Dallas Bragg says sober sex starts with radical honesty about fears, desires, and boundaries. Real intimacy means fearless conversations before anything physical happens. He warns against becoming sexually anorexic in sobriety, calling it work that requires bravery and truth-telling without shame.
You have to ask yourself one big honest question. Am I ready to experiment with sober sex? And ready does not mean am I horny? Ready means am I ready to be 100% radically honest? Am I ready to be transparent? Am I ready to be vulnerable? Because hear me, those questions are where intimacy begins. Not with the sex, with how willing you are to have deep conversations about your fear, about what you want, and to stand your ground about your boundaries. It means being brave enough to speak your truth without hesitating. That radical honesty. It means not being afraid of being too much or too needy or being a burden on somebody. This is your sex life at stake here. Do not be meek about it. You do not want to be sexually anorexic for the rest of your sober life. This is serious work.
