awareness coach because my main goal is to bring awareness kind of with the mindset work and being able to change beliefs around areas that you're really stuck.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: Right. Because lots of emotions and things that, that people do, it's because they are unaware of what is bringing that action or that thought. Yeah, that's power. And during those sessions when you have more than one person, do you think that the other people can get benefit? Just like when we do coaching, group coaching.

Yeah, I definitely do because I'll bring up often I'm like coaching the energy. And so I will talk about certain beliefs. I think a few of the most powerful things that I think happen, especially if it's a group of close friends or family members, is it almost gives compassion for each other. It allows them to connect more. And then besides that, yes, there's the element of like, oh, I kind of struggle with that too. And she's talking about like, we don't need to have scarcity around money. So maybe I can work on my thoughts around that. So yeah, I think there's dual purpose in all of it.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: Oh, that's interesting. So let's dive in, into the money in your journey. Looking back, how did you, your family look at money?

You know, I feel like we always lived in scarcity. We always had enough, never went hungry. In fact I would say most people on the outside looked at my family and thought we were, were really well off. But inside I feel like my parents, they both grew up in like pretty more poor circumstances and more like, like I'm, I know at times my dad, there were many kids that he, you know, he went to bed hungry or things like that. And so I can see from my parents perspective they grew up in scarcity and really tried to break out of that. But even when you have money but you still have the beliefs of scarcity, you can't even enjoy the money. Like and so I feel like a lot of times that happened I like wanted something and then o we don't have enough money for that. But then we would have like this, a really nice house and like nice cars and so it was a little confusing. But I think my parents did an awesome job to break out of the scarcity as much as they could. And now I've seen it, I want to break it all the way, you know, like releasing that scarcity and that fear around. Maybe we won't have enough tomorrow.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: I guess it's interesting to see it's where we put the importance. So the importance was for you guys to have a nice place to live, have a reliable good transportation so that those, those are the things that they were willing to spend more.

Yes.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: Right. And sometimes other things that seem a little contradictory because then you can spend on other like according to what they believe, those are not important areas to spend more. Right?

Yes, that's so true. Yeah, it's interesting. Like I remember one time I had holes in my socks and because we'd go play outside with our, our socks on or something and my mom said to me like, oh, we have enough money to buy new socks. Like she was embarrassed that I had holes in my socks and I remember feeling like confused. But the other day I couldn't buy those new shorts or something, you know, but it just, yeah, it really, that makes so much sense. Just where her perspective was of like these things are important and these things aren't and so we can spend money on this but not here. Yeah.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: How many siblings you have?

I have two older sisters. So one's three years older and one's eight years older.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: Yeah. So you're kind of at the end, right?

Yeah, yep, I was at the end. Got to watch them all go through all the things and then I feel like loosened up once I was a little bit older.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: Right. That's true. And because I'm the old. The youngest too, sometimes we don't face that many stress or the lack that they actually had, but the beliefs carried on by the time they got to us, right?

Yeah, totally. Yeah. Very well said.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: How did this affect your thoughts about money in your youth?

In my youth, I remember feeling annoyed a little bit. Like looking rich was more important. And looking back now, it's like as an adult, I don't think that's what my parents were doing. I think kind of what you said, like, it was important for them to have a nice place to live and transportation because maybe they didn't have that when they were kids. But I remember thinking like, oh, it's more important to look rich. And that was just something I really wanted to push away against. And yeah, just having a lot of fear around money. Like today we have enough, but we never know what tomorrow will bring. Like there's always. Yeah, just a lot of scarcity. I wanted to have money, but I also felt bad about that. So some religious views came in as well. I don't remember my parents ever teaching me that. That, but just I. We went to church every week and I think I kind of picked up on some things there of like, I don't think it's okay to want money. So just a lot of confusion overall about money and maybe like hiding from it because I'm like, I don't know what's okay and what's not with money.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: Yeah. Did you ever get taught anything financial wise, like sit down and thought about how to do a budget, how to do, you know, let's save to buy this thing or.

Yeah. My mom was an entrepreneur and she did have me work for her, so I would. She was a dance teacher, so I had to call and do collections. So like, if someone hadn't paid yet, call and. And hey, can you send payment for this? You're. You're late on your payment. That was pretty young. I am pretty sure I was like 10, 11, 12 years old when I was doing that. And then she also did big conventions for her dance stuff. And so we would sell things there and. And then later they. They purchased a skating rink where my mom could teach the dance lessons and then also the skating Would extra income with that. And so I worked there at the concessions when I was probably 14. So I feel like I got a general consent consensus. And then my dad would also have us put into QuickBooks sometimes my mom's checkbook to try to teach us like what a checkbook? So I feel like I got a, like, kind of a good like starting place with financial stuff, but not like a direct sit down like hey, if you spend this much and you save this much, you know. So it, it was some experiences that I had that kind of taught me about money and how to use it, how not to use it. I remember looking at my mom's checkbook and sometimes being like I wouldn't spend my money on this, you know, like, and just being like once again this is where she wanted to spend her money and that's fine. And me looking at it and thinking I probably wouldn't do that when I'm older. So. And it's carried through like certain things that she did pretty regularly to self care. I don't, like, I, I don't do those things. So that's pretty funny.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: It was a training on the job, right. And it allowed you to make your own conclusions. And maybe some of those conclus might not have been the most useful, but you created your own. You're learning on the money. Right. And then you had to possibly eventually later on you had to go back and look at those beliefs, look at those thoughts and to decide if you want to keep them. Right, those decisions.

Yeah, exactly.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: So you talked about going to church every Sunday. Did you guys grow up lds?

Yes. Yeah.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: Are you still a member of the church?

I am, yeah. Yeah, I am.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: So how did your spirituality have any influence? How about money and how.

So, um, I. Growing up I, I think I had like the money is evil type of energy and even like some scriptures I read now kind of. I would say this is where energy work comes in for me. How I think about it is like it almost hits that nerve or that trauma I would call it around money and money is, is evil and causes me to really question or now I'm instead of questioning, I kind of like analyze, okay, am I doing this the way I want to be doing it? How can I change my framework and my, my belief? Money. I really have loved like Jody Moore and Brooke Castillo some of their thoughts around money. I, I have absolutely taken to, I love the thought that money is just a tool and like just like we need a hammer to build a house, like we need money to purchase things and to do things in this life. And then I also love that money just makes more of what you already are. So I kind of had the belief like, oh, if I get money, I'm gonna turn evil. And now I look at it as if I'm gener. Now I'm going to be more generous when I have more money. If I'm evil now or bad, I'm going to get. If money's just going to make me more of what I already am and amplify that. And I love that thought because now when I work on clients, I'm like, we. You're one of the people we want the money to go to because you're generous and you're. You're going to do good things with it and it wants to come to you. Like I see money so often wanting to come to people and they kind of block it. Um, with many different beliefs that whether it be religious or maybe something with their spouse, like only men make money. That's like a big one I see with women anyway. So. Yeah. Spirituality though, now I feel like I can really connect with God and trust that he's guiding me and that I can connect with him and make sure I'm on track with how I view money.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: Excellent. I. I grew up with the same thing. But I guess it's because we always see the pride cycle.

Right.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: When people start making. Becoming Prospero, then they become. We think that they become evil, but it's a lot of what they already are. It just amplifies. Yeah. And we don't want. And wanting the money. Right. And of course, because we think they're evil, then we always find in the scriptures the examples of people like they, they, you know, they're bigger for us, the ones that are evil. But if we think about it, the family of Lehi, they didn't have their wealth. They wouldn't be able to get that wealth. And, and like the whole transaction. Right. They were good people. Yeah. It's interesting we. That we look for that. We used to look for those things. Right. And I had the other way around. I had where my dad had a factory. They also had those priorities how they would spend money. But I saw him do a lot of good and I always associated that because it was. He had money. But then I would be persecuted because I had money. So I'm like, so I don't want to have money because I'm going to be persecuted for that. That's interesting. Yeah. And. And it's. We have to be looking for those Opportunities. And there's nothing wrong as a tool. Like you said, it's a tool that used to do. How can we help in physical things if we don't have the physical means to do that?

Yeah, totally.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: So when did you come across with life coaching and start working on changing those beliefs?

I can't remember what year it was. It was several years ago. Two of my friends within a week told me about Jody Moore and her podcast. And one of them specifically was like, she did a podcast on money. And I love how she talked about money. So I started listening to her podcast and I just got hooked. So I went to she had a B Bold boot camp. And then like a year later, I went to be Bold Masters. And then in 2020, I signed up with the life coach school and I was certified later that year. And since then I've just been, you know, at that. Within that time also, I had my two children. So it's been a little crazy with kids and everything. But I. I've continued to grow my business and work on energy work and also combining in the thought work work and the mindset work with that energy.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: That's great. Are there one or more people in your life that helped you with your financial evolution other than Jody Moore was part of it. But was there anybody in physical proximity or.

I was. I was thinking about my financial journey along the way. One person. This is like a random. In like seventh or eighth grade, I had an English teacher that made us write this super long research paper. It was like so long, but I remember him talking about, like, decide now how much you want to make one day. And in his class I was like, okay, I want to make $75,000 one year. And at that time, that was like a lot of money. And I feel like just because he offered me that idea and like, hey, decide now. I made that within my career. I worked besides life coaching, I had another job and corporate field and surpassed that. And so I feel like he made a big impact on me. Other than that, honestly, like, Jod and Brooke Castillo have been the biggest. I haven't really had a lot of people outside of the coaching industry that have been abundant in their mindset about money. I'm finding them more, I feel like, because I'm seeing them. And now as we're talking, I'm thinking of one of my uncles who is very well off. And he has always been so generous with his money, but he plays hard too. So he has a boat, he has a cabin, but he. So. So I feel like he Also has made a big impact on. On me. And it's funny, I would have never thought of that. Like, I don't think about him and money, but he really has taught me a lot about money because of who he is and just watching him and what he does with his money. And so he. Probably the person closest to me physically, he's probably the one that's made the most impact on me, for sure.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: So are there key aspects or key learnings that you got from those people that really became important to you, that guide you in your journey?

Yeah, I think the few we've already mentioned, but also, like, there's enough. Like, I. If I get money, I'm not taking it from somebody else. I feel like that's been a big thing in my life of. You know, I remember when I was really young, I watched on the TV a commercial came on of some kids in Africa, and it was like, these kids are starving. Can you pay a dollar a day and help pay for their food? And I remember thinking, like, I. I was actually talking to my sister about Santa Claus, and I was like, well, Santa Claus can't be real. Like, if they're starving, you know, like, they would have what they need if Santa Claus gave them stuff every year, you know. But now I've learned. I don't. I don't think that's true. I don't think me throwing away some food here makes someone else starve somewhere else. Whereas I feel like I kind of heard that growing up a lot. I think it's good to be conscious about what you do and throw away. But. But I think really there's enough of everything. I think, especially, like, it wants to come to you. Like, money's easy. I feel like that aspect. I've seen this. So in my energy work business, Most of, like, 90% of my business is word of mouth. So I work on someone and they go tell five people, and then some of them come see me. And I can tell when I'm in scarcity. No one contacts me. Like, I don't get any appointment set up that whole week. And then I realize, like, in a couple of days, I'm like, oh, I can tell my. I'm like, really tight. And, like, I'm not loose with this. I'm in scarcity, and I relax. I say, there's enough. It's okay. Like, I'm. I'm sharing my gift with other people. Um, it's okay that I charge money for this. Like, that's the value that I am offering. And they Want to pay for that. And then like the next week I get like 10 people that contact me within three days. And so it's, it's very interesting even just energetically to be able to see that flow of just belief, like really believing, like there's enough. Money's a tool. It wants to come to me and it makes me more of who I already am. And so I'm just going to keep showing up.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: That's, that's so true. And a lot of times we, we have to be aware that we are in that space. Noticed that sometimes I'm scrolling through social media and I see another coach who's doing very well and they keep moving forward. And then for some reason, family wise or something, I'm not doing as much to promote or anything. I was like, oh, I'll never get there. She's getting all the business. Oh, someone else is doing money coaching. Right. So those are the things that we have to catch ourselves as a. No, there's enough for everybody and we're just helping more people. Yeah, we're just kind of allies. Lies. That's interesting. So was, how did you reconcile some of those negative beliefs that you had from financial aspect from your past with now?

I think the first step was really becoming aware of them. I, I think it's easy to want to hide from your current beliefs because it feels scary to uncover them or you don't know what to do once you see them. And I think just really being honest with myself and like, what do I really believe about this today? And, and how can I make peace with that? A lot of times I involve God. Like most of the time I'm, I'm involving God and then I'm also researching or studying things that help me see the truth of what I want to create. One of the biggest things also is like with energy work, a lot of people will be like, oh, that's a gift that you have. You shouldn't charge money for that. They don't say it in those terms, but that's kind of what they mean, I think. And that has been kind of hard. I'm like, oh yeah. And then I realized, wait a second, does that, that mean that we should all just go have jobs that we hate and that we're not good at because we're not supposed to charge for something that we've been gifted. And then I started thinking about other people and specifically like the prophet of the church, he was a heart surgeon and he's talked about how he had a gift with his hands and he charged money for that, you know, and so I know that's like an extreme version of being a doctor and saving lives, but at the same time, I think it's really helped me to reconcile, like, God gives us gifts and desires to help us on our path and we create value. Money is just going to come to you, like, can. You can't stop it if you're willing to put that value out there. It's going to come to you one way or another if you're willing to receive that and keep progressing. So I feel like those have been some good ways to help me work through those. Those challenging situations. And it's always evolving. Like, I'm not just, like, good with money now, you know, I. I feel like I. I'm always working on that and continuing to, like, be aware of where my thoughts are around it to make sure I'm in a place that I want to be.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: Yeah, it's interesting because usually those people are the ones with the scarcity mindset because they don't want to pay for something or how can they get something without even the actual value for that? Yeah, because if you think that, you know, there's so many examples of people that they do make money money with the gifts that they have. A good cook, a race car driver, a basketball player. All of those are making money with the talents and the gifts that they decided to develop. Right?

Yeah. So true.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: That's interesting. And it's. It's so funny, huh? Yeah. So now that you have kids and you have some. They're bonus kids and you have your own, what do you teach your kids about money and how has your development influenced how you do it?

I definitely teach them that abundance in money, like, there's enough and money is easy. It's not something that has to be hard. I. One belief I see show up in a lot of people is like, if you want to make a lot of money, it has to be like, super hard and challenging and grit and all that. And then it causes them to be blocked from things that are easy or that they really would help them on their path. So anyway, money's easy and then also budgeting and just using your money wisely. My husband does really well on the other side of things, like opening up a CD with his kids or teaching them about that, or, you know, he's been talking to his son about an IRA and starting that now rather than waiting for 10 years. And so I think my husband and I are really good on that aspect of being able to use the money we have as well to invest and continue to grow it and invest in things that we believe in. And then also giving, like being very willing to give. That's big for me. I love, like when I have had a friend that her husband was going through medical school, that every so often I could just give them a big chunk of money and say, hey, this is just for you guys and, and know that that means something to them and that it was okay for me to give to them. So I think really giving money as well. And then like you had said about, you know, like the entrepreneur side. Funny, my mom, um, she was an entrepreneur and their business, and many one of her businesses did okay, and then the other ones she tried didn't do well. And I remember being like, I'm never going to be an entrepreneur just because I watched like, the struggles and how hard and. And it's funny because me and my two sisters, we are all entrepreneurs. My sister has an interior design business. My other sister was a property management owner. She just sold her business and now I'm doing my energy work and life coaching. And so it's so funny that we're all, all entrepreneurs. And so I just think being able to teach, like, yeah, revenue and, you know, the basis of how money works and the mathematical part of it, which just makes it so simple to look at it and say, oh, yeah, this is just math. Like, we don't need to have drama around money. This is just how it works. There's always enough and we'll always figure it out. Additionally, I believe a lot in the law of tithing. And so, and my husband and I both have very strong, strong beliefs in that. And that's something that we've talked about a lot. And I feel like we also gained testimonies of that from our parents because our parents both were very strong in paying tithing. So that's another way of, of how I teach my children about money as well.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: Yeah, it's great because when you teach about fighting, you're teaching about how they can use their resources even without a part of it that you already gave it away. And it's a practice of generosity because you're learning how to give. We're giving to the church. Give back to the Lord. The Lord doesn't need our money, but it's like our gratitude there. It helps them to see that's important. Yeah. Was there anything particularly that you taught your kids that you gave them advice and they. Do they usually follow your advice or how do you reconcile when they don't Yeah, I.

My stepdaughter, when she was maybe like 10, and my stepson was about 7, we would go to Nickel City with them some sometimes, and my husband would be like, watch what happens with their money. And my stepdaughter, she would just, you know, bend all of it, spend all of her ticket, and that's the stepson he saved. And there was always a joke, like, she would always say, oh, one day Luke's going to be paying for all of my stuff because I won't have any money, you know, But I think, you know, I. I kind of stepped back a little bit. They aren't my kids. Like, I. I just supported my husband in that. But just watching him talk to them about my money, and I know their mom did a great job also talking to them about it, but now seeing them, so, you know, she would spend a lot and not have anything and want something. You don't have any money to spend. You know, stepson, it's almost like you want to tell them, go spend a little more, like, it's okay to use that money. But now watching them and how much money they've saved, and she was just recently got a car and was able to put most of the money down on that. That. And they both opened up CDs with money they saved. And so I think, you know, when they were younger, yeah, there was a little bit of. Of course, like, I just want to spend the money I have. But now watching them save and then use it wisely and see how money works has been really awesome to watch with that.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: Yeah, it's great. That harmony, Right. Between spending and saving and giving, because, I don't know, balance is very difficult to find. There are certain areas or periods of seasons of our lives where we need to spend a little more or we need to save a little more. Right. So finding that harmony is important. And it looks like your husband is intentional about doing that for his kids. Yeah. How about your girls? Your girls are little, but do you already plant a little seed there?

Yeah, I am. They're so little, but when things come up that it's natural, I will say little things like, money is easy and money is a tool. Like, I'll just use those phrases that I really believe in. And even talking about tithing, especially with our two and a half year old, we'll talk to her about tithing and how that works. And I. I think, yeah, their brains are developing so much right now and they take so much in. And so I believe giving them a good, clean Money mindset is powerful, can be really powerful.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: How do you, how do you deal with this fact that we don't use as much cash anymore? Because cash was going to be something really tactile that you can use to show and, and let them learn that way or go to the store and spend. But now we use a lot of debit cards or money that's digital. Right. How do you, how did you reconcile your mind about that? How do you handle that?

Yeah, one thing my husband does that I actually, I think is pretty good. He still balances his checkbook every. He doesn't use checks, but he balances like his bank account to make sure everything he spent is like coming in and out. And he also track. He works for the government, he's an air traffic controller and he tracks like all the hours he worked and make sure that that's what he got paid for. And every so often he'll find an incorrect entry or something. So I think, yeah, definitely, that's so true. Like, we don't have the actual cash to be able to show that way. But I think there's still other ways to show the ins and outs of it and be able to teach them. Like this goes in and this comes out and you, you've got to see the balance there and also what you have left over.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: Right. And then there's.

Yeah, I'm sure over time, once they get older too, it's going to be even difficult, different.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: And right now my youngest already is using a debit card and she buying things online. And even though I give her cash to do things, so she doesn't have a card that's going to be lost or something. But she's learning both. And my oldest daughter was so mad. She was like, how come she has a debit card? How come she has an Amazon account as well? Because times are different right now. Yeah, seven years ago, it was a very different time than what we have right now, especially after the pandemic where everybody decided to go virtual mostly. But it's important. And we always have that conversation about how when you spend, when it's digital or a card, you spend more. So we have to talk about the tricks and how they, they try to trick people to buy, to purchase things. She already has one of the learnings. She came to me to a site that was super cheap for a bunch of clothes from China. She's like, I want to buy this, I want to buy this. Okay, sure, we'll do that. And then clothes never showed up. Yeah, like, if it's not a reliable website or something that you can assure that's, you know, true or it's not. So we have to talk about a lot more about those. Those parts.

Yes, totally. That's so true. My. My husband and I definitely. My husband, I feel like, has a belief like everyone's out to scam me, you know, And I swear it's. It's so true. With your thoughts, he finds the websites that will scam him. He's got more scams. And I don't believe that. I just think like, oh, there's probably some that do that, but I. I can find the ones that. That don't. And I'm capable.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: Yeah.

Barely ever. So it's interesting when we have those thoughts, we really do find the evidence either way, one way or the other.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: Right. It's so interesting. So teaching them about what to look for in a good site, in a good purchase, it's so key. Especially right now.

Yes.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: Now. What was one of the hardest parts of your life with money? Was there a season? Maybe? Did you go to college? Or maybe when you get out, how's something that you faced that was really difficult, a difficult time for you?

Yeah. Two times come to mind. One is actually right now, and it's really showing me where I still have some money work to do. But I got married in my early 30s and so I was pretty well established. I had a good income, My husband has a good income. We have our own bank accounts still. Because of that, we just, it was never a problem. We just, okay, I'll pay for this, you pay for that. And now since having children, I've, you know, backed off on my hours and I can really feel it creeping in. Like I don't have enough. I don't have like that the fears that are there. And I know logically I'm like, we are totally fine, like, but those fears really creep in and then really balancing out my value values of like, okay, how much do I value work? Which I do. I love working. I think it's important for me to work. It's part of something that I enjoy and, and I want to do and then how much time spending with my children, which I also value. So it's been little increments. Like I've slowly backed off working. I have another job that I work at that I've worked for almost 15 years. I've just been slowly backing off on my hours. And it's just been. It's been a big event involvement for me. So on the outside, I think People would be like, oh, that's silly. But it's been challenging. A, you know, working mother and trying to really balance that in a way that I feel is true to myself and, you know, kind of getting rid of all the voices in the world that say, just work, you're fine, or you should be home with your kids. That's the most important thing. You know, just being able to balance what feels right for me.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: And that is. That is difficult.

Yeah. Another time was when my parents owned that. The skating rink I. I spoke of, and they didn't leased it for a year. The people that leased it to him, I believe, kind of lied on the financials. And so it was not making money like they thought it was. And I remember I wake up in the middle of the night to my dad leaving the house, and he would go on walks. And I. He never talked to me about his stresses with money, but I would just see moments like that where I knew that he was stressed about money. And I would talk to my older sister and she would maybe inform me more of what was going on. But. But I wasn't scared about losing our house or anything. I think I just felt more compassion and like, concern for my parents and like, what they were experiencing as they were trying to figure out the money situation. So thankfully, I. I have. I've always believed I'd have enough, you know, my needs would be met. But yeah, just the fears around what other people and how they experience the loss in money, so.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: Right. It's interesting because you talked about how right now that you're working less because having children and being a mother, you don't see the ev in the bank account. Right. You don't see those numbers. That's why it brings that that thought in you. And maybe it could be a time where maybe you haven't combined, but maybe if you combine right now, having those numbers bigger because you're combining with your husband could be a good transition there. And then once your business makes a lot of money, then you have it that separate. That way you never use your personal money into your business, which is so tempting to do, especially in the beginning. I see that for me, trying to get from one place to another usually take. Or if you have lots more money in your business, but you know, you have certain things that you have to do with that money. It's not free money for you to get and use it in your personal life.

A lot of entrepreneurs, that's a really good idea. I like that a lot.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: So I have. So think about A mother who's going through some of the same things you're doing right now where trying to grow their business. They're at home, they want to be home with their kids, but they're also working and they used to be independent and pay for their own things, and they're seeing that money dwindle a little bit. Bit. Because, you know, that situation that you're facing right now, what kind of advice would you give to that mother?

I. First and foremost, I would have compassion for them, validate them all that they're experiencing and that totally normal to be feeling any discord at this time. And then I think, really just quieting all of the other voices and listening to yourself and connecting with God and knowing what's right for you and. And then living that. Whatever you feel right about living it like it is the best and the right thing. Because what I come back to always is if I'm over here questioning all the time, if I'm, oh, should I be home? Should I be working? Like, if I'm questioning that so much, it's going to show up in my business. It's going to show up with my kids where I care a lot. You know, I. I want to show up for my kids as the best mom. And so I've really been talking to my kids a lot, lot about, like, mom really likes to work. I feel like it makes me a better mother. I love spending time with you, I love being with you, and I love working. And it's something that I feel like is important for me to do. And I'm figuring out the balance of all that. And so just being open with them as well, even though they're so little, I really feel like they understand, they take it in. And then my kids are the most important. And so there's times where I have to let work go for a minute. It. But overall, I just, I. Living what you believe, right. Really, really finding a solid belief that you feel good about and then living that way because everybody else has all the opinions in the world. There's studies for everything. Right.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: Like the other. Right. Yeah. Yeah.

Like, you didn't work as a mom, you're ruining your kids. Oh, you worked as a mom. You're ruining your kids. You know, like, there's just everything. So you really. Yeah, you just really, really have to find what you feel good about and really solidifying that belief so you can show up 100% in all the areas that you feel like you should be in.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: Yes. And it's important because I see from you that once you're at work, you're at work. Once you're at home, you're home without that regret of not being in one place or the other. That way you show up better as you're focused. That moment is there. I find that it's one of the hardest things for me is because I carry work from me to home or the other way around. And it makes it difficult sometimes to be present. So distractions, the phone, the access to email, all the time and all the other things that we use as a tool to promote. Right. It sometimes can be difficult. So I love that, starting with compassion. Because if we blame ourselves, if we're always in that, that or even scarcity of time, there's no time to do both, or I shouldn't be doing both. That makes it so difficult. Right? Yep.

That's so true.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: So for us to finish, I have a few rapid fire questions and just a couple. What is one of those things that you spend money that you bought that you think it was one of the wor. Worst decisions, One of the worst purchases do you ever make? It could be anything.

One of the worst purchases, I can't. Oh, I have some light fixtures. I'm like, what's something in my house or something? There's some light fixtures. I know that's a silly one, but there's some light fixtures in my home that I'm like, not a good purchase.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: Yeah, Sometimes we buy thinking that they're gonna do something amazing like, oh, this was not so good.

And I think I just bought them to fill a space. Right. Like, oh, I have, I have to put light fixed pictures there. So I just hurry up and bought something without like letting it be blank for a while. Anyway, that's one of my favorite purchases in my home.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: How about on the other side? Something that you purchased that you didn't spend a whole lot of money or didn't think about it and it was, it turned out to be a great purchase.

Let's see. One of the things I think of right, I'm. I'm in my office and in my, I'm in my home office and I have something that covers my windows up here. It's like the silliest thing that covers it up, but it's like perfect and it's made a huge difference. I also have a stroller that's in front of me here. That double stroller that I feel like was one of the best purchases I've made as well. So for my mental health and also getting the Kids out on walk, but those are a couple of them.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: That's funny.

Yeah.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: It gave so much benefit. Right. You were expecting. Didn't think it was be that great. Going to be that great. But it turned out to be great.

Yes.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: So Mary, just. I'm so grateful they spend this time talking to us and sharing so many things are so helpful for my listeners. How about just at the end, just share a little bit about your practice, how people can find you. I know you get lots of referrals, but is there a way that people can find you and listen to you or just have a session with you? Maybe see that that's for them?

Yeah, for sure. The best way to contact me is through Instagram and my Instagram handle is Livy Awake with Maren. That's M A R E N. Or you can email me@livingawakewithmarenmail.com and you can message me and set something up or get more information about my energy work. I'm hoping to do some videos here soon so people can kind of see a little more how I do it. I think some people are like, what does that even mean? So trying to give a little more insight, but I don't think I've really. They'd never told me, but I've never had anyone regret having a session. You know, they're always pretty interested and like, oh, wow, I didn't realize that you would be able to look in things that way. And it's not scary. You just have to show up or let me work on you and that's all that you have to do. So great.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: And it's not contrary to the church. People get concerned about life coaching and some of the tools that we learn about or things that we learn and we end up, end up using in our practices that they're against the church and they're not. They're just a tool. Just like money.

Totally. And I will say doing the energy work that I do, energy awareness has made my testimony of church strengthen more than anything else, which has been wonderful. So I loved it.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: Yeah, same. Same with the life coaching tools. For me, I just those just help me learn and how to live the gospel better.

Yes, yes, totally.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: All right. Thank you so much, Marian. Have a wonderful day and I really appreciate your time.

Thanks, Madeline. See ya.

[CFM COACH ASSISTANT AI ]: Thank you.

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