Dallas Bragg argues that nice means avoiding hurt through ghosting and excuses, while kind means telling someone directly you're not interested. Kindness attracts people who communicate honestly, he says, leading to healthier relationships.
Hey, are you nice or are you kind? Let me tell you the difference. And I see this a lot, uh, when I was dating. Nice would be trying not to hurt my feelings. And so I think that's a principle around sometimes ghosting. Instead of, you know, speaking your truth, it's easier to just ghost. Kind is authentic love. So kind would be, you know what? I'm just not interested in you. We're not a match. The same thing goes with texting. Like, oh, I've been so busy, this and that. You're trying not to hurt their feelings. You're trying not to make them feel like you purposely left them out. But kind would be, you know what? I haven't made you a priority lately. There's a difference there. And when I started being kind instead of nice, I'm telling the universe that I want more people in my life Who are the same way that attract?
