A gay man challenges what masculinity actually means in gay dating culture, arguing that the "masc" label often masks internalized homophobia and misogyny. He asks why hyper-alpha personas appeal to us and what that says about our own psychology.
So when gay men say things like femme, right, masc for masc, or I'm a masculine guy, or I'm looking for masculine guys, I don't think that they actually really know what they mean. And I think we need to get granular and specific, right? I think what a lot of gay men mean by masculine is macho, is bravado, is a performative alpha. Straight acting. Like role play, a straight acting type thing. But for me, that, that's not masculinity. That is macho, alpha, straight acting. So, and then you look at, well, why? So let's explore why those things turn you on, right? It's probably that you've got some internalized homophobia, some internalized misogyny, or you've got daddy issues like me. Again, like, you've got to be willing to explore it. Like, I get it if you've got preferences and certain things turn you on and certain
