Dallas Bragg tells people stuck in relationships with narcissists to stop asking why they're targeted and start asking why they're drawn to them. The real work is understanding what unmet needs or beliefs you're trying to satisfy, and what part of yourself you think needs to be controlled.
So for instance, if you tell me your last 3 relationships have been with narcissists and you're taking the victim standpoint of why do they keep targeting me, you're not gonna get anywhere. The real answer is when you say, why am I needing a narcissist? What am I getting from that? Why am I calling them in? What about me do I think needs to be controlled or manipulated or lied to? What not enough belief have I adopted about myself that I need a narcissist? That's the true question. That's the deep question. Because when you start asking those questions, that's when the real change happens. The transformation of your life occurs and you start creating your reality because you're responding to life in a more self-aware, curious way instead of blaming everybody else. Claiming your power is power over your response to life.
