Dallas BraggFormer crystal methamphetamine user, I help men who have sex with men break free from the addictive patterns associated with Chemsex. Currently expanding my expertise by seeking to become a Certified

Loneliness Is Internal

14 Apr 2026 · 1 min

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In this monologue, Dallas Bragg argues that loneliness is fundamentally an internal issue rather than a social one. He explains that the feeling of distance from others stems from internal fragmentation—parts of the self that have been exiled, a concept drawn from Internal Family Systems (IFS). The more a person is internally divided, the more their external world appears fragmented, creating a mirror effect where the outer reality reflects inner separation. Bragg emphasizes that even when surrounded by love, a person can feel unreachable because the part of them capable of receiving love has been locked away and rejected.

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But here's what almost nobody tells you. The reason the external world feels so distant is because there's already so much distance inside you. That's where you look first. Loneliness at its root is not a social problem. It's the experience of internal separation, the accumulated space between you and the parts of yourselves that you've taught to exile, as they call it in Internal Family Systems. And the more fragmented you are on the inside, the more fragmented mirror the outside, the external reality becomes the internal. It's the internal first. The internal is the cause. The external is the effect. As above, so below. So you can be surrounded by people who love you and still feel completely unreachable because the part of you that knows how to receive love in that circumstance has been locked away and rejected.