A speaker explains how to become a healthy observer of your own thoughts and cravings without getting pulled into them. Instead of shame and self-punishment, the practice uses curiosity and detachment, like holding a craving in your hand to examine it from all angles.
Keeping in mind as well that any part of your, any part of sort of self-development, any part of like any evolution or growth journey really is about trying to become unblended with all the shit that's going on in your head and become, it's like I use the word healthy observer. Any sort of therapeutic modality will use that terminology. It'll have a different version of that. Yeah. Yeah. But healthy observer is my terminology. So we're trying to like rise above and be able to look down upon what's going on, right? And observe all the parts of me without being blended with them. And I think cravings, absolutely. Like, like if we can incorporate a Craving. Let's think about cravings as we think about emotions, and I think that's a really powerful way. So again, I'm observing it. You might even think about holding it in your hand and like trying to look at it from all angles. It's like let me become curious, right? So I think for me, a large part of my recovery, like just approach in general, I think passively people absorb this idea that they need to sort of like punish and shame themselves into quitting or into getting better. We can blame partially the program for that, but also there's just an inherent state in a lot of us to be self-critical and self-judgmental and all that kind of stuff. This idea of shaming and punishing myself into a better future, it just doesn't work.
