Dallas BraggFormer crystal methamphetamine user, I help men who have sex with men break free from the addictive patterns associated with Chemsex. Currently expanding my expertise by seeking to become a Certified

Let me tell you about a client I'll call Stuart. Stuart was in early recovery, and like a lot of gay

4 Jul 2026 · 1 min

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In this spoken monologue, Dallas Bragg shares the story of a client he calls Stuart, who is in early recovery from chemsex—a pattern where sex and drugs, particularly meth, were intertwined for many gay men. After becoming meth‑free, Stuart feels pressure to prove his recovery by having "sober sex," turning sexual encounters into performance tests where the partner becomes a prop rather than a source of connection. Although he succeeds in the act, the experience leaves him empty because it lacks genuine intimacy. The turning point arrives when Stuart shifts his focus from the act of sex to expressing his truth, setting firm boundaries, and engaging in difficult conversations. This authenticity attracts men who are also ready for deeper connection, allowing Stuart to experience emotional intimacy he previously thought impossible. The monologue ends with a reflective question about what people truly seek in sober sex and an invitation to comment "group" to learn about a group coaching program.

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I want to tell you about a client I'll call Stuart. Stuart was in early recovery from chemsex, and like a lot of gay men coming out of that, sex and drugs had been fused together for him for years. So once he got meth-free, there was a pressure to prove he was fixed by having sex without it. It became a test, a trophy, but that turned the other person into a prop. It made intimacy a performance. Instead of connection. And even when Stuart passed the test by having sex, it didn't give him what he was actually craving underneath— true intimacy and connection. The shift happened when Stuart stopped focusing on sex and more on stating his truth, setting strong boundaries, and having difficult conversations. When those practices came forward, Those men in his life who were ready for true intimacy, who were at that level and wanted that kind of connection, stuck around and honored Stuart's authenticity. That led him to find an emotional connection that he thought never possible. So what are you truly seeking when you say you want sober sex? Could intimacy actually begin when you connect with your authentic self? If this resonates with you, why not comment the word group below and find out more about our group coaching program?