Dallas Bragg compares boundaries to a garden fence that controls what enters your life. He recommends cleaning your physical space and restricting access to dating apps and porn to remove chemsex triggers, but warns that unenforced boundaries destroy self-trust. Start small and keep every promise to yourself.
But a boundary is there so you can cultivate your garden. What's allowed in, what's not allowed in. What does your world look like? What does it look like physically, by the way? What's your space look like? Is this the space where you're used? Then can you look around your room or your house and visualize chemsex experiences from the past? If so, change it around, change it up. Look at your physical space, cleaning out your closets, cleaning up your yard, putting up some paint on the wall maybe, or something, something that is symbolically and energetically clearing the space. And then the boundary comes into play when you say, this is mine. The boundary is there will be no chemsex here. There will be no behaviors here that look like my past self. That's my boundary. Here are my values. This is what's allowed in here. So you could begin simply with boundaries. Boundaries with dating apps, boundaries with porn, boundaries with how you spend your time, and you stick to that. You have to start small with boundaries because if you begin to set boundaries and you don't enforce them, you're just confirming to yourself that you can't trust yourself. You're wasting your breath and your time.
